In 15 Seconds
- Used for overcoming fear or shyness in any situation.
- Always requires a reflexive pronoun like 'mich' or 'dich'.
- Means 'to trust yourself' enough to take a leap.
Meaning
This phrase is used when you finally find the courage to do something that makes you nervous. It is like saying 'I dare to do it' or 'I'm brave enough to try.'
Key Examples
3 of 6At a high diving board
Ich traue mich nicht zu springen.
I don't dare to jump.
Encouraging a friend to talk to a crush
Komm schon, trau dich!
Come on, go for it!
In a professional meeting
Ich habe mich nicht getraut, meine Meinung zu sagen.
I didn't dare to speak my mind.
Cultural Background
The concept of 'Mutproben' is a rite of passage for many German children, often involving 'sich trauen' to do something slightly dangerous or forbidden. In Alpine regions, 'sich trauen' is frequently used in the context of mountain climbing and skiing, where assessing one's courage is a matter of safety. Swiss 'Zivilcourage' is highly respected; 'sich trauen' to speak up in a community meeting is seen as a civic duty. The pun 'Wir trauen uns' is the most common headline for wedding invitations in Germany.
The 'Nicht' Rule
We use 'sich trauen' most often with 'nicht' to explain why we aren't doing something.
Reflexive Pronoun
Don't forget the 'mich/dich/sich'. Without it, the sentence sounds like you are getting married or trusting someone else.
In 15 Seconds
- Used for overcoming fear or shyness in any situation.
- Always requires a reflexive pronoun like 'mich' or 'dich'.
- Means 'to trust yourself' enough to take a leap.
What It Means
Sich trauen is all about overcoming fear. It comes from the word Vertrauen, which means trust. When you use this phrase, you are literally saying you trust yourself enough to take a risk. It is that heart-pounding moment before a big jump. It covers everything from asking someone out to trying a spicy curry.
How To Use It
This is a reflexive verb, so you always need those little pronouns like mich, dich, or sich. If you want to say what you are daring to do, use zu plus an infinitive at the end. For example: Ich traue mich nicht, zu springen. It is simple and punchy. You can also use it on its own if the context is clear. If a friend is hesitating at a karaoke bar, just shout Trau dich! to give them that nudge.
When To Use It
Use it whenever there is a bit of adrenaline involved. It fits perfectly in social situations where you feel shy. Use it when discussing career moves or new hobbies. It is great for cheering people on. It works at the gym, in the office, or at a party. It is a very human expression that everyone understands.
When NOT To Use It
Do not use this for everyday chores that are just boring. You do not trauen yourself to wash the dishes unless the plates are haunted. Also, be careful not to confuse it with trauen (without sich), which means to marry someone or to trust someone else. If you say Ich traue ihm, you trust him. If you say Ich traue mich, you are being brave. Big difference!
Cultural Background
Germans value directness, but they also respect the process of overcoming 'inneres Schweinehund' (inner pig-dog/laziness). Sich trauen is the antidote to that hesitation. There is a famous saying: Wer sich traut, gewinnt (He who dares, wins). It reflects a culture that appreciates calculated risks. It is also the root of the word Trauung (wedding ceremony), because getting married is the ultimate 'dare.'
Common Variations
Sich etwas trauen is the most common way to say you dare to do something specific. You might also hear Mut beweisen, which is more formal and means 'to prove courage.' If someone is being a bit too brave or reckless, a German might say Du traust dich was! with a raised eyebrow. This is a sarcastic way of saying 'You've got some nerve!'
Usage Notes
The phrase is perfectly neutral and safe for all situations. Just remember that adding 'sich' makes it about courage, while removing it makes it about trust or marriage.
The 'Nicht' Rule
We use 'sich trauen' most often with 'nicht' to explain why we aren't doing something.
Reflexive Pronoun
Don't forget the 'mich/dich/sich'. Without it, the sentence sounds like you are getting married or trusting someone else.
Wedding Puns
If you see a card saying 'Wir trauen uns', look for a wedding date!
Encouragement
Use 'Trau dich!' as a short, powerful way to encourage your friends to try something new.
Examples
6Ich traue mich nicht zu springen.
I don't dare to jump.
Classic use for physical fear.
Komm schon, trau dich!
Come on, go for it!
Short imperative form for encouragement.
Ich habe mich nicht getraut, meine Meinung zu sagen.
I didn't dare to speak my mind.
Reflecting on a moment of hesitation.
Traust du dich, die scharfe Soße zu probieren?
Do you dare to try the hot sauce?
Casual challenge between friends.
Du traust dich was mit diesem Hut!
You're quite brave wearing that hat!
Slightly sarcastic but playful.
Endlich hat sie sich getraut zu kündigen.
She finally dared to quit her job.
Used for significant life decisions.
Test Yourself
Fill in the correct reflexive pronoun.
Ich traue ____ nicht, den Chef anzurufen.
The subject is 'Ich', so the reflexive pronoun must be 'mich'.
Which sentence is correct?
A) Ich traue mich zu springen. B) Ich traue mich springen.
When 'sich trauen' is followed by another verb, you need 'zu' + infinitive.
Complete the dialogue.
A: Warum isst du den Insektensnack nicht? B: Ich ______ ______ nicht!
The speaker is talking about their own lack of courage.
Match the phrase to the situation.
Situation: You are about to give a speech in front of 100 people.
This situation requires courage, so 'sich trauen' is the right choice.
🎉 Score: /4
Visual Learning Aids
Practice Bank
4 exercisesIch traue ____ nicht, den Chef anzurufen.
The subject is 'Ich', so the reflexive pronoun must be 'mich'.
A) Ich traue mich zu springen. B) Ich traue mich springen.
When 'sich trauen' is followed by another verb, you need 'zu' + infinitive.
A: Warum isst du den Insektensnack nicht? B: Ich ______ ______ nicht!
The speaker is talking about their own lack of courage.
Situation: You are about to give a speech in front of 100 people.
This situation requires courage, so 'sich trauen' is the right choice.
🎉 Score: /4
Frequently Asked Questions
10 questionsNo, it's used for anything from eating a spicy pepper to jumping out of a plane.
Yes, 'das' can act as a direct object representing the action.
'Trauen' is more about the feeling of courage; 'wagen' is more about the act of taking a risk.
The most natural way is to ask 'Traust du dich?' or say 'Ich fordere dich heraus!'
For 'to dare', it is always 'mich' (Accusative). For 'to believe I can', it is 'mir ... zu' (Dative).
Yes, especially 'sich etwas zutrauen' to show confidence in your skills.
Only in the non-reflexive form 'jemandem trauen', but 'vertrauen' is much more common for trust.
The Perfekt is 'Ich habe mich getraut'.
It is neutral. You can use it with your boss or your best friend.
Yes: 'Ich traue mich zu sagen, dass...'
Related Phrases
etwas wagen
synonymto risk something
sich zutrauen
similarto believe one is capable
vertrauen
builds onto trust
den Mut aufbringen
synonymto muster the courage
Angst haben
contrastto be afraid