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B1 Intermedio Inglés 11:48 Educational

The Science Behind Dramatically Better Conversations | Charles Duhigg | TED

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00:05

So I'm going to ask you to participate in an experiment,

00:10

which is that when you leave this room,

00:12

when you go out into the world,

00:14

today, tomorrow, whenever you feel like it,

00:16

I'd like you to ask and answer one question

00:20

of someone who's a stranger.

00:22

You might meet them on the bus

00:23

or walking down the street.

00:25

And I'm going to show you the question

00:27

that I'm going to ask you to ask and answer.

00:29

The question is:

00:30

When was the last time you cried in front of someone?

00:34

Now just out of curiosity,

00:35

how many of you are really excited about this experiment?

00:38

No hands went up whatsoever.

00:41

And that makes sense, right?

00:43

Because, like, there can be nothing that seems more intimidating

00:46

or less fun than finding a stranger,

00:48

asking them when they've cried in front of someone else,

00:51

and then telling them about the time you cried in front of someone else.

00:54

But I'm going to try and convince you over the next few minutes

00:57

that this experiment is not only worth doing,

01:00

it’s worth doing whenever you can.

01:01

Because it will make your life better.

01:04

And to explain how I got to this,

01:06

I have to tell you a little bit of a story about me and my wife.

01:09

A few years ago, we got into this bad pattern.

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We've been married for 20 years,

01:13

but I would come home from a long day at the office.

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I was a reporter at "The New York Times" at that point,

01:18

and I would start complaining about my day,

01:20

about how I'm not appreciated enough.

01:21

And my wife, very reasonably, would offer me some great advice.

01:24

She would say something like,

01:26

“Why don’t you take your boss out to lunch,

01:28

and you guys can get to know each other a little bit better?"

01:31

And instead of being able to hear her, I would get even more upset.

01:34

I would say things like, "Why aren't you supporting me?

01:37

You should be outraged on my behalf."

01:38

And she would get upset because I was attacking her for giving me good advice.

01:42

Anyone ever had an experience like this?

01:44

It was not a good situation.

01:46

And so I started talking to researchers

01:48

who were studying communication.

01:50

I asked them, why am I getting into this pattern?

01:52

And they said, "You're making a mistake."

01:54

We're living through this golden age of understanding communication,

01:57

really for the first time

01:59

because of advances in neural imaging and data collection.

02:01

And they said, one of the big things that we've learned

02:04

is that we tend to think of a discussion as being just one conversation, right?

02:08

We're talking about one thing, my day,

02:10

or the kids' grades, what to have for dinner.

02:12

But what they said is that actually,

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