Signification
You cannot enjoy both of two desirable but contradictory things.
Contexte culturel
In the US, this phrase is often used to criticize 'entitlement'—the idea that one deserves everything without sacrifice. British English uses this frequently in political contexts, especially during Brexit negotiations ('cakeism'). A similar Russian sentiment is 'To sit on two chairs,' meaning trying to support two opposing sides. In international business, this idiom is a standard way to discuss 'Opportunity Cost' in a more colorful way.
Pronoun Power
Always match the pronoun to the person you are talking about. 'He can't have HIS cake...', 'They can't have THEIR cake...'
Don't be too literal
If you use this when someone is actually eating cake, it might be confusing! Use it for metaphorical situations.
Signification
You cannot enjoy both of two desirable but contradictory things.
Pronoun Power
Always match the pronoun to the person you are talking about. 'He can't have HIS cake...', 'They can't have THEIR cake...'
Don't be too literal
If you use this when someone is actually eating cake, it might be confusing! Use it for metaphorical situations.
The 'Too' is Key
Adding 'too' at the end makes the idiom sound much more natural and native-like.
Teste-toi
Complete the idiom with the correct words.
You want to stay home and go to the party? You can't have your ______ and ______ it too.
The standard idiom uses 'cake' and 'eat'.
Which person is trying to 'have their cake and eat it too'?
Select the correct scenario:
John wants two contradictory things: the car and the money from the car.
Choose the best response for the dialogue.
A: 'I want a job that pays $200k but I only want to work 10 hours a week.' B: '_________________'
The idiom is used to point out that the speaker's expectations are unrealistic.
🎉 Score : /3
Aides visuelles
Banque d exercices
3 exercicesYou want to stay home and go to the party? You can't have your ______ and ______ it too.
The standard idiom uses 'cake' and 'eat'.
Select the correct scenario:
John wants two contradictory things: the car and the money from the car.
A: 'I want a job that pays $200k but I only want to work 10 hours a week.' B: '_________________'
The idiom is used to point out that the speaker's expectations are unrealistic.
🎉 Score : /3
Questions fréquentes
4 questionsIn modern English, we say 'have' (possess) and then 'eat' (consume). It means you want to keep the cake and also eat it. Historically, it was reversed, but the meaning remains the same.
It can be slightly blunt. It's best used with friends or in a neutral business context to explain trade-offs. Avoid saying it to a boss unless you have a very close relationship.
Yes! You can use it for something as small as choosing between two TV shows or as big as a multi-million dollar business deal.
'Cakeism' is a modern political term (especially in the UK) derived from this idiom. It refers to a policy of trying to have all the benefits of a deal without any of the costs.
Expressions liées
Have it both ways
synonymTo enjoy two things that are usually incompatible.
Best of both worlds
similarA situation where you can enjoy the advantages of two very different things.
Zero-sum game
specialized formA situation where one person's gain is another's loss.
Burning the candle at both ends
contrastWorking too hard and getting exhausted.
