Portuguese Reflexive Verbs: Doing Actions to Yourself (Verbos Reflexivos)
Grammar Rule in 30 Seconds
Reflexive verbs describe actions where the subject and the object are the same person, using reflexive pronouns like 'me', 'te', or 'se'.
- Use a reflexive pronoun before the verb: 'Eu me lavo' (I wash myself).
- In Brazil, pronouns often come before the verb; in Portugal, they often follow with a hyphen.
- The pronoun must match the subject: 'Eu me', 'Você se', 'Nós nos'.
Overview
Portuguese reflexive verbs, or verbos reflexivos, describe an action where the subject is also the object. In simpler terms, the person or thing performing the action is the same one receiving it. The action “reflects” back onto the doer.
While English often leaves this implied—you say “I'm showering,” not necessarily “I’m showering myself”—Portuguese grammar requires you to be explicit by using a small but essential word called a reflexive pronoun.
Think of the verb lavar (to wash). If you say Eu lavo a roupa (“I wash the clothes”), the action of washing goes from you to an external object (the clothes). But to say you are washing yourself, you must include the reflexive pronoun me: Eu me lavo (“I wash myself”).
Without me, the sentence is grammatically incomplete, leaving a native speaker wondering, “You wash… what?” This structure is fundamental for describing daily routines, personal care, feelings, and movements.
At the A2 level, mastering reflexive verbs is a significant step toward fluency. It unlocks your ability to talk about your everyday life in a natural, grammatically correct way. These aren't just an optional feature; they are a core component of the language, used constantly in conversation.
Understanding them means moving from simply naming actions to describing how those actions relate to you and others.
How This Grammar Works
eu, the pronoun must be me). Its job is to signal that the verb's action loops back to the subject.Eu | me | myself | BP / EP |Tu | te | yourself (singular, informal) | EP / Regional BP |Ele / Ela / Você | se | himself / herself / yourself (formal/standard) | BP / EP |Nós | nos | ourselves | BP / EP |Vós | vos | yourselves (plural, archaic) | Very formal/biblical EP |Eles / Elas / Vocês | se | themselves / yourselves (plural) | BP / EP |você and vocês instead of tu and vós, so se becomes the most frequent reflexive pronoun you'll encounter after me and nos.Eu comi a maçã - I ate the apple). In passive voice, the subject receives the action from an agent (A maçã foi comida por mim - The apple was eaten by me). Reflexive constructions represent a third category called the middle voice, where the subject acts upon itself.- Reflexive:
Ela se olha no espelho.(She looks at herself in the mirror.) - Reciprocal:
Eles se abraçam no aeroporto.(They hug each other at the airport.)
se, nos, and vos can mean both “-self/-selves” and “each other.” The situation, plural subject, and verb will tell you which is which.Formation Pattern
vestir-se (to get dressed).
Eu | me visto | I get dressed |
Você | se veste | You get dressed |
Nós | nos vestimos | We get dressed |
Eles | se vestem | They get dressed |
Eu me visto rapidamente para não me atrasar. (I get dressed quickly so I don't get late.)
vestir-se again for comparison:
Eu | visto-me | I get dressed |
Tu | vestes-te | You get dressed |
Nós | vestimo-nos | We get dressed |
Eles | vestem-se | They get dressed |
nos to a verb ending in -s (like the nós form), the -s is dropped from the verb. For example, levantamos + nos becomes levantamo-nos.
não (not), nunca (never), or ninguém (nobody), the rules align. In both BP and EP, the negative word “attracts” the pronoun, forcing it to come before the verb (próclise).
Ela não se lembra do meu nome. (She doesn't remember my name.)
Ela não se lembra do meu nome. (The structure is identical here.)
Nós nunca nos esquecemos daquela viagem. (We never forget that trip.)
Eu preciso me barbear (BP, more common) vs. Eu preciso barbear-me (EP, also possible in formal BP). (I need to shave.)
Eu estou me preparando (BP) vs. Estou a preparar-me (EP). (I am preparing myself / getting ready.) Note that EP uses a different construction (estar a + infinitive) for the present continuous.
When To Use It
acordar-se- to wake uplevantar-se- to get uplavar-se- to wash oneselfpentear-se- to comb one's hairbarbear-se- to shavemaquiar-se/maquilhar-se(EP) - to put on makeupdeitar-se- to lie down, to go to bed
Todos os dias, ela se levanta às 6h e se deita às 22h. (Every day, she gets up at 6 a.m. and goes to bed at 10 p.m.)verbos pronominais, always appear with a reflexive pronoun. The pronoun is part of the verb's identity and often changes its meaning entirely from its non-pronominal counterpart.sentir(to feel something, to sense) vs.sentir-se(to feel an emotion):Eu sinto o cheiro de café.(I smell coffee.)Eu me sinto feliz hoje.(I feel happy today.)
lembrar(to remind someone) vs.lembrar-se de(to remember something):Você me lembra meu irmão.(You remind me of my brother.)Eu não me lembro do seu telefone.(I don't remember your phone number.)
- Other key pronominal verbs:
esquecer-se de- to forgetpreocupar-se com- to worry aboutqueixar-se de- to complain aboutorgulhar-se de- to be proud ofcasar-se com- to get married to
sentar-se- to sit downaproximar-se de- to approach, to get closer toafastar-se de- to move away frommudar-se- to move (house)
Por favor, sente-se. (Please, sit down.) In this command form, the pronoun comes after the verb.Common Mistakes
- Incorrect:
Eu acordo às 8h e visto. - Why it's wrong: To a native speaker, this sounds like “I wake up at 8 and I dress…” They are left waiting for the object. Who or what do you dress?
- Correct:
Eu me acordo às 8h e me visto.
eu, você) where a reflexive pronoun (me, se) is needed.- Incorrect:
Ela quer que ela senta ali. - Why it's wrong: Subject pronouns are the doers of the action. Reflexive pronouns are the receivers. You cannot use one in place of the other.
- Correct:
Ela quer se sentar ali.orEla quer sentar-se ali.
- Incorrect (Affirmative EP):
Eu me chamo João.(This uses the BP word order.) - Correct (Affirmative EP):
Chamo-me João. - Incorrect (Negative Sentence in either dialect):
Não visto-me bem no inverno.(The negative wordnãowas ignored.) - Correct (Negative Sentence):
Não me visto bem no inverno.(Thenãopulls themeto the front.)
lembrar (to remind) with lembrar-se de (to remember).- Incorrect:
Eu me lembro o filme.(Mixing the reflexive pronoun with the structure of the non-reflexive verb.) - Why it's wrong: The verb
lembrar-serequires the prepositionde. - Correct:
Eu me lembro do filme.(do=de+o)
Real Conversations
Textbook examples are useful, but seeing reflexive verbs in authentic contexts shows how they truly function in daily life.
Scenario 1
- Leo: E aí, cara! A gente se encontra no bar mais tarde? Tipo umas 20h?
(Hey, dude! Do we meet each other at the bar later? Around 8 p.m.? — using encontrar-se reciprocally)
- Mari: Fechado! Vou me arrumar e já saio. Me espera aí!
(Deal! I'm going to get myself ready and head out. Wait for me! — using arrumar-se reflexively)
Note: In Brazil, a gente is a very common colloquial substitute for nós (we). It is treated as a third-person singular subject, which is why it pairs with se encontra, not nos encontramos.
Scenario 2
- Subject: Alteração da reunião
- Body: Prezados, Lamento informar que a reunião de amanhã foi cancelada. Eu me enganei na data ao enviar o convite. Desculpem-me pelo transtorno. Enviarei um novo agendamento em breve.
(Dear all, I regret to inform you that tomorrow's meeting has been cancelled. I made a mistake with the date when I sent the invitation. I apologize for the trouble. I will send a new schedule shortly. — using enganar-se (to be mistaken) and the formal command desculpem-me)
Scenario 3
- (Photo of a person on a mountain summit)
- Caption: Finalmente! Depois de 5 horas de trilha, eu me sinto realizada. Orgulho-me da minha persistência! 💪 #trilha #natureza #superação
(Finally! After a 5-hour hike, I feel accomplished. I am proud of my persistence! — using sentir-se to express a feeling and orgulhar-se as a pronominal verb.)
Quick FAQ
In everyday conversation, yes, placing the pronoun before the verb (próclise) is almost always correct and natural. Formal writing, however, still follows stricter rules, often requiring the pronoun after the verb (ênclise) to start a sentence. For example, a sign might say Aluga-se (For Rent) instead of Se aluga. As an A2 learner, using próclise in Brazil is your safest and most common option.
a mim mesmo or a si mesmo for emphasis?Yes, sometimes you'll see these phrases, which translate to “to myself” or “to himself/herself.” They are used for clarification or emphasis, to make it absolutely clear the action is reflexive and not reciprocal. For example: Ele só engana a si mesmo. (He only deceives himself.) For now, the simple reflexive pronouns (me, te, se, etc.) are all you need.
Você se senta and Sente-se?Você se senta is a declarative statement: “You are sitting down” or “You sit down.” Sente-se is a formal command (the imperative mood): “Sit down.” The pronoun moves after the verb for affirmative commands.
ser (to be) or estar (to be) ever reflexive?No, ser and estar are not used reflexively. You express states of being with estar (Eu estou cansado) or with a reflexive verb like sentir-se (Eu me sinto cansado). You would never say Eu me estou. It's a fundamental difference in how Portuguese handles states of being versus actions.
Reflexive Verb Conjugation (Lavar-se)
| Subject | Pronoun | Verb | Translation |
|---|---|---|---|
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Eu
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me
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lavo
|
I wash myself
|
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Tu
|
te
|
lavas
|
You wash yourself
|
|
Você/Ele/Ela
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se
|
lava
|
He/She washes himself/herself
|
|
Nós
|
nos
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lavamos
|
We wash ourselves
|
|
Vós
|
vos
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lavais
|
You all wash yourselves
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|
Eles/Elas/Vocês
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se
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lavam
|
They wash themselves
|
Meanings
Reflexive verbs are used when the subject of the sentence performs an action upon themselves.
Self-directed action
The subject performs an action on their own body or person.
“Eu me penteio.”
“Ela se olha no espelho.”
Reciprocal action
Two or more people perform an action to each other.
“Eles se amam.”
“Nós nos abraçamos.”
Inherent reflexive
Verbs that are always reflexive in Portuguese but not necessarily in English.
“Eu me lembro da festa.”
“Ele se queixa muito.”
Reference Table
| Form | Structure | Example |
|---|---|---|
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Affirmative
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Subj + Pron + Verb
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Eu me lavo
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Negative
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Subj + Não + Pron + Verb
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Eu não me lavo
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Interrogative
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Pron + Verb + Subj?
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Você se lava?
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Infinitive
|
Verb + Pron
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Lavar-se
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Gerund
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Verb + -ndo + Pron
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Lavando-se
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|
Passive
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Verb + se
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Vende-se
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Formality Spectrum
Eu retirar-me-ei. (Leaving a place)
Eu vou me embora. (Leaving a place)
Eu vou-me. (Leaving a place)
Vou vazar. (Leaving a place)
Reflexive Pronoun Map
1st Person
- me myself
- nos ourselves
2nd Person
- te yourself
- vos yourselves
3rd Person
- se himself/herself/themselves
Brazil vs Portugal Placement
Examples by Level
Eu me chamo Ana.
I call myself Ana.
Você se chama Pedro?
Do you call yourself Pedro?
Eu me sinto bem.
I feel good.
Ele se chama Lucas.
He calls himself Lucas.
Eu me visto às oito.
I get dressed at eight.
Ela não se lava agora.
She is not washing herself now.
Nós nos levantamos cedo.
We get up early.
Eles se barbeiam todo dia.
They shave every day.
Nós nos conhecemos na escola.
We met each other at school.
Eu me lembro daquele dia.
I remember that day.
Eles se queixam do barulho.
They complain about the noise.
Vocês se arrependem?
Do you regret it?
Eu quero me preparar para a prova.
I want to prepare myself for the test.
Vende-se este carro.
This car is for sale.
Ele se deixou levar pela emoção.
He let himself be carried away by emotion.
Nós nos temos visto pouco.
We have been seeing each other little.
Ele foi-se embora sem dizer nada.
He left without saying anything.
Diz-se que a economia vai melhorar.
It is said that the economy will improve.
Não se deve julgar as pessoas.
One should not judge people.
Eles se viram obrigados a sair.
They found themselves forced to leave.
Sentiu-se o impacto da decisão.
The impact of the decision was felt.
Arrependo-me amargamente do que fiz.
I bitterly regret what I did.
Vimo-nos em uma situação difícil.
We found ourselves in a difficult situation.
Perdeu-se a esperança naquele momento.
Hope was lost at that moment.
Easily Confused
Learners mix up 'me' (reflexive) and 'me' (direct object).
Learners don't know when to put the pronoun before or after the verb.
Both use the same pronouns.
Common Mistakes
Eu lavo.
Eu me lavo.
Eu se lavo.
Eu me lavo.
Eu me não lavo.
Eu não me lavo.
Eu lavo-me.
Eu me lavo.
Nós nos lavamos.
Nós nos lavamos.
Você se lava?
Você se lava?
Ele lava-se.
Ele se lava.
Eu me lembro da festa.
Eu me lembro da festa.
Eles se amam.
Eles se amam.
Eu me queixo.
Eu me queixo.
Vende-se casas.
Vendem-se casas.
Ele se foi.
Ele foi-se.
Se deve fazer.
Deve-se fazer.
Sentence Patterns
Eu me ___ todos os dias.
Você se ___ cedo?
Nós nos ___ muito na festa.
Ele se ___ de ter dito aquilo.
Real World Usage
Eu me sinto incrível hoje! #selfie
A gente se fala depois.
Eu me preparei para este desafio.
Onde eu posso me hospedar?
Eu me sinto com fome.
Eu me sinto tonto.
Check the subject
Don't skip the pronoun
Listen to music
Regional differences
Smart Tips
Remember to include the pronoun when you conjugate it.
Group verbs like 'lavar-se', 'vestir-se', 'pentear-se'.
Use the European structure (verb-pronoun) if you are in a formal setting.
Ask: 'Am I doing this to myself?' If yes, use the pronoun.
Pronunciation
Pronoun reduction
In fast speech, 'me' and 'te' often sound like 'mi' and 'ti'.
Nasalization
The 'nos' pronoun has a nasal sound.
Question intonation
Você se lava? ↑
Rising pitch at the end for yes/no questions.
Memorize It
Mnemonic
Remember the 'Mirror Rule': If you see yourself in the mirror, you need a reflexive pronoun.
Visual Association
Imagine a person standing in front of a mirror. Every time they move, a little 'me' or 'se' pops out of the mirror to join the verb.
Rhyme
When the subject does the deed, to themselves, a pronoun they need.
Story
João wakes up. He 'se levanta' (gets up). He 'se lava' (washes himself). He 'se veste' (dresses himself). He looks in the mirror and says, 'Eu me amo!' (I love myself).
Word Web
Challenge
Describe your entire morning routine in 5 sentences using reflexive verbs.
Cultural Notes
Brazilians strongly prefer placing the pronoun before the verb. Using it after the verb can sound overly formal or poetic.
In Portugal, placing the pronoun after the verb is standard and preferred in most contexts.
Usage is similar to Portugal, but with distinct rhythmic patterns in speech.
Reflexive pronouns in Portuguese come from Latin accusative pronouns (me, te, se).
Conversation Starters
Como você se sente hoje?
A que horas você se levanta?
Você se lembra da nossa última aula?
Como as pessoas se comportam no seu país?
Journal Prompts
Common Mistakes
Test Yourself
Eu ___ lavo todos os dias.
Which sentence is correct?
Find and fix the mistake:
Eu não lavo-me.
Você se levanta cedo.
Nós ___.
Match each item on the left with its pair on the right:
festa / na / nos / divertimos / nós
Eles se abraçam.
Score: /8
Practice Exercises
8 exercisesEu ___ lavo todos os dias.
Which sentence is correct?
Find and fix the mistake:
Eu não lavo-me.
Você se levanta cedo.
Nós ___.
Match: 1. Lavar-se, 2. Vestir-se, 3. Lembrar-se
festa / na / nos / divertimos / nós
Eles se abraçam.
Score: /8
Practice Bank
10 exercisesEles ___ chamam de 'os reis da pista'.
se / Ela / no espelho / vê
I feel happy (using sentir-se).
Select the reflexive routine verb:
Você me deita tarde?
Match the following:
Tu ___ vestes bem.
não / nos / Nós / esquecemos
Translate the phrase:
She combs her hair (pentear-se).
Score: /10
FAQ (8)
Without it, the verb means you are doing the action to someone else. 'Eu lavo' (I wash [it]), 'Eu me lavo' (I wash myself).
No, it is grammatically incorrect. It is essential for the meaning.
No, it can also be used for passive or impersonal constructions like 'Vende-se casa'.
It's just the standard reflexive pronoun for the first person plural.
It will sound confusing to native speakers, like saying 'I wash yourself'.
No, only those that describe actions done to oneself or reciprocal actions.
Look for the '-se' at the end of the infinitive form, like 'lavar-se'.
Yes, the placement of the pronoun is usually after the verb, attached with a hyphen.
Scaffolded Practice
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Mastery Progress
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Improving
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In Other Languages
Verbos reflexivos
Pronoun placement is more rigid in Spanish.
Verbes pronominaux
French requires an auxiliary verb 'être' for past tense.
Reflexive Verben
German pronouns change based on the case (accusative/dative).
Jibun (self)
Japanese does not conjugate verbs reflexively.
Form VIII verbs
Arabic changes the verb root rather than adding a pronoun.
Ziji (self)
Chinese has no verb conjugation for person or reflexivity.
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