Meaning
Speaking kindly will result in others speaking kindly to you; treat others as you wish to be treated.
Cultural Background
This is one of the first proverbs children learn in school. The emphasis on '말' (speech) highlights the importance of harmony in Confucian-influenced societies.
Use it as a soft correction
If a friend is being rude, say this proverb to gently remind them that their behavior is causing the bad response.
Meaning
Speaking kindly will result in others speaking kindly to you; treat others as you wish to be treated.
Use it as a soft correction
If a friend is being rude, say this proverb to gently remind them that their behavior is causing the bad response.
Test Yourself
Complete the proverb.
가는 말이 ____ 오는 말이 곱다.
The proverb uses '고와야' to mean 'must be kind'.
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Visual Learning Aids
Practice Bank
1 exercises가는 말이 ____ 오는 말이 곱다.
The proverb uses '고와야' to mean 'must be kind'.
🎉 Score: /1
Frequently Asked Questions
1 questionsNo, it's a proverb, not a law of physics. Sometimes people are rude regardless of your kindness.
Related Phrases
가는 정이 있어야 오는 정이 있다
similarAffection must go out to come back.
