Signification
Refusing to give support
Contexte culturel
In the Ahilik system, 'el vermek' was the final step of graduation. If a master didn't give hand, the apprentice was stuck. This makes 'el vermemek' a very heavy term for blocking someone's career. In these spiritual traditions, 'el vermek' is the initiation into the path. Refusing to give hand means the person is not spiritually ready or has committed a wrong. Veteran singers like Sezen Aksu are famous for 'giving hand' to new artists by letting them sing on their albums. Those who don't are often criticized in tabloids. In villages, 'imece' (collective work) is vital. If a family doesn't 'give hand' to their neighbors during harvest, they are socially ostracized.
Use with Dative
Always remember to use the -a/-e suffix for the person you are (not) helping. 'Bana el ver' (Give me a hand).
Don't use for physical hands
If you are literally asking someone not to touch your hand, say 'Elimi tutma' (Don't hold my hand), not 'El verme'.
Signification
Refusing to give support
Use with Dative
Always remember to use the -a/-e suffix for the person you are (not) helping. 'Bana el ver' (Give me a hand).
Don't use for physical hands
If you are literally asking someone not to touch your hand, say 'Elimi tutma' (Don't hold my hand), not 'El verme'.
Professional Nuance
In a Turkish office, saying 'Müdür bana el vermiyor' is a very professional way to complain about lack of mentorship.
Moral Weight
Using this phrase implies the other person had a moral duty to help. Use it carefully as it can sound accusatory.
Teste-toi
Fill in the blank with the correct form of 'el vermemek'.
Zor günlerimde en yakın arkadaşım bile bana ______.
The sentence refers to a specific past event ('zor günlerimde'), so the past tense 'el vermedi' is the most natural fit.
Which situation best describes 'el vermemek'?
Aşağıdaki durumlardan hangisi 'el vermemek' deyimine uygundur?
'El vermemek' often refers to withholding mentorship or professional guidance.
Complete the dialogue.
Ayşe: 'Yeni müdür nasıl?' Mehmet: 'Hiç memnun değilim. Çok bencil, ______.'
The context is negative ('hiç memnun değilim', 'bencil'), so the negative form 'el vermiyor' is required.
Match the sentence to the context.
1. Usta çırağına el vermedi. 2. Devlet esnafa el vermedi. 3. Arkadaşım bana el vermedi.
1 matches mentorship, 2 matches economic support, 3 matches personal help.
🎉 Score : /4
Aides visuelles
Help vs. Mentorship
Banque d exercices
4 exercicesZor günlerimde en yakın arkadaşım bile bana ______.
The sentence refers to a specific past event ('zor günlerimde'), so the past tense 'el vermedi' is the most natural fit.
Aşağıdaki durumlardan hangisi 'el vermemek' deyimine uygundur?
'El vermemek' often refers to withholding mentorship or professional guidance.
Ayşe: 'Yeni müdür nasıl?' Mehmet: 'Hiç memnun değilim. Çok bencil, ______.'
The context is negative ('hiç memnun değilim', 'bencil'), so the negative form 'el vermiyor' is required.
1. Usta çırağına el vermedi. 2. Devlet esnafa el vermedi. 3. Arkadaşım bana el vermedi.
1 matches mentorship, 2 matches economic support, 3 matches personal help.
🎉 Score : /4
Questions fréquentes
10 questionsIt's not a rude phrase, but it describes a situation that is often seen as negative or selfish.
Yes, if the money is meant as a 'start-up' support or life-changing help, but not for a simple loan.
The opposite is 'el vermek' (to give a hand/support).
Very much so. It's a common way to talk about mentorship and networking.
Literally yes, but 99% of the time it's used figuratively for help.
You can say 'Bana hiç el vermedi.'
It's neutral. You can use it with friends or in a newspaper article.
The hand is the universal symbol of action and support in Turkish culture.
No, you don't 'el vermek' to a broken car. You 'el vermek' to a person.
A slang way to say someone didn't help is 'Beni taca attı' (He threw me to the touchline).
Expressions liées
el uzatmak
similarTo extend a hand (to help)
elinden tutmak
similarTo hold someone's hand (to guide them)
destek olmak
synonymTo be a support
köstek olmak
contrastTo be a hindrance
önayak olmak
builds onTo lead the way / To pioneer
