Expressing Sadness with Subjunctive (Es triste que)
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Grammar Rule in 30 Seconds
When you express sadness or emotion about an action, the second verb must be in the subjunctive mood.
- Use 'Es triste que' + subjunctive to express sadness about an event.
- The subject of the first clause must be different from the second clause.
- If the subject is the same, use the infinitive instead (e.g., 'Estoy triste de ir').
Overview
In Spanish, expressing subjective emotions like sadness about an external situation or another person's actions often requires the use of the subjunctive mood. This is a fundamental aspect of Spanish grammar that distinguishes it from English, where a simple indicative clause typically follows expressions like "It's sad that...". The phrase Es triste que (It's sad that) serves as a primary example of this grammatical pattern.
Understanding this rule is crucial for intermediate learners (B1 CEFR level) as it allows for a more nuanced and emotionally accurate expression in Spanish, moving beyond mere factual statements to convey personal reactions.
While the indicative mood presents facts or objective realities, the subjunctive mood signals subjectivity, emotion, doubt, desire, or non-reality. When you say Es triste que..., you are not merely reporting a fact; you are expressing your emotional response to a fact or potential fact. This grammatical distinction highlights the speaker's personal perspective rather than an objective truth, making it essential for conveying empathy, regret, or concern in Spanish.
Mastering this distinction allows you to sound more natural and precise, reflecting a deeper understanding of the language's emotional architecture. For instance, Es triste que la lluvia no pare (It's sad that the rain isn't stopping) conveys a subjective feeling about a situation, whereas La lluvia no para (The rain isn't stopping) is simply an objective observation.
How This Grammar Works
que that describes the event or situation causing that emotion. The verb in this subordinate clause must be in the subjunctive mood. The core mechanism is the presence of an emotional expression in the main clause, followed by the conjunction que, and critically, a change of subject between the main clause and the subordinate clause.que + [Different Subject] + [Verb in Subjunctive]. The main clause establishes the emotional context. For example, in Me apena que no vengas (It saddens me that you aren't coming), me apena is the emotional trigger, and tú (implied in vengas) is the different subject from me (the object pronoun representing 'I' who feels sad).Me apena no venir (It saddens me not to come).que serves as a mandatory bridge, connecting the speaker's emotional state to the specific situation eliciting that emotion. It signals that the following clause is not a statement of fact to be taken objectively, but rather the content upon which the emotion is directed. This is a fundamental difference from English, where "that" can often be omitted.que in this structure would render the sentence ungrammatical or significantly alter its meaning. For example, Es triste no tener dinero (It's sad not to have money) uses an infinitive because there's no change of subject, while Es triste que no tengamos dinero (It's sad that we don't have money) uses the subjunctive due to the implicit shift to nosotros as the subject of tener.Formation Pattern
que, and then a clause with a new subject whose verb is conjugated in the subjunctive mood. This ensures that the emotional reaction is properly linked to its cause.
Es triste que... (It's sad that...)
Me pone triste que... (It makes me sad that...)
Me da tristeza que... (It gives me sadness that...)
Me apena que... (It pains/saddens me that...)
Siento que... (I regret/feel sorry that...)
Lamento que... (I lament/regret that...)
Es una pena que... (It's a shame that...)
que: This word is indispensable. It acts as the bridge connecting your emotional statement to the event or action that causes the sadness. It cannot be omitted in this construction in Spanish.
Es triste que tú no puedas venir. (It's sad that you can't come.) (Subject change: impersonal Es vs. tú)
Me apena que ellos no entiendan. (It pains me that they don't understand.) (Subject change: yo implied in me apena vs. ellos)
Me apena no poder ir. (It pains me not to be able to go.) (Same subject: yo for both parts)
que and the new subject) must be in the present subjunctive. Here's a table for regular verb conjugations:
hablar) | -ER Verbs (e.g., comer) | -IR Verbs (e.g., vivir) |
hable | coma | viva |
hables | comas | vivas |
hable | coma | viva |
hablemos | comamos | vivamos |
habléis | comáis | viváis |
hablen | coman | vivan |
ser -> sea, estar -> esté, ir -> vaya, saber -> sepa). Stem-changing verbs in the indicative also exhibit stem changes in the subjunctive, and -ir verbs have additional stem changes in nosotros/vosotros forms in the subjunctive. Learners at the B1 level should be familiar with these common irregularities.
When To Use It
Es triste que la gente no cuide el medio ambiente.(It's sad that people don't take care of the environment.)Me apena que no haya más oportunidades para los jóvenes.(It pains me that there aren't more opportunities for young people.)
Siento mucho que no puedas venir a la reunión.(I'm very sorry that you can't come to the meeting.)Me pone triste que él no entienda tu punto de vista.(It makes me sad that he doesn't understand your point of view.)
Es una lástima que el proyecto no saliera adelante.(It's a shame that the project didn't move forward.)Lamento que no te hayan dado la promoción.(I regret that they didn't give you the promotion.)
Es triste que todavía exista tanta desigualdad.(It's sad that so much inequality still exists.)Me da tristeza que la cultura de la lectura esté disminuyendo.(It gives me sadness that reading culture is diminishing.)
Common Mistakes
Es triste que and similar subjunctive triggers. Recognizing these common pitfalls and understanding why they are incorrect is key to mastering this structure.- Incorrect:
Es triste que ella no viene a la fiesta.(This implies that her not coming is a cold, objective fact, and the sadness is almost an afterthought, rather than a direct reaction to the possibility or subjective reality of her absence.) - Correct:
Es triste que ella no venga a la fiesta.(Here,vengacorrectly places the situation in the realm of emotion and subjectivity, signifying your regret or disappointment.) - Why it's wrong: The indicative treats the subordinate clause as a certainty or an accepted fact, while expressions of emotion inherently require the subjunctive to convey the speaker's subjective reaction to that fact or possibility.
que: Unlike in English, where "that" can often be omitted (e.g., "I'm sad she's not coming"), in Spanish, que is almost always required after these emotional trigger phrases, especially when followed by a subordinate clause.- Incorrect:
Me apena tú no puedas ir. - Correct:
Me apena que tú no puedas ir. - Why it's wrong:
queis a critical subordinating conjunction. Its absence makes the sentence grammatically incomplete and confusing, as the two clauses are not properly linked.
que + subjunctive.- Incorrect:
Estoy triste que yo no tenga tiempo.(You are sad about yourself not having time.) - Correct:
Estoy triste por no tener tiempo.orMe entristece no tener tiempo.(Here,no tener tiempouses the infinitive because the person experiencing sadness is the same person lacking time.) - Why it's wrong: The subjunctive is designed to express a reaction to an external or different subject's action/state. When the subject is the same, the action or state is seen as directly linked to the emotional subject, making the infinitive the appropriate grammatical choice.
- Incorrect:
Es triste que él sea tan inteligente.(Ifélis the subject ofser, this is actually correct for sadness/pity. But if the intent wasestar...) This example is tricky. Let's useir. - Incorrect:
Es triste que ella va tan lejos.(Using indicativeva.) - Correct:
Es triste que ella vaya tan lejos.(Using subjunctivevaya.) - Why it's wrong: This is a purely morphological error. Familiarity with irregular and stem-changing subjunctive forms is crucial for accuracy. Consistent practice and memorization are key here.
- Why it's wrong: Mnemonics are pedagogical tools, not grammatical rules. They summarize categories, but the full rule requires attention to subject change,
que, and the specific type of expression.
Real Conversations
Understanding a grammar rule in theory is one thing; seeing it in action in authentic contexts is another. Es triste que and its variations are extremely common in daily Spanish, from casual chats to more formal exchanges. Pay attention to how these phrases convey genuine emotional reactions.
1. Casual Conversation (Friends Texting):
- Ana: Hola, ¿vas a venir al concierto? (Hey, are you coming to the concert?)
- Bea: ¡Ay, no! Al final no puedo. Tengo examen al día siguiente. (Oh, no! In the end, I can't. I have an exam the next day.)
- Ana: Qué triste que no puedas venir. De verdad quería verte. (It's so sad that you can't come. I really wanted to see you.)
- Qué triste que is an informal but common variant of Es triste que.
2. Expressing Empathy (Face-to-Face):
- Carlos: Perdí mi vuelo esta mañana. Ahora tengo que esperar seis horas. (I lost my flight this morning. Now I have to wait six hours.)
- Daniela: Uf, me da mucha pena que te haya pasado eso. Es horrible. (Ugh, it really pains me that happened to you. That's horrible.)
- Me da mucha pena que is a strong expression of empathy, often used for misfortunes that affect others.
3. Professional Context (Email):
- Subject: Re: Solicitud de colaboración (Re: Collaboration Request)
- Estimado Sr. Pérez,
- Lamento que no podamos proceder con su propuesta en este momento. Nuestros recursos actuales no nos lo permiten. Agradecemos su interés. (I regret that we cannot proceed with your proposal at this time. Our current resources do not allow it. We appreciate your interest.)
- Lamento que is a formal and polite way to express regret in professional settings, crucial for maintaining good business relations.
4. Social Media Commentary:
- (Post about a closed local business): ¡Qué recuerdos de esta tienda! Siempre compraba aquí. (Such memories of this store! I always bought here.)
- Comment: Es triste que negocios pequeños como este tengan que cerrar. La situación económica es muy difícil. (It's sad that small businesses like this have to close. The economic situation is very difficult.)
- This shows how the structure is used to express collective sentiment or societal observation.
5. Reflecting on News/General Observations:
- Me pone triste que haya tantos animales abandonados en las calles. Deberíamos hacer más. (It makes me sad that there are so many abandoned animals on the streets. We should do more.)
- This demonstrates an emotional reaction to a general, often troubling, state of affairs observed in the world.
Notice the consistent use of the subjunctive verb (puedas, haya pasado, podamos, tengan, haya) after the emotional trigger and que, reinforcing the speaker's subjective view or empathetic response to the situation.
Quick FAQ
Es triste que..., you are not asserting that the situation is sad for everyone in an objective sense, but rather that you perceive it as sad and are reacting to it emotionally. It signals that the content of the que-clause is viewed through the filter of your feelings, wishes, or uncertainties, rather than as an independent reality.Es triste que llueva (It's sad that it's raining) emphasizes your personal displeasure, whereas Llueve (It's raining) is a factual observation.Es una pena que...(It's a shame/pity that...) - often for milder regret or disappointment.Es triste que...(It's sad that...) - general sadness.Me da mucha pena que.../Me apena muchísimo que...(It really pains me/saddens me a lot that...) - for stronger feelings of regret or empathy.Lamento profundamente que...(I deeply regret that...) - for very strong or formal regret.
que + subjunctive with subject change) remains consistent across all Spanish-speaking regions. However, there can be preferences for certain expressions:Me da pena que...: Very common in Spain, and also widely understood and used in Latin America.Me da tristeza que...: More common in some Latin American countries than in Spain.Me pone triste que...: Also very common in Latin America and frequently used in Spain.- The
vosotrosform of the subjunctive is used in Spain for informal plural, while Latin America universally usesustedes(e.g.,que vosotros habléisin Spain vs.que ustedes hablenin Latin America). When addressing a group informally, choosevosotrosforms in Spain andustedesforms elsewhere.
que + subjunctive to express sadness?Me molesta que...(It bothers me that...)Me preocupa que...(It worries me that...)Me enfada que...(It angers me that...)Es lamentable que...(It's lamentable/regrettable that...)Es deplorable que...(It's deplorable that...)
que-clause. The rule is broad for any expression of emotion followed by que and a subject change.Es triste que ella se vaya mañana (It's sad that she is leaving tomorrow) uses the present subjunctive se vaya to refer to a future departure, as it's your emotional reaction now to that future event.Es triste que) and expressions of doubt (Dudo que) both trigger the subjunctive, the reason for the subjunctive is slightly different. For emotion, it's about the speaker's subjective feelings. For doubt, it's about the lack of certainty regarding the subordinate clause's truth.Es verdad que, Creo que - often indicative) where the speaker asserts the truth of the subordinate clause.estar triste followed by que + subjunctive?Estoy triste que... is usually considered grammatically awkward or incorrect if it implies a direct connection to a subsequent subjunctive clause with a different subject. As established, if you are sad about yourself, you use the infinitive (Estoy triste por no tener dinero).Es triste que... or Me pone triste que... are preferred because they frame the sadness as a reaction to an external cause, allowing for the necessary subject change and subjunctive. While you might occasionally hear Estoy triste de que... from some speakers, Es triste que... or Me apena que... are the more idiomatic and grammatically sound choices for B1 learners when expressing sadness about others' actions or external circumstances.Present Subjunctive Endings
| Person | -AR Verbs | -ER/-IR Verbs |
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Yo
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-e
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-a
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Tú
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-es
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-as
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Él/Ella/Ud.
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-e
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-a
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Nosotros
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-emos
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-amos
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Vosotros
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-éis
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-áis
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Ellos/Ellas/Uds.
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-en
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-an
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Meanings
This rule triggers the subjunctive mood because it expresses a subjective emotional reaction to an event rather than an objective fact.
Expressing sadness
Used to convey personal sorrow regarding a situation.
“Es triste que llueva tanto.”
“Me entristece que no me llames.”
Reference Table
| Form | Structure | Example |
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Affirmative
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Es triste que + Subj.
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Es triste que venga.
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Negative
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No es triste que + Subj.
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No es triste que venga.
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Question
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¿Es triste que + Subj.?
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¿Es triste que venga?
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Same Subject
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Estoy triste de + Inf.
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Estoy triste de ir.
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Past Event
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Es triste que + Perf. Subj.
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Es triste que haya ido.
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Impersonal
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Es una pena que + Subj.
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Es una pena que llueva.
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Formality Spectrum
Es lamentable que él se marche. (Departure)
Es triste que él se vaya. (Departure)
Es una pena que se vaya. (Departure)
Qué bajón que se vaya. (Departure)
The Emotive Subjunctive Map
Triggers
- Me entristece It saddens me
- Es una pena It's a pity
Result
- Subjunctive Mood shift
Indicative vs. Subjunctive
Examples by Level
Es triste que no estés.
It is sad that you are not here.
Es triste que llueva.
It is sad that it is raining.
Es triste que no comas.
It is sad that you are not eating.
Es triste que él no venga.
It is sad that he is not coming.
Es triste que no tengamos dinero.
It is sad that we don't have money.
Es triste que ellos no hablen.
It is sad that they don't speak.
Es triste que el perro esté enfermo.
It is sad that the dog is sick.
Es triste que no podamos ir.
It is sad that we cannot go.
Es triste que la situación sea tan difícil.
It is sad that the situation is so difficult.
Me entristece que no hayas venido.
It saddens me that you didn't come.
Es una pena que no sepas la verdad.
It is a pity that you don't know the truth.
Es triste que el gobierno no haga nada.
It is sad that the government does nothing.
Es triste que, a pesar de los esfuerzos, el resultado sea negativo.
It is sad that, despite the efforts, the result is negative.
Es una lástima que no se hayan considerado todas las opciones.
It is a pity that not all options were considered.
Me entristece profundamente que la gente ignore este problema.
It deeply saddens me that people ignore this problem.
Es triste que no se pueda encontrar una solución pacífica.
It is sad that a peaceful solution cannot be found.
Es triste que, habiendo tenido tantas oportunidades, no hayan logrado el éxito.
It is sad that, having had so many opportunities, they haven't achieved success.
Resulta triste que la sociedad contemporánea valore tanto lo superficial.
It is sad that contemporary society values the superficial so much.
Es una pena que no se hubieran tomado medidas antes.
It is a pity that measures hadn't been taken sooner.
Me entristece que se pierda tanto patrimonio cultural.
It saddens me that so much cultural heritage is lost.
Es triste que, por más que intentemos, la brecha generacional persista.
It is sad that, no matter how much we try, the generational gap persists.
Es una lástima que el destino haya querido que nos separáramos así.
It is a pity that fate willed that we separate like this.
Resulta profundamente triste que el ser humano no aprenda de sus errores pasados.
It is deeply sad that human beings do not learn from their past mistakes.
Es triste que, aun siendo conscientes del peligro, no se actúe en consecuencia.
It is sad that, even being aware of the danger, one does not act accordingly.
Easily Confused
Learners mix up belief (indicative) and emotion (subjunctive).
Learners use the subjunctive when the subject is the same.
Both use 'Es... que', but one is objective and one is subjective.
Common Mistakes
Es triste que él viene.
Es triste que él venga.
Es triste que yo estoy triste.
Estoy triste.
Es triste que él no venir.
Es triste que él no venga.
Es triste él venga.
Es triste que él venga.
Es triste que ellos no hablan.
Es triste que ellos no hablen.
Es triste que nosotros podemos ir.
Es triste que nosotros podamos ir.
Es triste que ella no sabe.
Es triste que ella no sepa.
Es triste que él ha venido.
Es triste que él haya venido.
Es triste que no me gusta.
Es triste que no me guste.
Es triste que ellos no han hecho.
Es triste que ellos no hayan hecho.
Es triste que él vendría.
Es triste que él viniera.
Es triste que él no ha ido.
Es triste que él no hubiera ido.
Es triste que él no es feliz.
Es triste que él no sea feliz.
Sentence Patterns
Es triste que ___ ___.
Me entristece que ___ ___.
Es una pena que ___ ___.
Resulta triste que ___ ___.
Real World Usage
Es triste que cierren este parque.
Fue triste que el proyecto no saliera bien.
Es triste que no vengas :(
Es una pena que no tengamos más tiempo.
Es triste que no tengan mi plato favorito.
Es triste que la investigación no haya dado resultados.
The 'Que' Rule
Same Subject
Opposite Vowels
Regional Variations
Smart Tips
Think 'Emotion = Subjunctive'.
Check if the first verb is an emotion.
Use the infinitive if the subject is the same.
Use 'Es lamentable que' for a more formal tone.
Pronunciation
Subjunctive endings
Ensure the final vowel is clear and stressed correctly.
Emotional drop
Es triste que... (low pitch) ...venga (falling pitch)
Conveys genuine sadness.
Memorize It
Mnemonic
Sadness is a feeling, feelings are subjective, subjective needs the subjunctive.
Visual Association
Imagine a rain cloud over a person. The cloud represents the emotion ('Es triste que'), and the rain drops are the subjunctive verbs falling down.
Rhyme
When you feel sad or a pity to see, use the subjunctive for the verb that will be.
Story
Maria is sad. She says: 'Es triste que mi gato no coma'. Her friend replies: 'Es triste que no tenga hambre'. They both use the subjunctive because they are sharing a feeling about the cat.
Word Web
Challenge
Write 5 sentences about things that make you sad using 'Es triste que' + subjunctive in 5 minutes.
Cultural Notes
People often use 'Es una pena' more than 'Es triste'.
The use of 'Qué triste que' is very common in casual speech.
The use of 'Qué bajón' is a common slang way to express sadness.
The subjunctive mood comes from the Latin 'subjunctivus', meaning 'subjoined' or 'added'.
Conversation Starters
¿Qué te parece triste de la situación actual?
¿Hay algo que te entristezca de tu trabajo?
¿Te parece una pena que no podamos viajar más?
¿Qué es lo más triste que has visto últimamente?
Journal Prompts
Common Mistakes
Test Yourself
Es triste que él no (venir) a la fiesta.
Which is correct?
Find and fix the mistake:
Es triste que ellos no hablan español.
Es triste que tú (comer) poco.
Do you use the subjunctive after 'Es triste que'?
A: No puedo ir. B: ____.
Order: que / triste / él / es / venga.
Es triste que ellos no (hacer) nada.
Score: /8
Practice Exercises
8 exercisesEs triste que él no (venir) a la fiesta.
Which is correct?
Find and fix the mistake:
Es triste que ellos no hablan español.
Es triste que tú (comer) poco.
Do you use the subjunctive after 'Es triste que'?
A: No puedo ir. B: ____.
Order: que / triste / él / es / venga.
Es triste que ellos no (hacer) nada.
Score: /8
Practice Bank
10 exercisesMe da pena que ella no ___ conmigo.
Es triste que el viaje ___ tan largo.
Me pone triste que tú no estás aquí.
It's a shame that you (tú) don't have time.
triste / que / Es / no / vivas / aquí
Match the following:
Siento mucho que tu gato ___ enfermo.
Es una pena que ellos no ___ español.
Me da tristeza que no podemos ir.
It is sad that it's raining.
Score: /10
FAQ (8)
Because emotions are subjective, not objective facts.
No, that would be grammatically incorrect.
Use the infinitive: 'Estoy triste de ir'.
Yes, it triggers the subjunctive too.
Yes, use the imperfect subjunctive.
It is used in all registers.
That takes the indicative.
Extremely common in daily speech.
Scaffolded Practice
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Mastery Progress
Needs Practice
Improving
Strong
Mastered
In Other Languages
C'est triste que + subjonctif
The conjugation patterns differ.
Es ist traurig, dass...
German does not use a mood shift for emotions.
〜のが悲しい
Japanese lacks a subjunctive mood.
من المحزن أن...
The trigger particles are different.
很遗憾...
Chinese relies on context and particles.
It is sad that...
English has almost lost the subjunctive.
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Prerequisites
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