Portuguese Reflexive Verbs: Doing Things to Yourself (-se)
Grammar Rule in 30 Seconds
Reflexive verbs show the subject performing an action upon themselves, marked by the reflexive pronoun 'se'.
- Use 'me, te, se, nos, se' before the verb: Eu me lavo (I wash myself).
- In negative sentences, the pronoun stays before the verb: Não me lavo.
- In Brazilian Portuguese, pronouns often precede the verb; in European, they often follow with a hyphen.
Overview
Portuguese reflexive verbs describe an action that the subject performs on itself. The core idea is simple: the doer of the action is also the receiver. In their dictionary form (the infinitive), you'll recognize these verbs by the particle -se attached to the end, as in lavar-se (to wash oneself) or vestir-se (to dress oneself).
This -se is a critical flag, signaling that the verb requires a companion: a reflexive pronoun that must agree with the subject.
The linguistic principle at play is valency. A non-reflexive verb like lavar (to wash) directs its action outward, requiring an external object (lavar o carro – to wash the car). By adding the reflexive particle, you change the verb's valency, turning its action inward.
The object becomes the subject itself. This is not just a grammatical curiosity; it's a fundamental mechanism for expressing daily routines, personal care, changes in emotional or physical states, and reciprocal actions.
Mastering these verbs is essential for moving beyond simply describing the world to describing your personal experience within it. For an A2 learner, this is the grammatical key to talking about your daily life, from the moment you get up (levantar-se) to the moment you go to bed (deitar-se).
Conjugation Table
| Subject Pronoun | Reflexive Pronoun | Brazilian Portuguese (Proclisis) | European Portuguese (Enclisis) | Translation | ||
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| :--- | :--- | :--- | :--- | :--- | ||
Eu |
me |
Eu me lavo |
Eu lavo-me |
I wash myself | ||
Tu |
te |
Tu te lavas |
Tu lavas-te |
You (informal) wash yourself | ||
Ele/Ela/Você |
se |
Ele se lava |
Ele lava-se |
He/She/You (formal) wash(es) him/her/yourself | ||
Nós |
nos |
Nós nos lavamos |
Nós lavamo-nos |
We wash ourselves | ||
Vós |
vos |
Vós vos lavais |
Vós lavais-vos |
You (pl., informal) wash yourselves | ||
Eles/Elas/Vocês |
se |
Eles se lavam |
Eles lavam-se |
They/You (pl., formal) wash themselves/yourselves |
How This Grammar Works
me(myself)te(yourself — used withtu)se(himself, herself, yourself — used withvocê, and themselves/yourselves — used witheles/elas/vocês)nos(ourselves)vos(yourselves — used withvós, mainly in EP)
Eu me sinto bem hoje.(I feel good today.)Ela se esqueceu da reunião.(She forgot about the meeting.)
sinto-me) exists in BP, it is reserved for very formal writing or literary contexts and can sound unnatural in conversation.Eu sinto-me bem hoje.(I feel good today.)Ela esqueceu-se da reunião.(She forgot about the meeting.)
- Negative words:
não,nunca,jamais Eu não me sinto bem.(I don't feel well.)- Question words:
quem,quando,onde,por que Quando te deitas normalmente?(When do you normally go to bed?)- Certain conjunctions:
que,porque,se Espero que te divirtas.(I hope you have fun.)
Formation Pattern
preocupar-se (to worry).
nós (we).
nós, so the reflexive pronoun must be nos.
preocupar. For nós in the present tense, it becomes preocupamos.
Nós nos preocupamos.
-s of the verb: preocupamos + nos → Nós preocupamo-nos.
queixar-se (to complain) and the subject ela (she).
se
queixar → queixa
Ela se queixa.
Ela queixa-se.
When To Use It
- 1. Daily Routines and Personal Care: This is the most common and intuitive use. These are actions you do to your own body.
acordar-se(to wake up)levantar-se(to get up)barbear-se(to shave oneself)pentear-se(to comb one's hair)deitar-se(to lie down/go to bed)- Example:
Eu me levanto sempre às sete horas.(I always get up at seven.)
- 2. Changes in Emotional or Physical State: Verbs that describe a change in how you feel or your condition are often reflexive.
sentir-se(to feel an emotion/condition)preocupar-se com(to worry about)zangar-se(to get angry)apaixonar-se por(to fall in love with)- Example:
Ela se apaixonou pelo colega de trabalho.(She fell in love with her coworker.)
- 3. Actions Involving Body Movement: This category includes verbs describing how you move or position your own body.
sentar-se(to sit down)mover-se(to move oneself)virar-se(to turn oneself around)- Example:
Por favor, sente-se.(Please, sit down.)
- 4. Remembering and Forgetting: In Portuguese, the acts of remembering and forgetting are often framed as reflexive internal processes.
lembrar-se de(to remember)esquecer-se de(to forget)- Example:
Você se lembra do nome dele?(Do you remember his name?)
- 5. Reciprocal Actions: Reflexive pronouns (especially
nosandse) can also mean "each other." The context makes the meaning clear. This is called a reciprocal use. Eles se abraçaram.(They hugged each other.)Nós nos encontramos amanhã.(We'll meet each other tomorrow.)
When Not To Use It
Eu me lavo de manhã. (I wash myself in the morning.) | Eu lavo a louça. (I wash the dishes.) |Ela se veste para a festa. (She gets dressed for the party.) | Ela veste a filha. (She dresses her daughter.) |Nós nos vemos no espelho. (We see ourselves in the mirror.) | Nós vemos um filme. (We see a movie.) |Eu me como a pizza literally means "I eat myself the pizza," which is incorrect. The correct sentence is simply Eu como a pizza (I eat the pizza), as the action of eating is directed at the pizza, not at you.Common Mistakes
- 1Forgetting the Pronoun Entirely: This is the most frequent mistake. A learner says
Eu levanto às 8, trying to say "I get up at 8." To a native speaker, this sounds like "I lift (something) at 8." The sentence is incomplete because the verblevantarrequires an object. By addingme(Eu me levanto), you clarify that you are the object being lifted.
se as the main reflexive particle. You might see Eu se chamo... instead of the correct Eu me chamo... or Tu se lavas instead of Tu te lavas. Always double-check that the pronoun matches the subject (eume, tu → te, nós → nos, etc.).- 1Confusing Brazilian and European Placement: Using BP's proclisis (
me lavo) in a formal EP context will sound wrong. Conversely, using EP's enclisis (lavo-me) in a casual BP conversation can sound stiff or even arrogant. When you're starting, it's best to choose one standard (usually based on where you plan to travel or who your teacher is) and stick with it to build consistency.
- 1Misusing
Esquecervs.Esquecer-se: This is a finer point. BothEu esqueci a chaveandEu me esqueci da chavemean "I forgot the key." The reflexive form,esquecer-se de, is often more common in speech and emphasizes a mental lapse. The non-reflexive form is also correct and focuses more on the object that was forgotten. As an A2 learner, you can use either, but be aware that the reflexive version is extremely common.
Memory Trick
To internalize reflexive verbs, use mental models to make the concept stick.
- The "To Myself" Test: This is your most reliable trick. When you see a verb, ask if you can logically add "(to/for) myself, yourself, himself, etc." after it in English. If yes, it's very likely reflexive in Portuguese.
- I get (myself) up. → levantar-se
- She puts (herself) to bed. → deitar-se
- He worries (himself). → preocupar-se
- The Mirror Image: Think of the reflexive pronoun as a mirror. The action of the verb (ver - to see) leaves the subject (Eu), hits the mirror (me), and bounces right back. The result: Eu me vejo (I see myself). For any action you can imagine doing while looking in a mirror—washing your face, combing your hair, getting dressed—the verb is reflexive.
- Routine = Reflexive: Create a strong mental link between the concept of a "daily routine" and reflexive verbs. Memorize this core sequence: acordar-se → levantar-se → lavar-se → vestir-se → deitar-se. If you can lock this sequence in your mind as definitively reflexive, you'll have a solid foundation for the entire category.
Real Conversations
Textbook examples are clean, but real-world Portuguese is fast and often abbreviated. Here’s how you'll see and hear reflexive verbs in the wild.
- Texting / WhatsApp (BP):
- Td bem? A gente se fala dps. (Tudo bem? A gente se fala depois. - All good? We'll talk later.) Note: a gente is a common colloquial substitute for nós in BP and uses the se pronoun.
- Vc se lembra onde a gente se encontrou? (Você se lembra onde a gente se encontrou? - Do you remember where we met?)
- Social Media Captions:
- BP: Me sentindo feliz e realizada! (Feeling happy and fulfilled!) Note the common BP pattern of starting a sentence with a pronoun, which is considered incorrect in formal grammar but is ubiquitous in speech.
- EP: A preparar-me para um fim de semana incrível. (Getting myself ready for an incredible weekend.)
- Casual Spoken Dialogue (BP):
- A: E aí, cara, beleza?
- B: Beleza. Me atrasei um pouco, foi mal. O trânsito tava tenso. (Great. I was a bit late, my bad. Traffic was intense.) Atrasar-se means to be late/to delay oneself.
- A Cultural Insight: Notice how chamar-se is used for names (Como você se chama?). The literal translation is "How do you call yourself?" This reflects a worldview where your name is part of your identity that you present to the world—an inherently reflexive concept.
Contrast With Similar Patterns
se used in ways that aren't reflexive. Distinguishing between them is crucial for accurate comprehension.se vs. Impersonal sese indicates that there is no specific subject. It's used to make general statements, similar to "one does" or the passive voice in English.- Reflexive:
Ele se machucou.(He hurt himself.) Theseis the object and refers directly toEle. - Impersonal:
Aqui se fala português.(One speaks Portuguese here / Portuguese is spoken here.) Thesedoes not refer to anyone in particular; it makes the action generic.
se vs. Reciprocal se- Reflexive:
As meninas se maquiam.(The girls put makeup on themselves.) Each girl is doing the action to her own face. - Reciprocal:
Os amigos se cumprimentam.(The friends greet each other.) The action of greeting occurs between the friends.
se vs. Passive se (SE Apasivador)se but is used with transitive verbs to form a passive-like construction.- Reflexive:
A mulher se olhou no espelho.(The woman looked at herself in the mirror.) - Passive:
Vende-se esta casa.(This house is for sale / This house is sold.) The house isn't selling itself. This structure hides the agent (the seller) and focuses on the object.
Progressive Practice
Work through these levels to build your skills from recognition to production.
Level 1: Fill in the Pronoun
Fill the blank with the correct reflexive pronoun (me, te, se, nos, vos).
Eu ___ chamo Ana.
Eles ___ deitam muito tarde.
Nós (BP) ___ preocupamos com você.
Tu (EP) lavas-___ todos os dias?
Answers: me, se, nos, te
Level 2: Conjugate the Verb
Provide the correct reflexive form based on the subject and pronoun placement standard.
(Eu / sentar-se / BP) → Eu me sento
(Ela / vestir-se / EP) → Ela veste-se
(Nós / encontrar-se / EP) → Nós encontramo-nos
(Vocês / lembrar-se / BP) → Vocês se lembram
Level 3: Create a Sentence
Use the prompt to write a full sentence using at least one reflexive verb.
Prompt: Describe what you do as soon as you wake up.
Possible Answer: Eu me espreguiço e depois me levanto. (I stretch and then I get up.)
Prompt: Ask a friend if he remembers your birthday.
Possible Answer: Você se lembra do meu aniversário?
Level 4: Correct the Error
Find and fix the mistake in each sentence.
*Maria levanta às sete. → Maria se levanta às sete. (BP) / Maria levanta-se às sete. (EP)
*Nós se vemos no cinema. → Nós nos vemos no cinema.
*Eu não lavo-me aqui. (EP) → Eu não me lavo aqui. (Negative word attracts the pronoun).
Quick FAQ
- Q: Can I just ignore the European Portuguese rules and always use the Brazilian style?
- A: In casual conversation in Portugal, people will understand you, but it will immediately mark you as a foreigner or a Brazilian. For writing, exams, or any formal context in Portugal, you must use the correct EP placement rules (enclisis/proclisis). It's a matter of correctness, not just style.
- Q: Is
a gente se...considered proper grammar in Brazil? - A: In informal, spoken Brazilian Portuguese, it is completely standard and correct.
A gente se vê amanhãis far more common thanNós nos vemos amanhã. However, in formal writing (academic papers, business reports),nósis still preferred.
- Q: What is the difference between
sentirandsentir-se? - A:
Sentiris transitive and means to feel or perceive an external thing (Eu senti o cheiro de café- I smelled the coffee).Sentir-seis reflexive and describes your internal state or emotion (Eu me sinto cansado- I feel tired).
- Q: Why do some reflexive verbs need
deafter them, likeesquecer-se de? - A: This is called verb regency (regência verbal). Certain verbs require a specific preposition to connect to their object or complement.
Esquecer-seandlembrar-seare two key reflexive verbs that almost always require the prepositiondewhen followed by the thing you forgot or remembered. It's best to memorize them as a complete chunk:lembrar-se de algo.
Reflexive Verb Conjugation (Lavar-se)
| Subject | Pronoun | Verb |
|---|---|---|
|
Eu
|
me
|
lavo
|
|
Tu
|
te
|
lavas
|
|
Ele/Ela
|
se
|
lava
|
|
Nós
|
nos
|
lavamos
|
|
Eles/Elas
|
se
|
lavam
|
Meanings
Reflexive verbs indicate that the subject of the sentence is also the object of the action.
Direct Reflexive
The subject performs an action on their own body.
“Eu me penteio.”
“Ela se corta.”
Reciprocal
Two or more subjects perform an action on each other.
“Eles se amam.”
“Nós nos abraçamos.”
Inherent Reflexive
Verbs that are always used with a pronoun, often indicating a change of state.
“Eu me arrependo.”
“Ele se queixa.”
Reference Table
| Form | Structure | Example |
|---|---|---|
|
Affirmative
|
Pronoun + Verb
|
Eu me lavo
|
|
Negative
|
Não + Pronoun + Verb
|
Eu não me lavo
|
|
Interrogative
|
Pronoun + Verb + ?
|
Você se lava?
|
|
Reciprocal
|
Pronoun + Verb
|
Eles se amam
|
|
Inherent
|
Pronoun + Verb
|
Eu me arrependo
|
|
Past
|
Pronoun + Verb (Past)
|
Eu me lavei
|
Formality Spectrum
Vou preparar-me. (Getting ready for an event)
Eu vou me preparar. (Getting ready for an event)
Vou me arrumar. (Getting ready for an event)
Vou me aprontar. (Getting ready for an event)
Reflexive Pronouns Map
1st Person
- me myself
- nos ourselves
2nd Person
- te yourself
3rd Person
- se himself/herself
Examples by Level
Eu me lavo.
I wash myself.
Ele se veste.
He gets dressed.
Nós nos olhamos.
We look at ourselves.
Você se chama?
Do you call yourself?
Eu não me sinto bem.
I don't feel well.
Eles se encontram no parque.
They meet in the park.
Tu te lembras de mim?
Do you remember me?
Nós nos preparamos para a viagem.
We prepare ourselves for the trip.
Eles se amam profundamente.
They love each other deeply.
Eu me arrependo do que disse.
I regret what I said.
Ela se queixa do barulho.
She complains about the noise.
Nós nos divertimos muito ontem.
We had a lot of fun yesterday.
Ele se deixou levar pela emoção.
He let himself be carried away by emotion.
Eles se viram obrigados a sair.
They found themselves forced to leave.
Eu me pergunto se ele virá.
I wonder if he will come.
Nós nos dedicamos ao projeto.
We dedicated ourselves to the project.
O livro se lê facilmente.
The book is easily read.
Eles se fizeram passar por médicos.
They posed as doctors.
Eu me vi diante de um dilema.
I found myself facing a dilemma.
Nós nos havemos de encontrar.
We shall meet.
Viu-se, então, a verdade.
The truth was then seen.
Eles se hão de arrepender.
They will regret it.
Eu me viro como posso.
I manage as I can.
Nós nos desfazemos em desculpas.
We are full of apologies.
Easily Confused
Both use 'me', 'te', 'se'.
Both use 'se'.
Both use 'nos' and 'se'.
Common Mistakes
Eu lavo.
Eu me lavo.
Eu se lavo.
Eu me lavo.
Não lavo-me.
Não me lavo.
Eu me lavo o rosto.
Eu lavo o meu rosto.
Nós nos lavamos.
Nós nos lavamos.
Eles se veste.
Eles se vestem.
Tu se lava.
Tu te lavas.
Eu me arrependo-me.
Eu me arrependo.
Eles se amam-se.
Eles se amam.
O livro se lê-se.
O livro se lê.
Se viu-se o problema.
Viu-se o problema.
Eles se hão de se arrepender.
Eles hão de se arrepender.
Eu me viro-me.
Eu me viro.
Sentence Patterns
Eu ___ ___ todos os dias.
Nós ___ ___ no parque.
Eu não ___ ___ com isso.
Ele ___ ___ a sair.
Real World Usage
Eu me sinto feliz hoje!
Vou me arrumar, já volto.
Eu me preparei para esta vaga.
Onde posso me hospedar?
Vou me servir de um café.
Eu me acordo às 7h.
Mirror Rule
Don't Forget the Pronoun
Placement
Regional Differences
Smart Tips
Always pair the verb with the reflexive pronoun.
Keep the 'não' at the very beginning.
Ensure the subject is plural.
Consider the placement of the pronoun.
Pronunciation
Pronoun stress
Reflexive pronouns are unstressed and attached to the verb's rhythm.
Question
Você se lava? ↑
Rising intonation at the end.
Memorize It
Mnemonic
Me, Te, Se, Nos, Se — like a mirror, the action comes back to me.
Visual Association
Imagine looking into a mirror. Everything you do, your reflection does too. The 'se' is the mirror.
Rhyme
Eu me lavo, tu te lavas, ele se lava, a reflexão não acaba.
Story
João wakes up (se acorda). He washes his face (se lava). He dresses himself (se veste). He looks in the mirror and says, 'I love myself' (Eu me amo).
Word Web
Challenge
Describe your morning routine in 5 sentences using reflexive verbs.
Cultural Notes
Pronouns almost always precede the verb in spoken language.
Pronouns often follow the verb in formal writing.
Similar to Portugal, but with regional variations in pronoun usage.
Derived from Latin pronominal constructions.
Conversation Starters
A que horas você se acorda?
Como você se diverte no fim de semana?
Você se arrepende de alguma coisa?
Como você se vê daqui a cinco anos?
Journal Prompts
Common Mistakes
Test Yourself
Eu ___ lavo.
Eles ___ vestem.
Find and fix the mistake:
Eu lavo.
Arrange the words in the correct order:
All words placed
Click words above to build the sentence
I feel good.
Answer starts with: Eu ...
Match each item on the left with its pair on the right:
Tu (vestir-se)
A: Você se diverte? B: Sim, eu ___ divirto.
Score: /8
Practice Exercises
8 exercisesEu ___ lavo.
Eles ___ vestem.
Find and fix the mistake:
Eu lavo.
lavo / me / Eu
I feel good.
Eu -> ?
Tu (vestir-se)
A: Você se diverte? B: Sim, eu ___ divirto.
Score: /8
Practice Bank
12 exercisesTu deitas-___ tarde aos fins de semana?
Eu não esqueço-me do teu aniversário.
para o trabalho / se arruma / ele / rápido
How do you say 'We get dressed' in PT-EU?
Choose the correct translation:
Match the pairs:
Os meus pais ___ levantam muito cedo. (Brazilian style)
Como chamas-se?
Translate to Portuguese:
Select the correct sentence:
lembro / não / me / eu
A gente ___ vê amanhã!
Score: /12
FAQ (8)
It shows the action is directed at yourself.
Usually before the verb in Brazil.
Yes, it often follows the verb.
Only if it's a reciprocal action.
The meaning changes to a non-reflexive action.
No, only those that can be self-directed.
Put 'não' before the pronoun.
No, it follows a simple pattern.
Scaffolded Practice
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Mastery Progress
Needs Practice
Improving
Strong
Mastered
In Other Languages
Verbos reflexivos
Pronoun placement rules are very similar.
Verbes pronominaux
French uses 'être' as an auxiliary in past tenses.
Reflexive Verben
German has specific reflexive pronouns for all persons.
Jidoushi/Tadoushi
No reflexive pronouns.
Form VIII/V
No pronouns.
Ziji
Word order is different.
Learning Path
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