Moving Reflexive Pronouns (Infinitive & Gerund)
Grammar Rule in 30 Seconds
When using infinitives or gerunds, you can either attach the reflexive pronoun to the end or place it before the conjugated verb.
- Attach to the end: 'Quiero ducharme' (I want to shower).
- Place before: 'Me quiero duchar' (I want to shower).
- Gerunds work the same: 'Estoy bañándome' or 'Me estoy bañando'.
Overview
Spanish pronoun placement presents a unique flexibility, especially when reflexive verbs are combined with infinitives or gerunds. Reflexive verbs describe actions where the subject performs the action upon itself, such as ducharse (to shower oneself) or lavarse (to wash oneself). The reflexive pronoun (me, te, se, nos, os) always indicates who is performing this self-directed action.
Typically, when a verb is conjugated, the reflexive pronoun directly precedes it: Yo me ducho (I shower myself). However, in specific verb phrases containing a conjugated auxiliary verb followed by a reflexive infinitive (the base form, ending in -ar, -er, -ir) or a reflexive gerund (the -ing form, ending in -ando, -iendo), Spanish allows for two equally correct placement options. This dual positioning is a fundamental feature of natural Spanish communication.
A verb phrase in this context involves a conjugated verb (the auxiliary) and a non-conjugated verb (the infinitive or gerund). For instance, quiero ducharme (I want to shower myself) or estoy duchándome (I am showering myself). Understanding both positions—either before the conjugated auxiliary or attached to the non-conjugated verb—is crucial for producing fluent and authentic Spanish.
This grammatical choice allows for subtle variations in sentence rhythm and emphasis, enriching expressive capabilities.
How This Grammar Works
querer(to want to): Expresses desire. Example:Quiero lavarme las manos.(I want to wash my hands.)poder(to be able to): Indicates capability. Example:No podemos levantarnos temprano.(We can't get up early.)ir a(to be going to): Denotes future intention. Example:¿Vas a prepararte para la reunión?(Are you going to prepare yourself for the meeting?)estar(to be - for continuous actions): Used in the present progressive. Example:Están vistiéndose ahora mismo.(They are getting dressed right now.)deber(to ought to/should): Implies obligation or recommendation. Example:Debes cuidarte más.(You should take better care of yourself.)soler(to usually do): Describes habitual actions. Example:Solíamos divertirnos mucho.(We used to have a lot of fun.)
yo (I), the reflexive pronoun must be me. If the subject is tú (you, informal), it must be te.- 1Preceding the Conjugated Auxiliary Verb: The reflexive pronoun is positioned directly before the conjugated auxiliary verb. This creates a separation between the pronoun and the infinitive/gerund.
- Example:
Yo me quiero duchar.(I want to shower myself.) - Example:
Tú te estás peinando.(You are combing your hair.) - Example:
Nosotros nos vamos a sentar.(We are going to sit down.)
- 1Attached to the Infinitive or Gerund: The reflexive pronoun is appended directly to the end of the non-conjugated infinitive or gerund, forming a single word. This attachment frequently necessitates an accent mark on gerunds to preserve the original stress, a detail often overlooked by A2 learners.
- Example:
Yo quiero ducharme.(I want to shower myself.) - Example:
Tú estás peinándote.(You are combing your hair.) - Example:
Nosotros vamos a sentarnos.(We are going to sit down.)
Formation Pattern
me (myself) - for yo
te (yourself) - for tú (informal singular)
se (himself, herself, itself, yourself [formal], themselves, yourselves [formal/plural]) - for él, ella, usted, ellos, ellas, ustedes
nos (ourselves) - for nosotros/nosotras
os (yourselves - informal plural, primarily Spain) - for vosotros/vosotras
ir a (to be going to) and the reflexive infinitive levantarse (to get oneself up):
Subject + Reflexive Pronoun + Conjugated Auxiliary Verb + (a) + Infinitive / Gerund
ir a) | Infinitive (levantar) | Example Sentence |
Yo | me | voy | a levantar | Yo me voy a levantar. |
Tú | te | vas | a levantar | Tú te vas a levantar. |
Él/Ella | se | va | a levantar | Él se va a levantar. |
Nosotros | nos | vamos | a levantar | Nosotros nos vamos a levantar. |
Vosotros | os | vais | a levantar | Vosotros os vais a levantar. |
Ellos/Ellas| se | van | a levantar | Ellos se van a levantar. |
Nosotros nos estamos divirtiendo mucho. (We are having a lot of fun.) Note how the nos precedes estamos, the conjugated form of estar.
Subject + Conjugated Auxiliary Verb + (a) + Infinitive / Gerund + Reflexive Pronoun
ir a) | Infinitive (levantar) + Reflexive Pronoun | Example Sentence |
Yo | voy | a levantarme | Yo voy a levantarme. |
Tú | vas | a levantarte | Tú vas a levantarte. |
Él/Ella | va | a levantarse | Él va a levantarse. |
Nosotros | vamos | a levantarnos | Nosotros vamos a levantarnos. |
Vosotros | vais | a levantaros | Vosotros vais a levantaros. |
Ellos/Ellas| van | a levantarse | Ellos van a levantarse. |
Nosotros estamos divirtiéndonos mucho. (We are having a lot of fun.) Here, nos is attached directly to divirtiendo.
bañando, durmiendo). When a pronoun is added, the word becomes longer, and the stress would shift incorrectly without the accent. The accent mark ensures the stress remains on the same vowel as the original gerund.
bañando | me | bañandome | bañándome | Stress on a in -án- to preserve bañando |
comiendo | se | comiendose | comiéndose | Stress on e in -én- to preserve comiendo |
vistiendo | nos | vistiendonos | vistiéndonos | Stress on e in -én- to preserve vistiendo |
lavar (to wash) + se becomes lavarse. The stress correctly remains on the ar syllable. If additional pronouns were added (e.g., dárselo), an accent might be needed, but this involves direct and indirect object pronouns combined, a topic beyond the A2 scope of single reflexive pronouns.
When To Use It
- Rhythm and Flow: In sentences of varying lengths or when a particular cadence is desired, one pronoun position might simply sound better or flow more naturally. The attached form can often make a verb phrase feel like a more cohesive, single unit, especially in rapid, fluid speech. For example,
Vamos a sentarnosmight feel more integrated and quicker to pronounce thanNos vamos a sentarin casual conversation. This is less about strict grammar and more about the natural musicality of the language.
- Subtle Emphasis: While the literal meaning remains unchanged, placing the pronoun before the auxiliary can sometimes lend a very slight, almost imperceptible, emphasis to the reflexive nature of the action or to the subject itself. Conversely, the attached form can make the verb phrase feel more immediate and direct. This distinction is subtle and not a rigid rule, but it contributes to the richness of expression available to native speakers. Think of it as a slight shift in focus rather than a change in core meaning.
- Negative Sentences: When the verb phrase is negated with
no, the general rule is thatnomust always precede the conjugated verb. Importantly, the reflexive pronoun still retains its two placement options relative to the verb phrase structure. This meansnowill always come first. No me quiero duchar.(I don't want to shower.) – Here,noprecedes the conjugated verbquiero, andmeprecedesquiero.No quiero ducharme.(I don't want to shower.) – Here,noprecedesquiero, andmeis attached toduchar. Both are perfectly acceptable constructions.
- Questions: The same flexibility applies to interrogative sentences. Both options for pronoun placement are entirely valid when forming questions.
¿Te vas a levantar temprano?(Are you going to get up early?) – The pronounteprecedes the auxiliaryvas.¿Vas a levantarte temprano?(Are you going to get up early?) – The pronounteis attached to the infinitivelevantar.
- Contrast with Commands: It's crucial to differentiate this rule from pronoun placement with commands (imperative mood), where flexibility does not exist. With affirmative commands, reflexive pronouns always attach to the verb:
¡Levántate!(Get up!). With negative commands, the pronoun always precedes the verb:¡No te levantes!(Don't get up!). This strict placement in commands highlights the unique and specific flexibility offered when infinitives and gerunds follow an auxiliary verb. Understanding this contrast reinforces when you have a choice and when you don't.
Common Mistakes
- 1Pronoun-Subject Mismatch: This is arguably the most pervasive error. The reflexive pronoun must always agree with the subject performing the action. Learners frequently incorrectly use
sefor all persons or mismatch pronouns (e.g.,yowithte).
- Incorrect:
Yo quiero ducharse.(I want to shower himself/herself/yourself.) – This incorrectly uses the third-person reflexivesewith the first-person subjectyo. - Correct:
Yo quiero ducharme.(I want to shower myself.) – The pronounmecorrectly agrees withyo. - Incorrect:
Tú te vas a dormirnos.(You are going to put ourselves to sleep.) – Here,nos(ourselves) does not match the second-person subjecttú. - Correct:
Tú te vas a dormirte.(You are going to put yourself to sleep.) – The pronountecorrectly aligns withtú.
me, te, se, nos, os perfectly corresponds with yo, tú, él/ella/usted, nosotros, vosotros (or ustedes).- 1Forgetting Accent Marks on Gerunds: As previously detailed, attaching a pronoun to a gerund always requires an accent mark to preserve the original stress. Omitting this accent is a significant phonetic and orthographical error that immediately marks a non-native speaker. This isn't a mere spelling mistake; it changes how the word is intended to be pronounced.
- Incorrect:
Estamos poniendonos los zapatos.(Stress would incorrectly fall on theoofnos) - Correct:
Estamos poniéndonos los zapatos.(We are putting on our shoes.) – The accent onéensures the stress remains on theeofponiendo. - Incorrect:
Te estás sintiendote bien. - Correct:
Te estás sintiéndote bien.(You are feeling well.) – Accent onéofsintiendo.
- 1Incorrect Placement Between Verbs: A common misunderstanding is that the pronoun can be inserted anywhere within the verb phrase. This is strictly incorrect. The pronoun's position is highly constrained: it can only go before the conjugated auxiliary verb or attached to the infinitive/gerund. It cannot split the auxiliary and the non-conjugated verb.
- Incorrect:
Quiero me duchar.– The pronounmecannot be placed betweenquieroandduchar. - Correct:
Me quiero duchar.orQuiero ducharme.
- 1Double Pronoun Usage: Attempting to use the reflexive pronoun in both valid positions simultaneously is grammatically redundant and incorrect. It's like saying the same thing twice.
- Incorrect:
Me quiero ducharme.– The pronoun appears twice, both before and attached. - Correct:
Me quiero duchar.orQuiero ducharme.
- 1Confusing Reflexive with Non-Reflexive Verbs: Not every infinitive or gerund following an auxiliary verb will be reflexive. Learners sometimes incorrectly apply reflexive pronouns to verbs that are not inherently reflexive or are not being used reflexively in a given context. Only verbs that logically describe an action performed upon the subject itself will require a reflexive pronoun.
- Example 1:
Voy a estudiar.(I am going to study.) –Estudiaris not a reflexive action, so no pronoun is needed. - Example 2:
Voy a ducharme.(I am going to shower myself.) –Ducharis used reflexively here, henceme.
Real Conversations
Understanding how these pronoun placements function in modern, authentic Spanish is crucial for moving beyond textbook examples. Native speakers leverage both options naturally, often influenced by context, emphasis, and the pace of conversation.
- Casual Chat/Texting (WhatsApp):
- Amiga: ¿Qué haces? (Friend: What are you doing?)
- Tú: Me estoy preparando para salir. (You: I'm getting ready to leave.) or Tú: Estoy preparándome para salir.
- Amiga: ¿A qué hora te vas a vestir? (Friend: What time are you going to get dressed?)
- Tú: Me voy a vestir en diez minutos. (You: I'm going to get dressed in ten minutes.)
Notice the seamless alternation between attached and detached forms, often for slight variations in flow.
- Work Email (Semi-formal):
- Estimado equipo, Les escribo para informarles que nos estamos organizando para el nuevo proyecto. (Dear team, I'm writing to inform you that we are organizing ourselves for the new project.)
- Or: Estamos organizándonos para el nuevo proyecto.
Here, the choice might reflect a subtle preference for either a more formal, slightly more detached structure or a more integrated verb phrase. Both are professional.
- Instructions/Advice (Podcast/Video):
- Para relajarse, se debe tomar un tiempo para uno mismo. (To relax, one should take time for oneself.) – Uses the impersonal se with the auxiliary deber.
- También puedes relajarte escuchando música. (You can also relax by listening to music.) – The attached form in a more direct, advisory tone.
The flexibility allows for variations in tone, from general recommendation (se debe) to direct suggestion (puedes relajarte).
- Journaling/Self-reflection: In personal writing, the choice is purely stylistic, reflecting the writer's internal rhythm.
- Hoy me siento un poco cansado. Me voy a relajar más tarde. (Today I feel a bit tired. I'm going to relax later.)
- Necesito acostarme temprano esta noche. Estoy sintiéndome agotado. (I need to go to bed early tonight. I'm feeling exhausted.)
The variety keeps the prose engaging and natural, even in internal monologue. This highlights that the choice is often instinctive for natives, a testament to the language's inherent flexibility rather than a strict logical decision.
Quick FAQ
- Can I always choose either option (before or attached)?
- Does the meaning change depending on which option I choose?
- What's the hardest part about mastering this rule?
arreglándose not arreglandose). These two points are where most errors occur.- When can't I use both options?
- Single conjugated verbs: The pronoun always precedes (e.g.,
Me ducho, neverDuchome). - Commands (Imperative Mood): Affirmative commands always attach (
¡Siéntate!), while negative commands always place the pronoun before (¡No te sientes!). - After prepositions: Pronouns follow prepositions in a prepositional phrase (e.g.,
para ti,para mí), not attached to a verb within it.
- Is one option (preceding vs. attached) more common than the other?
quiero ducharme) feels slightly more common or fluid in casual speech, while the preceding form might be preferred for gerunds in some contexts, but this is a very subtle and non-prescriptive observation. The best approach for a learner is to become comfortable using both to sound more natural and fluent.- Why does Spanish have this flexibility?
Reflexive Pronoun Placement
| Subject | Conjugated Verb | Infinitive | Attached Form | Pre-verb Form |
|---|---|---|---|---|
|
Yo
|
Voy a
|
duchar
|
Voy a ducharme
|
Me voy a duchar
|
|
Tú
|
Vas a
|
lavar
|
Vas a lavarte
|
Te vas a lavar
|
|
Él/Ella
|
Va a
|
vestir
|
Va a vestirse
|
Se va a vestir
|
|
Nosotros
|
Vamos a
|
preparar
|
Vamos a prepararnos
|
Nos vamos a preparar
|
|
Vosotros
|
Vais a
|
peinar
|
Vais a peinaros
|
Os vais a peinar
|
|
Ellos
|
Van a
|
divertir
|
Van a divertirse
|
Se van a divertir
|
Meanings
This rule governs the flexible placement of reflexive pronouns (me, te, se, nos, os, se) when they accompany non-finite verb forms like infinitives or gerunds.
Infinitive attachment
Attaching the pronoun to the end of an infinitive verb.
“Necesito lavarme las manos.”
“Puedes sentarte aquí.”
Gerund attachment
Attaching the pronoun to the end of a gerund (-ando/-iendo).
“Estoy vistiéndome.”
“Sigue duchándose.”
Reference Table
| Form | Structure | Example |
|---|---|---|
|
Affirmative (Attached)
|
Verb + Infinitive + Pronoun
|
Quiero ducharme
|
|
Affirmative (Pre-verb)
|
Pronoun + Verb + Infinitive
|
Me quiero duchar
|
|
Negative (Attached)
|
No + Verb + Infinitive + Pronoun
|
No quiero ducharme
|
|
Negative (Pre-verb)
|
No + Pronoun + Verb + Infinitive
|
No me quiero duchar
|
|
Question (Attached)
|
¿Verb + Infinitive + Pronoun?
|
¿Quieres ducharte?
|
|
Question (Pre-verb)
|
¿Pronoun + Verb + Infinitive?
|
¿Te quieres duchar?
|
|
Gerund (Attached)
|
Verb + Gerund + Pronoun
|
Estoy duchándome
|
|
Gerund (Pre-verb)
|
Pronoun + Verb + Gerund
|
Me estoy duchando
|
Formality Spectrum
Deseo irme a dormir. (End of the day)
Quiero irme a dormir. (End of the day)
Me quiero ir a dormir. (End of the day)
Me voy a dormir ya. (End of the day)
Reflexive Pronoun Options
Position 1
- Before Me quiero duchar
Position 2
- After Quiero ducharme
Pronoun Placement Comparison
Decision Flowchart
Is there an infinitive or gerund?
Pronoun Types
Reflexive
- • me
- • te
- • se
- • nos
- • os
- • se
Examples by Level
Quiero lavarme.
I want to wash myself.
Me quiero lavar.
I want to wash myself.
Voy a ducharme.
I am going to shower.
Me voy a duchar.
I am going to shower.
Estoy vistiéndome ahora.
I am getting dressed now.
Me estoy vistiendo ahora.
I am getting dressed now.
Puedes sentarte aquí.
You can sit here.
Te puedes sentar aquí.
You can sit here.
Sigue divirtiéndote mucho.
Keep having a lot of fun.
Te sigue divirtiendo mucho.
Keep having a lot of fun.
Necesitamos prepararnos bien.
We need to prepare ourselves well.
Nos necesitamos preparar bien.
We need to prepare ourselves well.
Quisiera presentarme formalmente.
I would like to introduce myself formally.
Me quisiera presentar formalmente.
I would like to introduce myself formally.
Deben esforzarse más hoy.
You all must try harder today.
Se deben esforzar más hoy.
You all must try harder today.
No pudo evitar emocionarse al verlo.
He couldn't avoid getting emotional upon seeing him.
No se pudo evitar emocionar al verlo.
He couldn't avoid getting emotional upon seeing him.
Siguen quejándose de todo.
They keep complaining about everything.
Se siguen quejando de todo.
They keep complaining about everything.
Habría debido preocuparse menos.
He should have worried less.
Se habría debido preocupar menos.
He should have worried less.
Terminaron arrepintiéndose de su decisión.
They ended up regretting their decision.
Se terminaron arrepintiendo de su decisión.
They ended up regretting their decision.
Easily Confused
Learners mix up 'me' (reflexive) with 'me' (direct object).
Learners try to attach pronouns to conjugated verbs.
Learners confuse the -ando/-iendo form with other verb forms.
Common Mistakes
Quiero me duchar
Me quiero duchar
Voy a duchar
Voy a ducharme
Me quiero ducharme
Me quiero duchar
Quiero ducharse
Quiero ducharme
Estoy duchandome
Estoy duchándome
Te estoy duchando
Estoy duchándote
Voy a duchar te
Voy a ducharte
Necesitamos prepararnosnos
Necesitamos prepararnos
Sigue lavandose
Sigue lavándose
Se queremos lavar
Nos queremos lavar
No se pudo evitar de emocionarse
No se pudo evitar emocionarse
Terminaron arrepintiendo
Terminaron arrepintiéndose
Se han debido de preocupar
Se han debido preocupar
Habría debido preocuparse
Se habría debido preocupar
Sentence Patterns
___ voy a ___.
Voy a ___ ___.
Estoy ___ ___.
___ estoy ___.
Real World Usage
Me estoy divirtiendo mucho en la playa.
Voy a dormirme ya.
Quisiera presentarme ante ustedes.
Voy a pedirme una ensalada.
¿Dónde puedo sentarme?
Sigue esforzándote.
The Accent Rule
Don't Split the Pair
Stylistic Choice
Regional Preferences
Smart Tips
Always look for the conjugated verb and the infinitive/gerund pair.
Check the stress and add the accent.
Attach the pronoun to the end.
Place the pronoun before the conjugated verb.
Pronunciation
Accent marks
When attaching a pronoun to a gerund, the stress shifts to the end. Add an accent to the original stressed vowel.
Rhythm
The attached form creates a longer word, which can change the sentence's rhythm.
Declarative
Me quiero duchar. ↘
Standard statement of intent.
Question
¿Te quieres duchar? ↗
Polite inquiry.
Memorize It
Mnemonic
Front or Back, keep it on track! The pronoun can lead or follow, but never hide in the middle.
Visual Association
Imagine a train. The reflexive pronoun is a passenger. It can sit in the front car (before the conjugated verb) or the caboose (the end of the infinitive), but never in the middle engine room.
Rhyme
Before the verb or at the end, the pronoun is your Spanish friend.
Story
Maria is getting ready. She says, 'Me voy a peinar' (I am going to comb my hair) while looking in the mirror. Then she says, 'Voy a peinarme' while grabbing her brush. Both sentences help her get ready for the party.
Word Web
Challenge
Write 5 sentences about your morning routine using both the 'before' and 'after' positions for each.
Cultural Notes
Speakers in Spain often prefer attaching the pronoun to the infinitive for a more 'standard' sound.
In many parts of Latin America, placing the pronoun before the conjugated verb is slightly more common in casual speech.
The use of 'vos' might change the pronoun to 'te', but the placement rules remain identical.
The reflexive pronoun placement in Spanish stems from Latin clitics that were originally independent words but gradually attached to the verb.
Conversation Starters
¿Qué te vas a poner hoy?
¿Cuándo piensas irte de vacaciones?
¿Cómo te estás preparando para el examen?
¿Te gustaría presentarte ante el grupo?
Journal Prompts
Common Mistakes
Test Yourself
Voy a ___ (lavarse).
Which is correct?
Find and fix the mistake:
Estoy duchandome.
Change 'Me voy a vestir' to the attached form.
a / ducharme / voy
Which are correct?
A: ¿Te vas a peinar? B: Sí, ___.
Match each item on the left with its pair on the right:
Score: /8
Practice Exercises
8 exercisesVoy a ___ (lavarse).
Which is correct?
Find and fix the mistake:
Estoy duchandome.
Change 'Me voy a vestir' to the attached form.
a / ducharme / voy
Which are correct?
A: ¿Te vas a peinar? B: Sí, ___.
Match 'Estoy vistiéndome' with its equivalent.
Score: /8
Practice Bank
10 exercisesEllos se van a ___ (get up).
I am getting ready.
duchar / quiero / me
Estamos vistiendonos.
Match the pairs:
Identify the incorrect sentence:
¿Quieres ___ (sit down, tú)?
Translate to Spanish:
Ustedes van a lavarse.
está / se / afeitando
Score: /10
FAQ (8)
No, only before the conjugated verb or attached to the end of the infinitive/gerund.
No, both are grammatically correct and widely used.
To maintain the original stress of the word when the pronoun is added.
Yes, all reflexive verbs follow this rule when used with infinitives or gerunds.
Yes, this rule also applies to direct and indirect object pronouns.
It is neutral and used in all registers.
They both move together as a unit.
No, this is a standard rule for all periphrastic constructions.
Scaffolded Practice
1
2
3
4
Mastery Progress
Needs Practice
Improving
Strong
Mastered
In Other Languages
Je veux me laver / Je me veux laver (archaic)
French does not allow the same flexibility of attachment as Spanish.
Ich möchte mich waschen
German has a fixed word order for reflexives.
Watashi wa jibun o arau
Japanese does not have clitics that attach to verbs.
Aghsilu nafsi
Arabic reflexives are independent words.
Wo xi ziji
Chinese reflexives do not attach to verbs.
Voglio lavarmi / Mi voglio lavare
Italian and Spanish are nearly identical in this regard.
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