Grammar of Regret: ものを (Mono o)
Grammar Rule in 30 Seconds
Use {ものを|ものを} to express regret or dissatisfaction about a situation that turned out differently than expected.
- Attach to the dictionary form of a verb: {知る|しる} → {知る|しる}ものを.
- Use it to express frustration: 'I should have done X, but I didn't.'
- It implies a sense of 'if only' or 'what a waste'.
Overview
In Japanese, expressing dissatisfaction is an art form, and {ものを|もの|を} is one of its most potent tools. It is the grammatical embodiment of a heavy sigh, conveying regret, frustration, or criticism over a situation that turned out poorly when a better outcome was clearly possible. It translates loosely to "if only..." or "...and yet," but its core function is to highlight a contrast between a desirable, logical, or expected scenario and the disappointing reality that transpired instead.
While other grammar points express contrast (like のに or けど), {ものを|もの|を} is uniquely subjective and emotional. It implies that a better choice was ignored or a golden opportunity was wasted, leading to an avoidable negative result. You will hear it used to lament a poor decision, complain about a frustrating outcome, or gently (or not-so-gently) criticize someone's actions.
It often appears at the end of a sentence that trails off, leaving the negative consequences unsaid but heavily implied.
For instance, if a friend insists on walking in a storm without an umbrella and predictably gets soaked, you might think, "If only they had taken an umbrella..." In Japanese, this sentiment is perfectly captured by: 傘を持っていけばよかった{ものを|もの|を}... This single phrase encapsulates the obvious solution, the friend's failure to adopt it, and your resulting disappointment.
How This Grammar Works
{ものを|もの|を} functions as a conjunctive particle (接続助詞). To understand its nuance, let's break down its components. The word 物 is a nominalizer, turning the entire preceding clause into a noun-like concept.を then marks this concept as the object of an implied, unstated verb of disregard, such as 無視して (ignoring), しないで (not doing), or 活用しないで (not utilizing).[Clause A] + ものを + [Clause B], you are linguistically creating the structure: "(Despite) the existence of the thing/situation that is [Clause A], [Clause B] happened instead." It presents the ideal scenario as a concrete "thing" (もの) that was subsequently ignored (を). This is why it carries such a strong sense of wasted potential. The logic unfolds in four emotional steps:- 1An obvious, better alternative existed. This is represented by the clause before
{ものを|もの|を}. - 2That alternative was not chosen or did not materialize. This is the action that triggers the regret.
- 3A negative or disappointing outcome occurred as a result. This is either stated in the second clause or implied.
- 4The speaker feels frustration, criticism, or regret about this chain of events. This is the core emotion conveyed by the grammar itself.
連絡くれれば、駅まで迎えに行った{ものを|もの|を}. (If you had just contacted me, I would have gone to the station to pick you up...). Here, "If you had contacted me, I would have picked you up" is presented as a solid, sensible option (もの).を signals that this option was disregarded, leading to the implied reality: you had to get home on your own, which was an inconvenience for you and a source of frustration for the speaker. The grammar itself does the heavy lifting of conveying this complex social and emotional information.Word Order Rules
{ものを|もの|を} primarily appears in two distinct structural patterns. The choice between them often depends on the context, formality, and whether the speaker wants to be direct or indirect.- Formula:
[Clause A: The Ideal/Expected Scenario] + ものを + [Clause B: The Disappointing Reality]
{ものを|もの|を} acts like "and yet," "but instead," or "even though." It creates a strong, logical, and often critical contrast between the two clauses.彼は本当は知っている{ものを|もの|を}、何も言わない。
{せっかくご馳走してくださった{ものを|もの|を}、ほとんど残してしまった。
{ものを|もの|を} in daily conversation. The speaker states the ideal scenario and then ends the sentence with {ものを|もの|を}, often followed by an ellipsis (…). The disappointing reality is left unsaid because it is obvious to everyone involved.- Formula:
[Clause A: The Ideal/Expected Scenario] + ものを…
{もう少し頑張れば合格できた{ものを|もの|を}…
素直に謝ればいい{ものを|もの|を}…
[Ideal] + ものを + [Reality] | Written, Formal Speech, Monologue | Declarative, Critical |[Ideal] + ものを… | Spoken, Conversational, Texting | Lament, Indirect Criticism |Formation Pattern
{ものを|もの|を} attaches to the attributive form (連体形) of verbs, adjectives, and nouns. In modern Japanese, this form is almost always identical to the plain/casual form.
〜ば (-eba) or past tense forms like 〜た (-ta), as they are perfect for setting up hypothetical "if only" scenarios.
ものを | 教える + ものを | 教えた + ものを |
-eba) + ものを | 教えればいい + ものを | 教えればよかった + ものを |
ものを | 楽しい + ものを | 楽しかった + ものを |
な + ものを | 静か + な + ものを | 静か + だった + ものを (often with のに instead) |
な + ものを | 休日 + な + ものを | 休日 + だった + ものを (often with のに instead) |
〜すればよかったものを pattern is incredibly common. It literally means "It would have been good if [X] was done, but..." and is the quintessential structure for expressing regret. {もっと早く家を出ればよかった{ものを|もの|を} (I should have left the house earlier...).
{ものを|もの|を} directly after 静かだった or 休日だった can sometimes sound awkward. In these cases, it's often more natural to use のに (静かだったのに). However, when the noun/na-adjective is part of a larger conditional clause, it works perfectly: 今日が休日だったら、ゆっくり眠れた{ものを|もの|を} (If today were a holiday, I could have slept in...).
できる, 行ける, etc.) are also frequently used to highlight a squandered capability. 僕ならもっとうまくできた{ものを|もの|を} (If it were me, I could have done it better...).
When To Use It
{ものを|もの|を} is as important as knowing how to form it. Its use is tied to specific social and emotional contexts.{ものを|もの|を} when a clear, simple action could have prevented a negative result. It implies a lapse in judgment on someone's part (including your own).{ちゃんと確認すれば、こんなミスはなかった{ものを|もの|を}。
一言相談してくれたら、手伝ってあげた{ものを|もの|を}…
絶好のチャンスだった{ものを|もの|を}、彼はためらって何もできなかった。
天気がこんなに良い{ものを|もの|を}、一日中家にいるなんて。
{ものを|もの|を} is appropriate. Because it contains inherent criticism, using it carelessly can be problematic.- Towards Superiors or Seniors: Generally avoid. Saying
部長がもっと早く指示してくだされば、間に合った{ものを|もの|を}to your boss's face is a direct criticism of their management. It sounds like you are blaming them. In professional settings, this is highly inappropriate. - About Superiors (to a third party): This is possible. You might complain to a trusted colleague:
部長が許可してくれればいいものを…(If only the director would give permission...). - Towards Peers and Subordinates: Very common. It is an effective way to complain, express frustration, or give informal critical feedback.
- About Oneself: Also very common. It is a natural way to express personal regret.
あの時、貯金しておけばよかった{ものを|もの|を}。 (I really should have saved money back then...).
Common Mistakes
{ものを|もの|を} by treating it as a generic version of "but" or "even though." Here are specific errors to avoid.- Mistake 1: Using it for simple, neutral contrast.
{ものを|もの|を} is not for stating two unrelated facts. It requires a logical link of wasted potential.- Incorrect:
田中さんは背が高い{ものを|もの|を}、鈴木さんは背が低い。 - Why it's wrong: This is a simple comparison, not a situation of regret. There is no "better alternative" that was ignored.
- Correction: Use a neutral conjunction like
がor一方.田中さんは背が高いですが、鈴木さんは背が低いです。
- Mistake 2: The result is positive or expected.
{ものを|もの|を} demands a negative, contrary outcome. If the result is good, the grammar makes no sense.- Incorrect:
一生懸命勉強した{ものを|もの|を}、試験に合格した。 - Why it's wrong: Passing the test is the desired outcome of studying hard.
{ものを|もの|を}implies the outcome was frustratingly different. - Correction: Use a particle indicating reason, like
からorので.{一生懸命勉強したから、試験に合格した。}
- Mistake 3: Confusing the nuance with
のに.
{ものを|もの|を} when the simpler frustration of のに is more appropriate.- Slightly Unnatural:
毎朝6時に起きている{ものを|もの|を}、{いつも}眠い。 - Why it's weak: This sentence primarily expresses frustration about an unexpected state (
眠い) despite an action (起きている). This is the core function ofのに. While not strictly wrong,{ものを|もの|を}feels heavy here because "waking up at 6" isn't presented as a squandered perfect solution, but just a fact. - More Natural: Use
のにfor a direct complaint about a contrary result.毎朝6時に起きているのに、いつも眠い。
- Mistake 4: Using it inappropriately in formal or sensitive situations.
- Bad Idea (to a client):
ご連絡いただければすぐ対応いたしました{ものを|もの|を}…。 - Why it's bad: This sounds like, "Well, if you had just contacted me, I would have handled it (so it's your fault we have this problem)." It is accusatory.
- Correction: Use neutral, polite language.
ご連絡いただけましたら、すぐに対応いたしますので、今後ともよろしくお願いいたします。
Contrast With Similar Patterns
{ものを|もの|を}, のに, けれど, and 〜たらよかった depends entirely on the specific nuance you want to convey. Understanding their differences is key to mastering advanced emotional expression in Japanese.ものを | A better alternative was ignored, leading to a negative result. | High: Regret, Frustration, Criticism | The wasted potential or poor choice. |のに | A surprising, contrary result occurred despite a certain action/state. | Medium: Frustration, Surprise | The unexpected outcome itself. |けれど/が | Neutral connection between two clauses. | Low/None: None | Simply linking two facts. |〜たらよかった | Simple regret about a past action or inaction. | Medium: Regret, Wishfulness | The speaker's own past behavior. |ものを vs. のにのに is a complaint about a result; ものを is a complaint about the choice that led to the result.薬を飲んだのに、治らない。(I took the medicine, but I'm not getting better.) -> Focus on the surprising result.薬を飲めば治ったものを…(If only I'd taken the medicine, I would have gotten better...) -> Focus on the bad decision (not taking it).
ものを vs. けれど/がけれど and が are emotionally neutral. They simply state contrast.{あんなに練習したけれど、負けてしまった。(I practiced that much, but I lost.) -> A neutral, factual report.{あんなに練習したものを…(To think I practiced that much...) -> Implies the loss was a tragic waste of effort, unjust, or the result of a stupid mistake during the match.
ものを vs. 〜たらよかった〜たらよかった expresses pure, internal regret. Adding {ものを|もの|を} externalizes that regret, turning it into a lament about the situation as a whole.告白したらよかった。(I wish I had confessed.) -> Simple, internal regret.{あの時}告白していたら、今頃は恋人同士だったかもしれないものを…(If I had confessed then, we might have been a couple by now...) -> Laments the lost potential of the entire situation, making the regret feel bigger and more consequential.
Real Conversations
Scenario 1
- A: 見て、このスニーカー。やっぱり欲しいなあ。
(Look at these sneakers. I really do want them after all.)
- B: あ、それ、昨日のタイムセールで半額だったよ。
(Oh, those were half-price during the time sale yesterday.)
- A: うそ…！昨日のうちに買っておけばよかった{ものを|もの|を}…。
(No way...! I should have bought them yesterday...)
Scenario 2
- To: 同僚の佐藤さん (To colleague Sato-san)
- Message: お疲れ様です。先ほどの会議、結局A案になりましたね。私たちのB案のほうが、絶対にコストを抑えられた{ものを|もの|を}、残念です。
(Good work today. So, they went with Plan A in the meeting after all. It's a shame; our Plan B would have definitely kept costs down.)
Scenario 3
- (Image: A beautiful, clear blue sky seen from an office window)
- Caption: こんなに晴れてる{ものを|もの|を}、なんで仕事してるんだろ… 海に行きたい。
(The weather is this perfect, and yet why am I working... I want to go to the beach.)
Scenario 4
- (Player gets eliminated just before winning)
- Player: うわ、マジか！あと一発だった{ものを|もの|を}！
(Whoa, seriously?! It was just one more hit away!)
Quick FAQ
- Q: Can I just always use
のにinstead ofものを?
You can often substitute ものを with のに and be grammatically understood, but you will lose the specific, powerful nuance of "wasted potential" or "if only a different choice was made." Use のに for a factual complaint about an unexpected result. Use ものを when you want to emphasize that a clearly better path was available but ignored, making the outcome feel like a tragic waste.
- Q: Is this grammar considered old-fashioned?
Not at all, especially the sentence-ending conversational form (〜ものを…). It is a staple of everyday spoken Japanese for expressing frustration or regret. The mid-sentence connector form (〜ものを、〜) can feel a bit more literary or formal, but it is common in writing. It doesn't sound dated so much as it sounds emotionally mature—the grammar of someone who has seen things go wrong.
- Q: Can
ものをbe shortened?
Yes. In very casual, often (but not exclusively) male speech, you may hear it contracted to もんを (mon wo). For example, {さっさと{やればいい}もんを… (You should just get it done quickly...). This version is much more informal and carries a gruffer, more personal tone of complaint. Stick to the full {ものを|もの|を} in most situations.
- Q: Does the final
...(ellipsis) really matter?
Yes, immensely. In the sentence-ending form, the ellipsis is the written representation of the voice trailing off, full of unsaid disappointment. When speaking, you would naturally let your intonation fall and fade. In writing (like texts or social media), ものを。 with a period feels abrupt and incomplete. The … is what signals the intended nuance of a lamenting sigh.
Formation Table
| Verb Form | Example | Meaning |
|---|---|---|
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Dictionary
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{行く|いく}ものを
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Should have gone
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Negative
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{行かない|いかない}ものを
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Should not have gone
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Past
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{行った|いった}ものを
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Should have gone (past)
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Potential
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{行ける|いける}ものを
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Could have gone
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Passive
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{行かれる|いかれる}ものを
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Should have been gone
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Causative
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{行かせる|いかせる}ものを
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Should have made them go
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Meanings
Used to express regret, dissatisfaction, or criticism regarding a situation that resulted in an undesirable outcome despite a different expectation.
Regret/Complaint
Expressing that something should have been done differently.
“{早く|はやく}言えばよかったものを。”
“{謝れば|あやまれば}許してあげたものを。”
Reference Table
| Form | Structure | Example |
|---|---|---|
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Affirmative
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Verb(Dict) + ものを
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{行く|いく}ものを
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Negative
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Verb(Neg) + ものを
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{行かない|いかない}ものを
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Past
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Verb(Past) + ものを
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{行った|いった}ものを
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Conditional
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Verb(Ba) + ものを
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{行けば|いけば}よかったものを
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Potential
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Verb(Pot) + ものを
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{行ける|いける}ものを
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Causative
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Verb(Caus) + ものを
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{行かせる|いかせる}ものを
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Formality Spectrum
お伝えすればよかったものを。 (Regret)
言えばよかったものを。 (Regret)
言えばよかったものを。 (Regret)
言っとけばよかったものを。 (Regret)
The Regret Cycle
Action
- {言えば|いえば} If I had said
Result
- {よかった|よかった} It would have been good
Examples by Level
{早く|はやく}寝ればよかったものを。
I should have gone to bed early.
{勉強|べんきょう}すればよかったものを。
I should have studied.
{言えば|いえば}よかったものを。
You should have said it.
{行けば|いけば}よかったものを。
I should have gone.
{謝れば|あやまれば}許してあげたものを。
If you had apologized, I would have forgiven you.
{黙って|だまって}いればよかったものを。
You should have just stayed quiet.
{助けて|たすけて}あげればよかったものを。
I should have helped them.
{買えば|かえば}よかったものを。
You should have bought it.
{もっと|もっと}早く相談してくれればよかったものを。
You should have consulted me sooner.
{正直|しょうじき}に話せばよかったものを。
You should have just told the truth.
{無理|むり}をしなければよかったものを。
I shouldn't have pushed myself so hard.
{誘えば|さそえば}来てくれたものを。
If you had invited them, they would have come.
{彼|かれ}の忠告を聞いておけばよかったものを。
I should have listened to his advice.
{そんな|そんな}こと言わなければよかったものを。
I shouldn't have said such a thing.
{準備|じゅんび}をしっかりしておけばよかったものを。
I should have prepared more thoroughly.
{あきらめなければ|あきらめなければ}成功したものを。
If you hadn't given up, you would have succeeded.
{一言|ひとこと}声をかけてくれればよかったものを、何も言わずに去ってしまった。
If only you had said a word, but you left without saying anything.
{もっと|もっと}慎重に判断すればよかったものを、焦って決めてしまった。
I should have judged more carefully, but I decided in a rush.
{彼|かれ}を信じていればよかったものを、疑ってしまった。
I should have trusted him, but I doubted him.
{もっと|もっと}早く気づけばよかったものを。
I should have realized it sooner.
{事態|じたい}がこれほど深刻になる前に手を打てばよかったものを、放置してしまった。
I should have taken action before the situation became this serious, but I left it alone.
{彼|かれ}の真意を理解していればよかったものを、誤解してしまった。
I should have understood his true intentions, but I misunderstood.
{もっと|もっと}柔軟に対応すればよかったものを、頑固に拒絶してしまった。
I should have responded more flexibly, but I stubbornly refused.
{歴史|れきし}の教訓を学んでいればよかったものを、同じ過ちを繰り返した。
If only they had learned from history's lessons, but they repeated the same mistakes.
Easily Confused
Both express contrast.
Both are advice-like.
Both use 'mono'.
Common Mistakes
Neko mono o
Neko da mono o
Taberu-masu mono o
Taberu mono o
Iku-noni
Iku mono o
Iku-koto mono o
Iku mono o
Itta-mono o
Iku-mono o
Iku-mono-desu
Iku-mono o
Iku-mono-ga
Iku-mono o
Iku-mono o-ne
Iku-mono o
Iku-mono o-da
Iku-mono o
Iku-mono o-kara
Iku-mono o
Iku-mono o-desu
Iku-mono o
Iku-mono o-no
Iku-mono o
Iku-mono o-yo
Iku-mono o
Iku-mono o-ne
Iku-mono o
Sentence Patterns
___ばよかったものを。
___ればよかったものを、___。
___ばよかったものを、なぜ___。
___ばよかったものを、___してしまった。
Real World Usage
言えばよかったものを！
もっと早く気づけばよかったものを。
N/A
早く注文すればよかったものを。
予約しておけばよかったものを。
黙っていればよかったものを。
Use with 'ba' conditional
Avoid with superiors
Focus on the regret
Dramatic flair
Smart Tips
Use 'ba' + 'yokatta' + 'mono o'.
Use 'mono o' to emphasize the missed chance.
Use 'mono o' to point out a mistake.
Use 'mono o' for deep regret.
Pronunciation
Emphasis
Emphasize 'mono' to show frustration.
Falling
mono o ↓
Finality of regret.
Memorize It
Mnemonic
Think of 'Mono o' as 'Moan-o'. You are moaning about a missed chance.
Visual Association
Imagine a person standing at a train station watching the train leave, holding a ticket, with a thought bubble saying 'I should have run faster!'
Rhyme
If you want to say 'I should have done', use 'mono o' for everyone.
Story
Kenji didn't study for his test. He failed. He sat in the library, staring at his book, whispering 'Study-suru mono o' to himself.
Word Web
Challenge
Write 3 sentences about something you regret doing this week using this grammar.
Cultural Notes
Used in dramatic speech.
Often uses 'mono o' with a different pitch.
Very common for villains or frustrated heroes.
Derived from classical Japanese 'mono o' which acted as an adversative particle.
Conversation Starters
What is something you regret not doing?
If you could change one thing about yesterday, what would it be?
Do you often regret your decisions?
What advice would you give your younger self?
Journal Prompts
Common Mistakes
Test Yourself
早く寝ればよかった___。
___よかったものを。
Find and fix the mistake:
Neko mono o.
Arrange the words in the correct order:
All words placed
Click words above to build the sentence
I should have studied.
Answer starts with: 勉強す...
Match each item on the left with its pair on the right:
Use 'Iku' and 'Mono o'.
Regret about not eating.
Score: /8
Practice Exercises
8 exercises早く寝ればよかった___。
___よかったものを。
Find and fix the mistake:
Neko mono o.
よかった / ものを / 言えば
I should have studied.
言えばよかったものを
Use 'Iku' and 'Mono o'.
Regret about not eating.
Score: /8
Practice Bank
12 exercises予約しておけば＿＿＿ものを。
Arrange the words:
もっと早く言えばよかったものを...
昨日は雨が降ったものを、楽しかった。
Match parts:
Nuance check:
下手＿＿＿ものを、練習しない。
Arrange words:
行きますものを、行かなかった。
そう＿＿＿ものを！ (You should have done that!)
Context check:
Connect {嫌|いや} (disagreeable/unpleasant) to {ものを|もの|を}.
Score: /12
FAQ (8)
No, it must be a verb.
No, it is informal and can be rude.
Noni is neutral; mono o is for regret.
No, only dictionary form.
It implies the listener failed to act.
Avoid it in business.
It is usually for past regrets.
Yes, in informal, emotional speech.
Scaffolded Practice
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Mastery Progress
Needs Practice
Improving
Strong
Mastered
In Other Languages
debería haber hecho
Japanese is more accusatory.
j'aurais dû
Japanese is more informal.
hätte tun sollen
Japanese is more emotional.
noni
Nuance of regret.
kan yajib an af'al
Grammar structure.
yinggai
Conjugation.
Learning Path
Prerequisites
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