In 15 Seconds
- Place it at the start of a verb to be polite.
- Means both 'please' and 'to invite' depending on context.
- Essential for restaurants, taxis, and meeting new people.
Meaning
It is the magic word for 'please' and 'invite.' You use it to show respect when asking for a favor or offering something to others.
Key Examples
3 of 6Inviting someone into your home
请进!
Please come in!
Ordering coffee at a cafe
请给我一杯咖啡。
Please give me a cup of coffee.
Asking a question to a stranger
请问,洗手间在哪儿?
Excuse me, where is the restroom?
Cultural Background
The 'fight for the bill' is a real social phenomenon. If someone says '{我|wǒ}{请客|qǐngkè},' they are asserting their role as the host and gaining 'face.' Politeness markers like {请|qǐng} and {不好意思|bùhǎoyìsi} are used very frequently in daily life, often even more so than in some mainland regions, reflecting a very soft and indirect communication style. In meetings, {请|qǐng} is used to manage the flow of conversation. '{请|qǐng}{讲|jiǎng}' (Please speak) is a common way for a chairperson to invite someone to share their thoughts. While you don't use {请|qǐng} for every small thing at home, children are taught to use it when serving tea or food to elders as a sign of 'xiao' (filial piety).
The 'Treat' Power Move
If you want to build a relationship in China, being the first to say '{我|wǒ}{请客|qǐngkè}' is a powerful way to show sincerity.
Don't be a 'Please' Robot
With very close friends, overusing {请|qǐng} can make you seem cold. Use '{帮|bāng}{我|wǒ}{一下|yíxià}' instead.
In 15 Seconds
- Place it at the start of a verb to be polite.
- Means both 'please' and 'to invite' depending on context.
- Essential for restaurants, taxis, and meeting new people.
What It Means
请 is your ultimate politeness tool in Chinese. It translates to 'please,' but it also means 'to invite.' Think of it as a verbal bow. It softens your requests and shows you have good manners. It is the first word you say to make a good impression.
How To Use It
Put 请 at the very beginning of a sentence. It works like a prefix for actions. If you want someone to sit, say 请坐. If you want them to enter, say 请进. It is simple, punchy, and effective. You do not need complex grammar to sound like a pro.
When To Use It
Use it whenever you need something from someone else. Use it at a restaurant when ordering your spicy noodles. Use it in a taxi when giving directions. Use it when meeting your partner's parents for the first time. It is even great for texting when you are asking a quick favor. It turns a command into a polite suggestion.
When NOT To Use It
Do not use it with very close friends for tiny things. If you ask a best friend to pass the salt, 请 might sound too distant. It can feel like you are putting up a wall. Also, do not put it at the end of a sentence like in English. Saying 'Help me, please' translates to 请帮我, not '帮我请'. That would just sound confusing!
Cultural Background
Chinese culture places huge value on 'mianzi' or face. Using 请 gives the other person face. It shows you recognize their effort. Historically, it relates to the concept of hosting and hospitality. Even if you are just asking for the time, you are 'inviting' them to help you. It is a small word with a long history of social harmony.
Common Variations
If you want to be extra fancy, use 请问 to say 'Excuse me, may I ask.' If you are paying for dinner, say 我请客. That literally means 'I invite the guest,' but everyone knows it means 'It is on me!' You can also use 请求 for a more serious, formal plea. But for daily life, the single character 请 is your best friend.
Usage Notes
The phrase is neutral and safe for almost any situation. Just remember that in Chinese, the 'please' comes before the action, never after.
The 'Treat' Power Move
If you want to build a relationship in China, being the first to say '{我|wǒ}{请客|qǐngkè}' is a powerful way to show sincerity.
Don't be a 'Please' Robot
With very close friends, overusing {请|qǐng} can make you seem cold. Use '{帮|bāng}{我|wǒ}{一下|yíxià}' instead.
The Hand Gesture
When saying '{请|qǐng}' to invite someone in or to sit, use an open palm gesture, not a pointing finger.
Combining with 'Wen'
Always use {请问|qǐngwèn} when talking to staff in shops or restaurants; it's the gold standard for politeness.
Examples
6请进!
Please come in!
A standard, warm way to welcome a guest.
请给我一杯咖啡。
Please give me a cup of coffee.
Standard way to order politely in service settings.
请问,洗手间在哪儿?
Excuse me, where is the restroom?
Using 'please ask' is the standard way to say 'excuse me'.
请帮我一下,谢谢!
Please help me for a second, thanks!
Softens the request in a digital chat.
今天我请客!
Today is my treat!
A very popular phrase to show generosity.
请告诉我发生了什么。
Please tell me what happened.
Shows sincerity and care in a difficult moment.
Test Yourself
Fill in the blank to say 'Please drink water.'
___ {喝|hē}{水|shuǐ}。
{请|qǐng} is used at the start of a sentence to make a polite offer.
Match the phrase to the situation.
You want to pay for your friend's dinner.
{请客|qǐngkè} literally means 'invite guest' and is used when you are paying.
Complete the dialogue politely.
Stranger: (Looking lost) ... You: {请问|qǐngwèn},{你|nǐ}{需要|xūyào}{帮助|bāngzhù}{吗|ma}?
{请问|qǐngwèn} is the standard way to politely initiate a question with a stranger.
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Visual Learning Aids
The Three Faces of {请|qǐng}
Request
- • {请|qǐng}{帮|bāng}{我|wǒ}
- • {请|qǐng}{说|shuō}
Offer
- • {请|qǐng}{喝|hē}{茶|chá}
- • {请|qǐng}{坐|zuò}
Treat
- • {我|wǒ}{请客|qǐngkè}
- • {请|qǐng}{你|nǐ}{吃饭|chīfàn}
Practice Bank
3 exercises___ {喝|hē}{水|shuǐ}。
{请|qǐng} is used at the start of a sentence to make a polite offer.
You want to pay for your friend's dinner.
{请客|qǐngkè} literally means 'invite guest' and is used when you are paying.
Stranger: (Looking lost) ... You: {请问|qǐngwèn},{你|nǐ}{需要|xūyào}{帮助|bāngzhù}{吗|ma}?
{请问|qǐngwèn} is the standard way to politely initiate a question with a stranger.
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Frequently Asked Questions
8 questionsYes, if you are gesturing for someone to go ahead of you or take a seat, you can just say '{请|qǐng}!' while gesturing.
No. For 'You're welcome,' use {不客气|búkèqi} or {不用谢|búyòngxiè}.
You can say '{不用|búyòng}了,{谢谢|xièxie}。' (No need, thanks.)
No, you just say '{请|qǐng}{大家|dàjiā}...' (Please everyone...).
Absolutely. It's very common in WeChat messages to be polite.
{请|qǐng} is the everyday verb; {邀请|yāoqǐng} is more formal and often used for official invitations.
With strangers, yes. With family, no—it's actually more natural to omit it.
It's about 'Face' and showing that you are capable and generous enough to take care of your friends.
Related Phrases
{请问|qǐngwèn}
specialized formMay I ask / Excuse me
{邀请|yāoqǐng}
similarTo invite
{请客|qǐngkè}
specialized formTo treat guests
{申请|shēnqǐng}
builds onTo apply for
{请假|qǐngjià}
specialized formTo ask for leave