Meaning
A situation needs two people to be involved, so both share responsibility.
Cultural Background
In American politics, this phrase is frequently used by commentators to describe gridlock in Washington D.C., suggesting that both parties are responsible for the lack of progress. While the idiom is English, Argentines are very proud of the tango. If you use this phrase with an Argentine, they might take the opportunity to tell you about the history of the actual dance! In the UK, the phrase is often used with a bit of 'dry' or 'understated' humor to de-escalate a tense situation without being too direct. Because Japanese culture highly values 'Wa' (harmony), the equivalent 'clapping' proverb is often used to remind people that maintaining peace is a shared responsibility.
Use it to be diplomatic
If you want to tell someone they are wrong without being too mean, use this phrase to suggest that *both* of you are responsible.
Don't use for crimes
Never use this if someone is a victim of a crime. It sounds like you are blaming the victim.
Meaning
A situation needs two people to be involved, so both share responsibility.
Use it to be diplomatic
If you want to tell someone they are wrong without being too mean, use this phrase to suggest that *both* of you are responsible.
Don't use for crimes
Never use this if someone is a victim of a crime. It sounds like you are blaming the victim.
Shorten it
In casual English, just saying 'Takes two to tango' sounds very natural and native-like.
Test Yourself
Choose the best situation to use the phrase 'It takes two to tango.'
Which of these scenarios fits the idiom?
The idiom requires two people involved in a shared situation, like an argument or a project.
Complete the sentence with the correct words.
Don't just blame Sarah for the fight. After all, it _____ _____ to tango.
The standard form of the idiom uses the verb 'takes.'
Match the response to the statement.
Statement: 'I can't believe the merger failed! It's all their fault!'
The phrase is used to suggest that both sides likely contributed to the failure.
Finish the dialogue naturally.
A: 'He's so annoying, he always starts arguments with me!' B: 'Well, you always argue back instead of walking away. Remember, ________.'
This is the most natural way to point out that the speaker is also participating in the conflict.
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Visual Learning Aids
Practice Bank
4 exercisesWhich of these scenarios fits the idiom?
The idiom requires two people involved in a shared situation, like an argument or a project.
Don't just blame Sarah for the fight. After all, it _____ _____ to tango.
The standard form of the idiom uses the verb 'takes.'
Statement: 'I can't believe the merger failed! It's all their fault!'
The phrase is used to suggest that both sides likely contributed to the failure.
A: 'He's so annoying, he always starts arguments with me!' B: 'Well, you always argue back instead of walking away. Remember, ________.'
This is the most natural way to point out that the speaker is also participating in the conflict.
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Frequently Asked Questions
10 questionsNot always, but about 80% of the time it is used to talk about blame or arguments. It can be used positively for a successful partnership, but that's less common.
People sometimes say this as a joke if three people are involved, but the standard idiom is always 'two.'
Yes, if you are talking about teamwork or resolving a past conflict. It shows you understand that cooperation is a two-way street.
In this phrase, 'to tango' acts as a verb (the infinitive form).
The phrase has nothing to do with your personal feelings about the dance! It's purely a metaphor for any two-person activity.
No, it is still very common in modern movies, TV shows, and daily conversation.
Yes, 'it takes two' is often just a shorter version of this full proverb.
No, it specifically refers to a pair (two people or two sides). For a group, you might say 'it takes a village.'
It is better for a persuasive or informal essay. In a very formal academic paper, use 'mutual responsibility' instead.
The tango is known for its passion and the need for very close coordination/tension, which makes it a better metaphor for conflict than a waltz.
Related Phrases
It takes two to make a quarrel
similarAn older version of the same idea.
Both sides of the coin
similarConsidering two different perspectives.
Six of one, half a dozen of the other
similarTwo things are essentially the same.
Birds of a feather flock together
contrastPeople who are similar spend time together.
