Reported Speech: Say vs. Tell
Grammar Rule in 30 Seconds
Use 'tell' when you mention the listener; use 'say' when you focus on the words spoken.
- Tell + Person: Always follow 'tell' with a personal object (e.g., 'Tell me').
- Say + Words: Use 'say' followed by the message or 'that' (e.g., 'Say hello').
- Say + To + Person: If you use 'say' with a person, you must use 'to' (e.g., 'Say to him').
Overview
Learn to use say and tell correctly. This helps you speak better English. You can share information clearly.
This rule is very important. It helps you talk about the past. You can speak more easily.
How This Grammar Works
Formation Pattern
Say:
Tell:
When To Use It
Say when:- The recipient of the message is not mentioned or is less important. The focus is on the utterance itself. For example,
She said that the meeting was postponed.Here, the fact of the postponement is paramount, not who she said it to. - You are quoting direct speech.
Sayis frequently used with quotation marks.He said, "I'm leaving now." - The verb
sayis part of an idiomatic expression that does not involve a listener. Examples includesay hello,say goodbye,say a prayer,say sorry,say thank you. You wouldn't usetellin these contexts. For instance,I said goodbye to them at the airport. - Referring to inanimate objects that display information. A clock
saysa time; a signsayssomething.The clock says it's already noon.
Tell when:- The recipient of the message is specified and is crucial to the meaning.
Telldirectly indicates who received the communication.He told his manager about the issue.Here, the manager is the direct recipient of the information. - You are reporting an instruction, command, or request. This uses the
tell + object + infinitivestructure.The teacher told the students to open their books. - The verb
tellis part of specific idiomatic phrases that require an object. These includetell a story,tell a lie,tell the truth,tell the time,tell the difference,tell a secret,tell a joke. You must usetellfor these expressions. For example,My grandmother loves to tell us stories. - You are providing information or news directly to someone, implying a transfer of knowledge.
Could you tell me your name, please?This implies a direct request for information from a specific person.
Common Mistakes
- Incorrectly using
saywith an indirect object directly after it: A widespread error is constructing sentences likeShe said me that she was busy.This is grammatically incorrect. Remember,saydoes not take a direct indirect object. The correct construction would beShe told me that she was busyor, less commonly in reported speech,She said to me that she was busy.Thetois essential if you include the recipient withsay.
- Omitting the indirect object with
tell: Another common mistake is usingtellwithout specifying who was told, such asHe told that he had finished the work.This is incorrect becausetellis a transitive verb that requires a direct object (the person receiving the message). The correct sentence isHe told his colleague that he had finished the workorHe told me that he had finished the work.Always ensure a recipient followstell.
- Confusing
say toandtell: WhileHe said to me that he liked the filmis grammatically correct,He told me that he liked the filmis often more natural and concise. The use ofsay tocan sometimes sound more formal or emphasize the act of speaking to someone rather than simply informing them. Over-relying onsay towhentellwould be more direct can make your speech sound less natural. For example, for giving a piece of news,My friend told me about the concertis more common thanMy friend said to me about the concert.
- Using
tellwith direct speech: Whilesayoften introduces direct quotes (e.g.,She said, "I'm going."),tellis rarely used this way, except in very specific narrative contexts or when reporting commands directly. Generally, avoidHe told, "I'm going."The function oftellis to report, not typically to quote verbatim statements directly.
Real Conversations
Understanding say and tell within authentic, contemporary communication contexts is vital for achieving fluency. These verbs are integral to relaying information in various settings, from informal texts to professional emails.
In casual conversation, tell is frequently used when recounting events or sharing news with a specific person. For example, a friend might text, My sister told me about that new cafe; we should check it out. Here, told me explicitly conveys that the sister communicated the information directly to the speaker. If the friend said, My sister said there's a new cafe, it emphasizes the existence of the cafe rather than the direct communication to the speaker.
In work emails, precision is paramount. You might write, The project manager told us to prioritize the client feedback, clearly indicating an instruction directed to the team. Conversely, The announcement said that the deadline has been extended focuses on the information contained within the announcement itself, not who specifically delivered it. This subtle distinction demonstrates professionalism and clarity.
Consider an online forum discussion: Someone in the other thread said they found a workaround. Here, said is appropriate because the specific individual is less important than the fact that a workaround was mentioned in another part of the forum. If a user was directly addressing another, they might write, I told him to try restarting the application.
English speakers naturally differentiate between say and tell to convey subtle social dynamics and information flow. The choice often reflects whether the act of conveying (tell) or the content conveyed (say) is more significant in the communication. For instance, He kept telling me to relax implies a persistent, direct communication aimed at influencing the listener, whereas He kept saying that I should relax focuses more on his repeated utterance of the advice. This sensitivity to context and nuance is a hallmark of native-like communication.
Quick FAQ
- Can I use
say towith an object? Yes, you can. For example,She said to me that she was busy.However,She told me that she was busyis often more common and natural, especially when simply conveying information.Say tocan sometimes emphasize the direction of the speech, buttellis generally preferred for direct communication of facts or instructions.
- Are there any common idiomatic expressions that use
sayortellin unexpected ways? Yes, particularlytell. Whilesaygenerally refers to uttering words,tellhas several idiomatic uses where it doesn't just mean to communicate verbally. For instance,Only time will tellmeans that only future events will reveal something, not that time will speak. Similarly,The experience really told on himmeans it had a negative effect. Forsay, phrases likeIt goes without saying(it is obvious) are common. These expressions highlight that word choice can sometimes be fixed and not entirely logical.
- What about
ask? How does it fit in withsayandtell?Askis used for reporting questions or requests. Liketell,askoften takes an object when reporting a question (He asked me if I was going.) or an infinitive for a request (She asked him to help.). The key distinction is thataskimplies inquiry or a polite request, whereassayreports a statement, andtellreports a statement or command to a recipient.
- Is
tellalways stronger thansay? Not necessarily in terms of volume, buttelloften implies a more direct and intentional transfer of information or a command. If someonetoldyou to do something, it carries more weight than if theysaidyou should do it.Tellcan also suggest a more confidential or significant disclosure, as inHe told me a secret.Sayis more neutral regarding the impact or intimacy of the communication.
- Can
tellbe used without an explicit indirect object in any context? Whiletellalmost always requires an indirect object, there are very rare, specific contexts or idiomatic expressions where it might appear without one, such asShe didn't tell,implying she didn't reveal a secret. However, for reported speech, adhering totell + objectis the universally correct and expected pattern. Avoid omitting the object in general reported speech constructions. Always prioritize clarity by including the recipient when usingtell.
Irregular Forms of Say and Tell
| Base Form | Past Simple | Past Participle | Third Person Singular | Present Participle |
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Say
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Said /sed/
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Said /sed/
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Says /sez/
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Saying
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Tell
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Told /toʊld/
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Told /toʊld/
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Tells
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Telling
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Meanings
The primary function of 'say' and 'tell' is to report information, thoughts, or instructions that were previously expressed by someone else.
Reporting Information
Using verbs to relay a message from one person to another.
“He said that the meeting was canceled.”
“They told us the news this morning.”
Giving Instructions
Using 'tell' to report an order or a strong request.
“The doctor told me to stay in bed.”
“She told him not to worry.”
Idiomatic Expressions
Fixed phrases where only one of the two verbs is correct regardless of the general rule.
“Tell a lie / Tell the truth.”
“Say a prayer.”
Reference Table
| Form | Structure | Example |
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Affirmative (Say)
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Subject + said + (that) + clause
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He said he was happy.
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Affirmative (Tell)
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Subject + told + person + (that) + clause
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He told me he was happy.
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Negative (Say)
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Subject + didn't + say + message
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She didn't say anything.
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Negative (Tell)
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Subject + didn't + tell + person + message
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She didn't tell us the news.
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Question (Say)
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What + did + subject + say?
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What did they say?
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Question (Tell)
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What + did + subject + tell + person?
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What did they tell you?
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Imperative (Tell)
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Tell + person + to-infinitive
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Tell him to wait.
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Say with Person
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Say + to + person
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What did you say to him?
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Formality Spectrum
He informed me of his resignation. (Workplace gossip)
He told me he was quitting. (Workplace gossip)
He said he's out of here. (Workplace gossip)
He was like, 'I'm done.' (Workplace gossip)
The Say vs. Tell Decision Map
Use TELL
- Mentioning the listener Tell me
- Giving orders Tell him to go
- Stories/Jokes Tell a joke
Use SAY
- Focus on words Say 'Hello'
- That-clauses Say that it's cold
- With 'to' Say to her
Grammar Structure Comparison
Which verb should I use?
Are you mentioning the listener immediately?
Examples by Level
He says 'Hello'.
Tell me your name.
She said 'Yes'.
They told us the secret.
I told him that I was busy.
What did you say to her?
He told a very funny joke.
She said she didn't like the food.
The teacher told the students to open their books.
I said that I would think about it.
Can you tell me how to get to the station?
He said to me that he was moving to London.
It is said that the castle is haunted.
He told me off for being late again.
I couldn't tell if she was joking or not.
She said she'd been waiting for over an hour.
To tell you the truth, I'm quite disappointed.
The evidence says otherwise.
I was told that the position had been filled.
Needless to say, we were all very surprised.
There is much to be said for his approach.
The clock told of a time long forgotten.
He has the final say in all budgetary matters.
I can't tell one twin from the other.
Easily Confused
Learners use 'say' when they mean the act of talking or using a language.
Learners use 'tell' to describe a two-way conversation.
Learners forget the 'to' when using 'say' with a person.
Common Mistakes
He said me hello.
He said hello to me.
She told that she is happy.
She said that she is happy.
I tell to him the news.
I tell him the news.
He said me his name.
He told me his name.
They said us to wait.
They told us to wait.
Can you say me the time?
Can you tell me the time?
He told a prayer.
He said a prayer.
I said him that I would come.
I told him that I would come.
She told to me a lie.
She told me a lie.
He said me to shut up.
He told me to shut up.
The report tells that profits are up.
The report says that profits are up.
Sentence Patterns
She told me that ___.
He said, '___'.
They told us to ___.
It's hard to tell the difference between ___ and ___.
Real World Usage
He said he's gonna be late.
My previous boss told me I was a great team player.
The witness said that the car was blue.
I told him to turn left at the light.
The post says the event is canceled.
The agent told me my refund was processed.
The 'Me' Test
No 'To' with Tell
Inanimate Objects
Softening Commands
Smart Tips
Stop! Change it to 'told me' or 'said to me'.
Always use 'tell' + person + 'to'. It's the cleanest way to report an order.
Always check for the 'to'.
Use 'says', not 'tells'.
Pronunciation
The 'Said' Vowel
The word 'said' is pronounced with a short /e/ sound, like 'bed'. It does NOT rhyme with 'paid'.
The 'Says' Vowel
Similarly, 'says' is pronounced /sez/, rhyming with 'fez', not /seɪz/.
Told Diphthong
The 'o' in 'told' is a long diphthong /oʊ/, like in 'gold' or 'cold'.
Reporting Emphasis
He TOLD me (not just said it!)
Emphasizing 'told' stresses that the information was specifically directed at the listener.
Memorize It
Mnemonic
TELL needs a TAIL (a person at the end of the verb). SAY is for what you SPAY (speak/display).
Visual Association
Imagine the word 'TELL' having a long arm reaching out to grab a person (me, you, him). Imagine 'SAY' as a speech bubble containing only words, with no one nearby.
Rhyme
If you mention who you sell the news to, use TELL. If the words are all you say, then SAY is the way.
Story
Tom wanted to share a secret. He **said** 'I have a secret' to the wall. Then he saw Mary. He **told Mary** the secret. Mary **said** 'Wow!' and then she **told everyone**.
Word Web
Challenge
Look at your last 3 sent text messages. If you were reporting them to a friend, would you use 'say' or 'tell'? Write them out now.
Cultural Notes
Using 'tell' for orders is common, but in some cultures, it can sound too direct or aggressive. Using 'He said that I should...' is slightly softer than 'He told me to...'.
In casual American English, 'be like' is frequently used instead of 'say' or 'tell' to report speech and thoughts simultaneously.
The phrase 'I've been told' is a common polite way to introduce a piece of information without naming the source, often used in professional settings.
Both verbs come from Old English roots. 'Say' comes from 'secgan' (to say, speak, tell), and 'tell' comes from 'tellan' (to count, reckon, relate).
Conversation Starters
What did your best friend tell you recently?
Tell me about a time someone told you a secret.
What is the funniest joke someone has ever told you?
If you could say one thing to your younger self, what would it be?
Journal Prompts
Common Mistakes
Test Yourself
She ___ me that she was tired.
He ___ that he would be late for the meeting.
Find and fix the mistake:
I said him to be quiet.
He said to me, 'I am hungry.'
Match each item on the left with its pair on the right:
A: What did the doctor ___ you? B: He ___ I should eat more vegetables.
Select the correct sentence.
You can use 'say' with a person if you use 'to'.
Score: /8
Practice Exercises
8 exercisesShe ___ me that she was tired.
He ___ that he would be late for the meeting.
Find and fix the mistake:
I said him to be quiet.
He said to me, 'I am hungry.'
Match the following:
A: What did the doctor ___ you? B: He ___ I should eat more vegetables.
Select the correct sentence.
You can use 'say' with a person if you use 'to'.
Score: /8
Practice Bank
12 exercisesMy coach always ___ us to train harder.
The weather forecast told it would rain tomorrow.
Choose the correct sentence:
Translate into English: 'My professor told me to read chapter three.'
Arrange these words into a sentence:
Match the reported verb with the correct structure:
The sign ___ 'No Parking'.
Choose the correct sentence:
Translate into English: 'She said she would call me back.'
He told a lie on his resume.
Arrange these words into a sentence:
Match the sentence beginning with the correct continuation:
Score: /12
FAQ (8)
Yes, but only in specific idioms like `tell a lie`, `tell the truth`, `tell a story`, or `tell the time`.
Yes, it is grammatically correct, but it is much less common than `He told me`. It sounds a bit more formal or old-fashioned.
`Tell` is for giving information (one-way), while `talk` is for having a conversation (two-way).
This is an old idiomatic use of 'tell' meaning 'to count' or 'to account for'.
Yes! `Tell me that you love me` is a perfect example of 'tell + person + that-clause'.
No. `Said` is pronounced /sed/, rhyming with 'red' or 'bed'.
You can, but you need to use 'that' and a modal verb: `He said that I should go`. `He told me to go` is more direct.
If you aren't mentioning the listener, you must use `say`. Example: `Someone said there was a fire.`
Scaffolded Practice
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Mastery Progress
Needs Practice
Improving
Strong
Mastered
In Other Languages
decir / contar
Spanish allows 'me dijo' (he said me), which is impossible in English.
dire / raconter
French doesn't have a direct equivalent to the 'tell + person' structural rule.
sagen / erzählen
German 'sagen' is used more often with people than English 'say'.
iu (言う) / tsutaeru (伝える)
Japanese doesn't distinguish between say/tell based on the presence of a listener in the same way.
qala (قال) / akhbara (أخبر)
Arabic uses one verb ('qala') for both 'say' and 'tell' in 90% of cases.
shuō (说) / gàosù (告诉)
Chinese 'shuō' can sometimes take a person as an object in casual speech.
Learning Path
Prerequisites
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