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- Means both physically being together and being in a relationship.
- Uses the verb 'sein' conjugated with the adverb 'zusammen'.
- Essential for social plans, dating status, and group activities.
Meaning
This phrase describes the act of being in the same place as others or being in a romantic relationship. It is the most common way to say you are 'with' someone, whether as friends or a couple.
Key Examples
3 of 6At a restaurant with a friend
Wir sind heute zusammen im Restaurant.
We are at the restaurant together today.
Confirming a relationship status
Seid ihr zwei eigentlich schon lange zusammen?
Have you two actually been together for a long time?
A formal meeting introduction
Schön, dass wir heute alle zusammen sind.
It is nice that we are all together today.
Cultural Background
The 'Exklusivitätsanspruch' (claim to exclusivity) is high. Once you are 'zusammen', dating others is a major taboo. In Austria, 'zusammen sein' is often used with the word 'mitanand' (together) in dialects. Swiss German speakers might use 'zäme sii' in casual conversation. Younger generations use 'zusammen sein' but also 'etwas am Laufen haben' for the stage before a committed relationship.
Add 'fest' for clarity
If you want to make sure people know you mean a serious relationship, say 'fest zusammen sein'.
Watch the Dative
Remember: 'mit' + 'dem/der/den'. 'Ich bin mit meiner Freundin zusammen.'
In 15 Seconds
- Means both physically being together and being in a relationship.
- Uses the verb 'sein' conjugated with the adverb 'zusammen'.
- Essential for social plans, dating status, and group activities.
What It Means
Zusammen sein is a versatile powerhouse in the German language. At its simplest, it means physical proximity. You are in a room with someone else. But it carries a much deeper weight too. It is the standard way to say two people are dating. If you say Wir sind zusammen, you might mean you're at the mall. Or you might mean you've been married for twenty years. Context is your best friend here. It captures the essence of human connection. It is about shared time and shared space.
How To Use It
You use this phrase by conjugating the verb sein. Use ich bin, du bist, wir sind, and so on. Place zusammen either before or after the verb depending on the sentence. In a simple statement, it usually comes at the end. For example, Wir wollen heute zusammen sein. It is very flexible with time expressions. You can add schon lange to show a long-term relationship. It feels natural and unforced in almost any sentence structure. Just remember that zusammen stays the same while sein changes.
When To Use It
Use it when meeting friends at a cozy cafe. Use it when a waiter asks if the bill is shared. It is perfect for texting a friend to see if they are free. In romantic contexts, it is the 'official' status. If someone asks Seid ihr zusammen?, they are being nosy about your love life. It is also great for family gatherings. It emphasizes the group rather than the individuals. Use it whenever the focus is on the collective experience. It warms up a conversation instantly.
When NOT To Use It
Do not use it for inanimate objects in a box. For things, use liegen or sein with a location. Avoid using it in very stiff, technical business reports. In those cases, gemeinsam or kooperieren sounds more professional. Don't use it if you just mean 'also'. That would be auch. If you are just walking past someone, you aren't zusammen. It implies a shared purpose or a shared state. Using it for a brief, accidental encounter sounds a bit creepy. Keep it for intentional connections.
Cultural Background
Germans deeply value Gemeinsamkeit, which means togetherness or sense of community. This phrase reflects that social fabric. In the 1960s and 70s, it became the standard way to describe 'unmarried couples'. Before that, terms were often more formal or judgmental. Today, it is a neutral, safe term for any kind of partnership. It avoids the heavy weight of 'marriage' while still sounding committed. There is a certain 'Gemütlichkeit' (coziness) associated with being zusammen. It suggests a safe, shared social space.
Common Variations
You will often hear zusammenkommen. This means 'to get together' or 'to meet up'. Then there is zusammenbleiben, which means 'to stay together'. If you want to be more formal, you might use gemeinsam. In slang, younger people might say wir hängen zusammen ab. This means 'we are hanging out together'. Another variation is zusammensein written as one word. This usually functions as a noun, like das Zusammensein. This refers to the concept of togetherness itself.
Usage Notes
The phrase is perfectly neutral and can be used with anyone from your boss to your partner. The only 'gotcha' is the double meaning of physical presence vs. romantic relationship, which is usually cleared up by context.
Add 'fest' for clarity
If you want to make sure people know you mean a serious relationship, say 'fest zusammen sein'.
Watch the Dative
Remember: 'mit' + 'dem/der/den'. 'Ich bin mit meiner Freundin zusammen.'
The 'Talk'
In Germany, you are often 'zusammen' after a few successful dates without a formal 'talk' like in the US.
Examples
6Wir sind heute zusammen im Restaurant.
We are at the restaurant together today.
Describes physical presence in a casual setting.
Seid ihr zwei eigentlich schon lange zusammen?
Have you two actually been together for a long time?
Inquisitive but common way to ask about dating.
Schön, dass wir heute alle zusammen sind.
It is nice that we are all together today.
Used to open a meeting or gathering warmly.
Wann sind wir morgen alle zusammen?
When will we all be together tomorrow?
Asking for a meeting time in a group chat.
Mein Hund und die Katze sind nie friedlich zusammen.
My dog and the cat are never peacefully together.
Using the phrase to describe animal interactions.
Ich bin einfach gerne mit dir zusammen.
I just like being together with you.
A sincere expression of affection.
Test Yourself
Fill in the correct form of 'sein' and 'zusammen'.
Wir ___ seit drei Monaten ___. (We have been together for three months.)
The subject 'Wir' requires the verb form 'sind'.
Which sentence means 'They are a couple'?
Choose the correct option:
'Fest zusammen sein' specifically refers to a romantic relationship.
Complete the dialogue.
A: Wo seid ihr? B: Wir ___ gerade ___ im Park.
To describe location, use 'sein' + 'zusammen'.
Match the sentence to the context.
Sentence: 'Wir sind seit der {die|f} Grundschule zusammen.'
This implies a long-term connection starting in primary school.
🎉 Score: /4
Visual Learning Aids
Zusammen vs. Allein
Practice Bank
4 exercisesWir ___ seit drei Monaten ___. (We have been together for three months.)
The subject 'Wir' requires the verb form 'sind'.
Choose the correct option:
'Fest zusammen sein' specifically refers to a romantic relationship.
A: Wo seid ihr? B: Wir ___ gerade ___ im Park.
To describe location, use 'sein' + 'zusammen'.
Sentence: 'Wir sind seit der {die|f} Grundschule zusammen.'
This implies a long-term connection starting in primary school.
🎉 Score: /4
Frequently Asked Questions
10 questionsNo, it can also mean being in the same place. Context is key.
Yes, for physical location: 'Wir sind zusammen im Park.' But 'Wir sind zusammen' usually implies dating.
'Ein Paar sein' is more formal and explicit. 'Zusammen sein' is more common in speech.
Use 'Wir sind nicht mehr zusammen.'
As a verb phrase, it's two words. As a noun, it's one: 'das Zusammensein'.
It's better to use 'zusammenarbeiten' (to work together).
It is neutral. You can use it with friends or in a documentary.
Always the dative case.
Yes, it tells the waiter you are one group and want one table.
You can ask: 'Bist du mit jemandem zusammen?'
Related Phrases
zusammenkommen
similarto get together
auseinandergehen
contrastto break up
zusammenarbeiten
specialized formto work together
ein Paar sein
synonymto be a couple
mit jemandem gehen
similarto date someone