Said vs. Told: What's the Difference?
Grammar Rule in 30 Seconds
Use 'tell' when you mention the listener immediately after the verb; use 'say' when the focus is on the words themselves.
- Use 'tell' with a personal object: 'He told me the secret.'
- Use 'say' without a personal object: 'She said she was tired.'
- Use 'say to' if you must mention the listener with 'say': 'He said to me that he was leaving.'
Overview
English verbs say and tell are frequently confused, presenting a significant challenge for intermediate learners. While both verbs relate to the act of communication, their fundamental distinction lies in their grammatical structure and the presence of a specified recipient. Understanding this difference is crucial for both syntactic correctness and semantic precision, allowing you to convey meaning accurately and sound natural in English.
The core principle is straightforward: tell requires a direct object that refers to the person or people being addressed, while say typically does not. When you tell something, you are directing information to a specific individual or group. For instance, in the sentence She told me the news, me is the direct object—the recipient of the news.
Conversely, say focuses primarily on the message itself, without necessarily identifying a specific listener within the sentence structure, as in She said the news was surprising. The words are uttered, and the message exists, but the immediate recipient is not a grammatical requirement of say.
This distinction is not merely stylistic; it reflects different underlying grammatical principles of how these verbs function within a sentence. Tell is inherently a ditransitive verb in this context, meaning it takes two objects: an indirect object (the person) and a direct object (the message). Say, however, is typically monotransitive, taking only the message as its direct object, or it can be used intransitively.
Grasping this difference is foundational to mastering their correct usage at a B1 CEFR level and beyond.
How This Grammar Works
say vs. tell dilemma, we must delve into their transitivity and typical syntactic patterns. This grammatical deep dive explains why these verbs behave differently and provides a framework for consistent correct usage.Say functions primarily as a verb that introduces speech or reports information. When say takes a direct object, that object is usually the content of the speech, often presented as a clause.He said that he was tired. Here, that he was tired is the direct object (a noun clause) of said. Say can also be used intransitively, meaning without any object, such as He just said.say does involve a listener, it almost always requires a prepositional phrase, specifically to + the listener. Consider the structure He said to me that he was tired. The listener me is part of a prepositional phrase (to me), not a direct object of said.say from tell, which incorporates the listener directly as its indirect object. This structure emphasizes said as a verb focused on the message's content, with the recipient being a secondary, prepositions-governed element.Tell, in contrast, is fundamentally about imparting information directly to a recipient. Its most common and distinguishing use is as a ditransitive verb, requiring both an indirect object (the person) and a direct object (the message). For example, in She told her friend a secret, her friend is the indirect object (the receiver) and a secret is the direct object (the message).tell grammatically incomplete in this construction. The structure implicitly focuses on the act of directing information to someone. This makes tell particularly suitable for conveying instructions, news, or narratives where the act of communication to a specific party is paramount.say emphasizes the utterance—the words themselves. Tell emphasizes the transmission of information—the act of informing someone. This distinction underpins many of the fixed expressions and collocations in English.tell a story or tell a joke, implying a narrative delivered to an audience. You tell the truth or tell a lie, referring to imparting factual (or non-factual) information directly. You also tell the time or tell the difference, where tell means to discern or distinguish and convey that discernment.tell's inherent focus on directed communication or discernment followed by communication.say and tell can introduce direct speech, but their structures remain distinct:"I'm tired," he said.(No listener specified forsaid)"I'm tired," he said to me.(Listener with prepositionto)"I'm tired," he told me.(Listener as direct object oftold)
that-clause is frequently used, especially with say, though it can be omitted, particularly in informal contexts:She said that she would be late.She told me that she would be late.
tell necessitating a listener as a direct object, and say using a listener only via a prepositional phrase (to) or omitting them entirely—is the cornerstone of their correct application. This understanding moves beyond rote memorization to a deeper appreciation of English verb structures.Formation Pattern
say and tell fundamentally depends on recognizing and applying their distinct grammatical patterns. These patterns dictate which elements (subject, verb, listener, message) must be present and in what order. Memorizing these structures provides a reliable guide for correct usage.
said and told), as this is where the confusion most frequently arises.
Say (Simple Past: said)
say focuses on the content of the utterance. It is typically followed by the message itself, often in the form of a that-clause. The listener is either absent from the sentence structure or introduced with the preposition to.
said + (that) + Clause |
said + "..." |
said + to + Listener + (that) + Clause |
said + to + Listener + "..." |
The weather forecast said it would rain tomorrow. (Message only, no specific listener.)
My professor said to the class that the exam was postponed. (Message with listener, said to emphasizes the formal announcement.)
that conjunction is optional in informal speech, but it's often retained in more formal contexts or when clarity is paramount. The use of said to + Listener is grammatically correct but often sounds more formal or emphasizes the specific act of speaking to that person, making told a more common and natural choice in many informal reporting situations.
Tell (Simple Past: told)
tell always involves a direct transmission of information to a specified recipient. Therefore, the listener is an essential component of its grammatical structure in most common uses.
told + Listener + (that) + Clause |\
told + Listener + "..." |\
told + Object |\
The tour guide told us about the history of the castle. (Message to a listener.)
He always told great stories from his travels. (Fixed expression, no explicit listener, but stories is the direct object.)
tell, the listener object (me, him, us, the students, her manager) is almost always mandatory when reporting speech. The that conjunction, similar to say, is optional for indirect speech but often used for clarity. The fixed expressions (tell a story, tell a lie, tell the truth) are important exceptions where tell takes the 'message' as its direct object, and the listener is implied by context rather than explicitly stated. These are specific collocations that must be learned.
told versus the absence or prepositional placement (to) of the listener after said.
When To Use It
said and told goes beyond mere grammatical rules; it often reflects a subtle emphasis on different aspects of communication. Understanding these contextual nuances will help you deploy say and tell with greater precision and fluency.Said When:- Focusing on the content of the message: When the words themselves, or the information conveyed, are the most important aspect, and the specific recipient is either unknown, unimportant, or implied.
The report said that inflation was rising.(The report's content is key.)He merely said 'hello' and walked past.(Focus on the simple utterance.)
- Reporting general statements or observations: For conveying facts, opinions, or general information without emphasizing a direct address to someone.
Experts said that regular exercise is vital for health.(General statement, no specific listener required.)She said she was feeling much better after her nap.(An observation about her state.)
- Introducing direct speech, especially without a named recipient:
Saidis the most common and neutral verb for introducing quoted speech. "I'll be there by 7," he said."Don't forget your keys," she said as I left.
- Referring to text or signs: Because text doesn't speak to someone in the same way a person does,
saidis always used for what signs, books, or notes communicate. The email said the meeting was cancelled.The sign clearly said, 'No Parking.'
Told When:- Directing information to a specific person or group: When the recipient of the message is identified and crucial to the meaning.
He told his mother about his new job.(The mother is the specific recipient.)The teacher told the students to open their books.(Specific instruction to students.)
- Imparting instructions, commands, or advice:
Tellis preferred when the communication involves a directive or guidance. My doctor told me to take the medicine twice a day.(Medical instruction.)She told him not to worry about the exam.(Advice or reassurance.)
- Narrating stories, jokes, or reporting secrets/lies/the truth: These are strong collocations that almost exclusively use
tell(and its past tensetold). Here,tellimplies a more elaborate or significant disclosure. He told a hilarious joke at the party.You must tell me everything that happened!(Implies a detailed narrative.)Are you telling me the truth?
- When the act of informing or revealing is emphasized:
Tellsuggests a more active process of conveying knowledge or disclosure. She told me her secret plans for the weekend.(The act of revealing the secret.)
dire/raconter, Spanish decir/contar, German sagen/erzählen), a similar distinction exists, often linking one verb to general speech and the other to narrative or informing. However, the precise grammatical requirements (like the direct object for the listener) differ, which can be a source of error for learners whose native language handles these concepts differently.Common Mistakes
said and told persist due to their close semantic relationship and subtle grammatical differences. Identifying and understanding the root causes of these mistakes is key to eradicating them from your speech and writing.said with a direct object listener (e.g., said me)say does not take a direct object that is a person. When a listener is mentioned with say, it must be part of a prepositional phrase using to.- Incorrect:
She said me that the train was late. - Why it's wrong:
Meis functioning as a direct object, whichsaidcannot grammatically accept in this position. It feels ungrammatical becausesaidis not structured to pass the action directly to a person in this way. - Correct:
She told me that the train was late.(Here,meis the indirect object oftold.) - Correct (alternative):
She said to me that the train was late.(Here,to meis a prepositional phrase, not a direct object.)
said me, said him, said her, etc. If you're compelled to mention the listener immediately after the verb, told is almost always the correct choice.told (e.g., told that)tell is inherently about directing information to someone, it requires an explicit listener as its indirect object (except in fixed expressions like tell a story). Omitting this listener leaves the sentence grammatically incomplete and unclear.- Incorrect:
He told that he had finished the project. - Why it's wrong:
Toldis a ditransitive verb that needs to know who was told. Without the indirect object (the listener), the verb's action is left incomplete. It sounds like a missing piece of information. - Correct:
He told us that he had finished the project.(Explicit listenerus.) - Correct (alternative):
He said that he had finished the project.(If the listener is unknown or unimportant.)
told, your sentence is likely incorrect.say and tell in fixed expressions and collocationssay or only tell is grammatically acceptable, even if the general rules seem to suggest otherwise. These are collocations that must be learned.Tell a story(NOTsay a story)Tell a joke(NOTsay a joke)Tell a lie(NOTsay a lie)Tell the truth(NOTsay the truth)Tell the time(NOTsay the time)Tell the difference(NOTsay the difference)Tell someone's fortune(NOTsay someone's fortune)Say 'hello'/'goodbye'/'thank you'(NOTtell 'hello') - These are utterances, not imparting information to a specific person.
He told a joke, a joke is the direct object, and the listener is implied rather than explicitly stated as an indirect object. It's the act of narrating the joke that makes tell appropriate.said to in informal contextssaid to + listener is grammatically correct, it can sound overly formal or slightly unnatural in everyday, casual conversation compared to told.- Grammatically Correct but Less Natural (informal):
My friend said to me that she was hungry. - More Natural (informal):
My friend told me that she was hungry.
Said to is often preferred in formal writing, legal documents, or when you want to emphasize the specific act of speaking directly to someone (e.g., The judge said to the witness...). For most reporting in conversation, told is smoother and more common if a listener is present.say and tell.Real Conversations
The distinction between said and told becomes most apparent and useful in the dynamic flow of real-life communication. Observing their usage in various scenarios—from casual texts to professional exchanges—reinforces the grammatical rules and semantic nuances.
Scenario 1
- Liam: Hey, what did Sarah say about the party? Is she coming?
- Maya: She told me she's super busy with work this week, so she probably can't make it. But she said to send her photos!
- Liam: Ah, bummer. Did she say anything about rescheduling our coffee then?
- Maya: Oh, right! I totally forgot to ask. I'll tell her you asked about it now.
Analysis
told me because she's relaying information to Liam that Sarah specifically communicated to her*. Liam uses say when inquiring about general information (what did Sarah say?) or direct content (did she say anything about...) where the specific recipient of Sarah's original message is less important.Scenario 2
- Email from Project Manager: "During our meeting, John said that the new software update would be deployed by end of day. He also told the team to back up their local files before the update."
- Team Member A: "Did anyone tell you about the new security protocols?"
- Team Member B: "Yes, Sarah told me yesterday. She said it was quite urgent."
Analysis
said for a general statement of fact (John said that...) and told for a direct instruction to the team* (He told the team...). Team Member B uses told me because Sarah specifically communicated the protocols to them, and then said to report the general urgency of the message.Scenario 3
- Parent to Child: "I've told you a hundred times, always clean your room before you go out!"
- Friend A: "I'm feeling really stressed about this presentation."
- Friend B: "Don't worry. My old professor always said that practice makes perfect. He also told me to take deep breaths before speaking."
Analysis
told for repeated instructions to the child. Friend B uses said for a general piece of wisdom (practice makes perfect) and then told me for specific, directed advice given to them* (take deep breaths).These examples illustrate that native speakers naturally select say or tell based on the immediate grammatical requirement of a direct listener and the subtle emphasis they wish to convey, often without conscious thought about transitivity. By immersing yourself in such contexts, you can develop a similar intuition.
Quick FAQ
say and tell, addressing common points of confusion for B1 learners.- What's the fundamental difference? The core distinction is the presence of a direct object listener.
Tellrequires a listener (e.g.,He told me), whilesaydoes not (e.g.,He said). Ifsayincludes a listener, it must be with the prepositionto(e.g.,He said to me).
- Can I ever use
said me? No, never. This is a persistent and ungrammatical error.Saydoes not take a person as a direct object. Always usetold meorsaid to meinstead.
- Is
said to mealways interchangeable withtold me? Grammatically, often yes, especially in reporting speech. However,told meis generally more common and natural in everyday conversation.Said to metends to be more formal or emphasizes the act of speaking directly to a person, often used in written reports or when quoting someone precisely.
- Do the rules change in different tenses (e.g.,
will say/will tell,have said/have told)? No, the rules of transitivity and listener requirement remain consistent across all tenses. The core distinction applies whether you are using the present, past, future, or perfect tenses.
- Is
toldmore formal thansaid? Not inherently. Their usage is dictated by grammatical structure and semantic nuance, not a scale of formality. Both are common in formal and informal contexts. Choosing one over the other based on formality alone would be a mistake.
- Can both
saidandtoldintroduce direct quotes? Yes, both can. However, the rule about the listener still applies.He said, "I'm leaving."(No listener required).He told me, "I'm leaving."(Listener required fortold). When usingsaidwith a listener for a direct quote, it would beHe said to me, "I'm leaving.".
- What about
tell a story,tell a joke,tell the truth? These don't seem to have a listener. These are fixed expressions or collocations. In these phrases,telltakes the noun (e.g.,story,joke,truth) as its direct object. The listener is implied by the context of sharing these things, but not grammatically required aftertellin these specific constructions. You must learn these as set phrases that usetell.
- How can I practice to avoid mistakes?
- Active listening: Pay attention to how native speakers use
saidandtoldin movies, podcasts, and conversations. - Conscious construction: Before using either verb, pause and consider: "Am I specifically naming the person receiving the information?" If yes,
toldis likely; if not,saidis usually correct. - Self-correction: If you catch yourself saying
said me, immediately correct it aloud totold meorsaid to me. Consistent practice builds muscle memory for correct usage.
say and tell in your English communication. Your ability to distinguish between them is a clear marker of advancing proficiency.Conjugation of Say and Tell
| Tense | Say (Irregular) | Tell (Irregular) |
|---|---|---|
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Base Form
|
say
|
tell
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Present Simple (he/she/it)
|
says /sez/
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tells
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Past Simple
|
said /sed/
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told
|
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Past Participle
|
said /sed/
|
told
|
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Present Participle
|
saying
|
telling
|
Meanings
Both verbs report information, but 'tell' requires an indirect object (the listener), while 'say' focuses on the message content.
Reporting Information
To give information or news to someone.
“He said that the meeting was canceled.”
“She told her boss that she was quitting.”
Giving Instructions
Using 'tell' to order or instruct someone to do something.
“The doctor told me to stay in bed.”
“I told him not to touch the stove.”
Collocations (Fixed Phrases)
Specific expressions where only one of the verbs is correct regardless of the general rule.
“Can you tell the time?”
“He always tells the truth.”
Distinguishing/Identifying
Using 'tell' to mean 'to know' or 'to distinguish' between things.
“I can't tell the difference between these two colors.”
“Can you tell if she's joking?”
Reference Table
| Form | Structure | Example |
|---|---|---|
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Affirmative (Say)
|
Subject + said + (that) + clause
|
She said she was busy.
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Affirmative (Tell)
|
Subject + told + object + (that) + clause
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She told me she was busy.
|
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Negative (Say)
|
Subject + didn't say + (that) + clause
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He didn't say where he was.
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Negative (Tell)
|
Subject + didn't tell + object + (that) + clause
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He didn't tell us where he was.
|
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Question (Say)
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Did + subject + say + (that) + clause?
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Did they say they were coming?
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Question (Tell)
|
Did + subject + tell + object + (that) + clause?
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Did they tell you they were coming?
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Imperative (Tell)
|
Tell + object + to + verb
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Tell him to call me.
|
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Fixed Phrase
|
Tell + the truth / a lie / a story
|
Always tell the truth.
|
Formality Spectrum
He informed the committee that he would be resigning. (Workplace resignation)
He told the committee that he was quitting. (Workplace resignation)
He said he was gonna quit. (Workplace resignation)
He was like, 'I'm out.' (Workplace resignation)
The Communication Flow
SAY
- Focus on Message He said 'Hi'
- No direct object She said that...
TELL
- Focus on Listener He told me
- Requires object Tell them the news
Say vs. Tell Structure
Which verb should I use?
Are you mentioning the listener immediately?
Is it a story, joke, or the truth?
Common Collocations
Always TELL
- • the truth
- • a lie
- • a story
- • a joke
- • the time
Always SAY
- • hello/goodbye
- • a prayer
- • yes/no
- • something/nothing
- • a few words
Examples by Level
He said hello.
Tell me your name.
She said, 'I am hungry.'
They told us a joke.
He told me that he was tired.
What did you say to her?
The teacher told the students to sit down.
I said I would help you.
She told me about her trip to Italy.
He said he had never been there before.
Can you tell the difference between these two?
I told him not to worry about the bill.
It is said that the CEO will resign tomorrow.
I couldn't tell if she was being serious or not.
He said to me, quite clearly, that he was finished.
To tell you the truth, I don't really like pizza.
The evidence tells a very different story.
Needless to say, we were all very disappointed.
He was told off by his manager for being late.
I can't tell you how much I appreciate this.
There were fifty people there, all told.
The long hours were starting to tell on his health.
Whatever he says goes in this office.
He has a certain 'je ne sais quoi', as the French say.
Easily Confused
Learners often use 'say' when they mean 'talk' or 'speak'.
Learners forget the 'to' when using 'say' with a listener.
Mixing up the tense backshift while trying to choose between say and tell.
Common Mistakes
He told that he is happy.
He said that he is happy.
She said me hello.
She said hello to me.
I sayed him the truth.
I told him the truth.
Tell to me your name.
Tell me your name.
He told to go home.
He told me to go home.
I said him to wait.
I told him to wait.
She said a story.
She told a story.
He said me that he was busy.
He told me that he was busy.
Can you say me the time?
Can you tell me the time?
I said to him 'No'.
I said 'No' to him.
All said, it was a good day.
All told, it was a good day.
The stress was starting to say on her.
The stress was starting to tell on her.
Sentence Patterns
He told me that ___.
She said, '___.'
I can't tell if ___.
They told us to ___.
Real World Usage
He said he's on his way.
I told my previous employer that I was ready for a new challenge.
Who told you that?!
The pilot said there would be some turbulence.
I told the driver to leave the food at the gate.
The doctor told me to take this medicine twice a day.
The 'Me' Test
No 'To' with Tell
Reporting Orders
Secrets and Jokes
Smart Tips
Choose 'tell'.
Use 'say'.
Drop the 'that' after say or tell.
Use 'tell' to mean 'distinguish'.
Pronunciation
The 'said' vowel
The word 'said' is pronounced with a short 'e' sound, like 'bed'. It is NOT pronounced like 'paid'.
The 'says' vowel
Similarly, 'says' is pronounced /sez/, like 'says' rhymes with 'fez'.
The 'told' diphthong
The 'o' in 'told' is a long 'o' sound, like 'gold' or 'cold'.
Reporting emphasis
He TOLD me (not you).
Emphasizing the recipient of the information.
Quote emphasis
He said 'NO'.
Emphasizing the specific words used.
Memorize It
Mnemonic
You TELL a person, but you SAY a word.
Visual Association
Imagine a megaphone (SAY) broadcasting to a crowd, vs. a person whispering (TELL) directly into someone's ear.
Rhyme
If the listener is in the slot, use TELL to hit the spot. If the message is all you play, then the word you need is SAY.
Story
Tom wanted to share a secret. He SAID, 'I have a secret.' Then he TOLD his friend the secret. His friend SAID, 'Wow!' and TOLD Tom not to worry.
Word Web
Challenge
Look at your last 5 sent text messages. Rewrite them using 'said' or 'told' to report what you or others communicated.
Cultural Notes
In some UK dialects, 'I says' is used informally in storytelling (e.g., 'So I says to him...'), but this is grammatically non-standard.
The use of 'be like' as a reporting verb is extremely common among younger generations, often replacing 'said'.
Directness in 'telling' can vary. In some professional cultures, 'I was told' is used to deflect personal responsibility for a decision.
Both words come from Old English: 'secgan' (to say) and 'tellan' (to count, reckon, or relate).
Conversation Starters
Tell me about your favorite childhood memory.
Has anyone ever told you a secret you couldn't keep?
What is something your teacher always told you to do?
Can you tell the difference between cheap and expensive coffee?
Journal Prompts
Common Mistakes
Test Yourself
She ___ me that she was moving to London.
He ___ 'Hello' and walked away.
Find and fix the mistake:
I said him to be quiet.
Match each item on the left with its pair on the right:
He said to me that he was lost.
A: What did he ___? B: He ___ me to leave.
You can use 'say' followed immediately by a person (e.g., 'I said him').
___ a joke
Score: /8
Practice Exercises
8 exercisesShe ___ me that she was moving to London.
He ___ 'Hello' and walked away.
Find and fix the mistake:
I said him to be quiet.
1. Tell, 2. Say
He said to me that he was lost.
A: What did he ___? B: He ___ me to leave.
You can use 'say' followed immediately by a person (e.g., 'I said him').
___ a joke
Score: /8
Practice Bank
13 exercisesOur guide ___ us to stay on the path.
I'm not sure what he ___, but everyone laughed.
Choose the correct sentence:
Choose the correct sentence:
The doctor told that I should get more rest.
Please said them the news as soon as possible.
Translate into English: 'El me dijo un secreto.'
Translate into English: 'Ella dijo que la película era aburrida.'
Arrange these words into a sentence:
Arrange these words into a sentence:
Match the beginnings with the correct endings:
What did you ___ to him?
They said us they would arrive at 8 PM.
Score: /13
FAQ (8)
Yes, but only if you use the preposition 'to'. For example: 'He said to me that he was tired.' However, 'He told me' is much more common.
These are fixed collocations. 'Tell' is used for longer narratives (stories, jokes), while 'say' is used for shorter, ritualistic utterances (prayers, greetings).
No, 'say' is irregular. The past tense is 'said', pronounced like 'sed'.
Yes! In this case, 'me' is the object, and the 'something' is implied by the context.
'Inform' is much more formal. You 'tell' your friend a secret, but you 'inform' your boss of a decision.
It is always 'tell the truth'.
Yes, it can mean to distinguish or know. 'I can't tell the difference' means 'I don't know the difference'.
It is optional in informal English. 'He said he was tired' and 'He said that he was tired' are both correct.
Scaffolded Practice
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Mastery Progress
Needs Practice
Improving
Strong
Mastered
In Other Languages
decir / contar
Spanish 'decir' doesn't require a change in verb based on the presence of a listener.
dire / raconter
French speakers often say 'He said me' because 'Il m'a dit' is a direct translation.
sagen / erzählen
German uses 'sagen' with a listener more frequently than English uses 'say' with a listener.
iu (言う) / hanasu (話す)
Japanese verbs don't have the same 'object requirement' that 'tell' has.
qala (قال) / akhbara (أخبر)
Arabic uses 'qala' with a preposition 'li' (to) very frequently, similar to 'say to'.
shuō (说) / gàosù (告诉)
Chinese speakers may still confuse them due to the lack of tense markers in their native language.
Learning Path
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