Disappointing Someone (Phrasal Verb: Let down)
let down your English skills! Mastering this phrasal verb means understanding disappointment caused by unmet expectations.
Grammar Rule in 30 Seconds
Use 'let down' when you fail to meet someone's expectations or break a promise, making them feel disappointed.
- Use it for people: 'I let my mom down' (max 20 words)
- If using a pronoun, put it in the middle: 'I let her down'
- It can also mean physically lowering something: 'Let down the rope'
Overview
Let down means you are sad. Someone did not help you.
You feel sad because a person failed. Many people use this.
It says why you are sad. You trusted a person first.
Use this to speak English very well.
How This Grammar Works
Formation Pattern
let your teammates down by skipping practice.'
let the users down with too many bugs.'
let my family down.'
let down your teammates by skipping practice.'
let down its users with too many bugs.'
let down my family.'
let down me. | ✅ He let me down. |
let down them. | ✅ She them down. |\
let down us. | ✅ The car let us down. |
let down him. | ✅ The decision let him down. |
lets me down with his excuses.' |\
let me down yesterday when you didn't call.' |\
let myself down this year.' |\
let you down tomorrow.' |\
When To Use It
- Breach of Trust or Promises: When someone explicitly or implicitly fails to uphold a commitment they made to you.
- 'My project partner promised to finish the coding, but she
let me downby not submitting anything by the deadline.' - 'After years of loyal service, the company
let its long-term employees downby cutting their benefits without warning.' - 'I trusted him with my secret, and he
let me downby telling everyone.'
- Failure to Meet Performance Standards: Applicable to individuals, teams, or even products/services that do not perform to an expected level of quality or reliability.
- 'The national football team
let down their fanswith a surprisingly poor performance in the final match.' - 'This brand of electronics
always lets me downwhen I need it most; the battery dies too quickly.' - 'As a leader, it's vital not to
let your team downwhen they're counting on your guidance.'
- Personal Disappointment in Oneself: When you fail to meet your own personal goals, standards, or expectations, leading to self-reproach.
- 'I studied hard, but I still feel like I
let myself downby not achieving the distinction I aimed for.' - 'He struggled with maintaining a healthy lifestyle and felt he had
let himself downrepeatedly.' - 'It's easy to
let yourself downwhen you set unrealistic expectations.'
- Unreliability of Systems or Services: When something functional, like technology or infrastructure, fails to operate as expected, particularly at a critical moment.
- 'The online registration portal
let thousands of students downon enrollment day due to server crashes.' - 'Her old car
let her downagain on the way to her job interview, making her late.'
When Not To Use It
- When No Prior Expectation or Trust Existed:
Let downinherently implies a previous belief or hope that has been violated. If you merely wished for something without any explicit or implicit promise or basis for expectation,let downis not the correct term. - ❌ Incorrect: 'The sunshine
let me downtoday; I was hoping for rain.' (The sunshine made no promise to rain.) - ✅ Correct: 'I was disappointed that it was sunny today; I was hoping for rain.'
- For General Dislike or Displeasure Not Caused by a Failure: If you simply don't enjoy something or find it unsatisfactory without it having failed a specific expectation,
let downis too strong and misapplied. - ❌ Incorrect: 'The new restaurant
let me downbecause the decor wasn't to my taste.' (The restaurant did not fail in its primary function, only in your aesthetic preference.) - ✅ Correct: 'I was disappointed by the new restaurant's decor.' or 'I didn't like the new restaurant's decor.'
- For the Literal Act of Lowering Something: Be careful not to confuse the idiomatic meaning of
let down(to disappoint) with its literal meaning of physically lowering an object or person. Context usually disambiguates these, but usinglet downsolely for disappointment prevents ambiguity. - 'The stage crew
let downthe backdrop during the intermission.' (Literal lowering.) - 'He asked me to
let downthe blinds.' (Literal lowering.)
- For Minor Inconveniences Without Consequence: Because
let downcarries emotional weight, applying it to trivial matters can sound overdramatic or exaggerate the actual impact. - ❌ Incorrect: 'My coffee
let me downthis morning; it wasn't hot enough.' (Unless the coffee barista explicitly promised optimal temperature and failed significantly, 'disappointed' is more fitting.) - ✅ Correct: 'I was disappointed that my coffee wasn't hot enough.'
Common Mistakes
- Incorrect Pronoun Placement: This is, by far, the most prevalent mistake. As detailed in the 'Formation Pattern' section, pronouns (e.g.,
me,him,us) must go betweenletanddownin a separable phrasal verb. - ❌ 'I can't believe you
let down meafter all my help.' (Incorrect word order for a pronoun object.) - ✅ 'I can't believe you
let me downafter all my help.' (The pronounmecorrectly separatesletanddown.) - Why it's a mistake: English phrasal verbs generally require 'light' objects (like pronouns) to be placed between the verb and the particle. Placing them after the particle sounds unnaturally heavy and breaks the typical rhythmic flow of the language.
- Confusing
let downwithdisappoint(verb): While related, these are not always interchangeable.Disappointcan describe a general feeling or outcome, often without implying a direct failure on the part of an actor.Let downspecifically attributes the disappointment to an entity's failure to perform or deliver. - ❌ 'The rainy weather
let me downfor my picnic.' (Weather does not make promises or have agency to fail.) - ✅ 'The rainy weather
disappointed mefor my picnic.' (Describes the emotional state without attributing failure to the weather.) - Why it's a mistake:
Let downrequires a responsible agent that has failed an expectation. Impersonal phenomena like weather or abstract concepts cannot 'let down' in this idiomatic sense.
- Overusing
let downfor minor issues: The phrasal verb carries a strong implication of significant disappointment, often involving a sense of betrayal or a serious lapse in performance. Using it for trivial matters can make your language sound overly dramatic or insincere. - ❌ 'My internet speed
let me downbecause a webpage loaded slowly.' (Exaggerated for a common, minor delay.) - ✅ 'I was annoyed that my internet speed was slow.' or 'My internet speed was disappointing.'
- Why it's a mistake: Context dictates the appropriate emotional register.
Let downimplies a level of impact that doesn't usually align with very minor inconveniences. Reserve it for genuine feelings of being failed.
- Incorrect Tense of
let: Remembering thatletis an irregular verb (present:let, past:let, past participle:let) is crucial. Learners sometimes mistakenly uselatted. - ❌ 'He
lattedus down badly during the project.' - ✅ 'He
letus down badly during the project.' - Why it's a mistake: This is a common error with irregular verbs. Familiarity with the principal parts of irregular verbs is necessary for accurate usage.
Common Collocations
let (someone) down badly / terribly / severely / greatly: These adverbs intensify the degree of disappointment caused by the failure.- 'His unreliable behavior
let his family down badlyduring their financial crisis.' - 'The government's response
let the citizens down terriblyafter the natural disaster.' - 'I felt
greatly let downby the lack of support from my supervisor.'
let (someone) down gently: This phrase means to deliver unpleasant news or an unwelcome decision to someone in a kind, sensitive, and considerate manner, to minimize their disappointment or hurt.- 'She had to
let him down gentlywhen she explained that his proposal wasn't chosen.' - 'The manager decided to
let the applicant down gently, praising his efforts despite the rejection.' - 'It's always hard to
let a friend down gentlywhen you can't fulfill their request.'
never let (someone) down: This idiom emphasizes unwavering reliability, trustworthiness, or consistent quality.- 'My vintage car
never lets me downon long journeys; it's incredibly dependable.' - 'You can always count on Sarah; she
never lets her friends down.' - 'For quality and durability, this product will
never let you down.'
let (yourself) down: This phrase specifically refers to disappointing oneself by failing to meet one's own standards, goals, or potential.- 'After making a poor decision, I really felt I had
let myself down.' - 'He promised to complete the marathon, but withdrawing early made him feel he had
let himself down.' - 'It's important to set realistic goals so you don't
let yourself downwith impossible targets.'
let down by (something/someone): This passive construction identifies the cause of the disappointment.- 'The consumers were
let down by the misleading advertising.' - 'I was
let down by the lack of transparencyfrom the organization.' - 'Many people feel
let down by their political leaders.'
Contrast With Similar Patterns
Be disappointed | To feel sadness or displeasure because something was not as good as expected or hoped. | Focuses on the emotional state of the experiencer. Does not explicitly name the agent of failure. |\Fail (someone) | To prove inadequate or insufficient to (someone's expectations). | More formal; often implies a more objective or systematic failure, or a profound lack of ability or success in meeting a test or challenge. |\let down is the active causation of disappointment by a party that was relied upon.Quick FAQ
- Q: Can
let downbe used for objects, like a phone battery? - A: Yes, absolutely. It is commonly used to describe the unreliability or failure of inanimate objects, especially technology or equipment, when they do not perform as expected. For instance: 'My old laptop often
lets me downduring important presentations.'
- Q: Is
let downformal or informal? - A:
Let downis versatile and used across both formal and informal contexts. You might hear it in a corporate meeting to describe a project failure or in a casual conversation among friends. The surrounding language and situation determine the overall tone.
- Q: Is it okay to say 'I was
let downby X'? - A: Yes, this is a very common and grammatically correct passive construction. It allows you to emphasize the experiencer of the disappointment rather than the agent. For example: 'I was
let downby the customer service after waiting an hour on hold.'
- Q: What's the past tense of
let down? - A: The past simple and past participle of the verb
letare bothlet. Therefore, the past tense oflet downislet down. Examples: 'Helet me downyesterday.' (past simple) and 'He haslet me downmany times before.' (present perfect).
- Q: Can I use
let downto mean 'disrobe' or 'loosen'? - A: Yes,
let downalso has a literal meaning of physically lowering or untying something, as in 'tolet downyour hair' (to untie it) or 'tolet downthe hem of a skirt.' However, in the context of disappointing someone, the meaning is strictly metaphorical. Context is always key to understanding which meaning is intended.
- Q: Does
let downalways imply a promise was broken? - A: Not necessarily an explicit promise, but it always implies a breach of an expectation or trust. This expectation could be implicit, based on someone's reputation, a role, or a standard of performance.
- Q: Can I use
let downfor minor disappointments? - A: While grammatically possible, it often sounds overly dramatic for very minor inconveniences.
Let downcarries significant emotional weight, implying a notable impact or a deeper sense of betrayal. It's generally better to reserve it for situations where the disappointment is genuinely felt and justified.
Conjugation of 'Let down'
| Tense | Subject | Verb Form | Object | Particle |
|---|---|---|---|---|
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Present Simple
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I / You / We / They
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let
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him
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down
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Present Simple
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He / She / It
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lets
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her
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down
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Past Simple
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All subjects
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let
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us
|
down
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Present Continuous
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I
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am letting
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them
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down
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Present Perfect
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He
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has let
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me
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down
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Future (Will)
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They
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will let
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you
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down
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Gerund
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N/A
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letting
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someone
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down
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Contractions with 'Let down'
| Full Form | Contraction | Example |
|---|---|---|
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I will not let you down
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I won't let you down
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I promise I won't let you down.
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He has let me down
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He's let me down
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He's let me down again.
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They are letting us down
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They're letting us down
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They're letting us down right now.
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Meanings
To fail to support or help someone as they had hoped or expected; to disappoint someone.
Disappoint
To fail to meet expectations or promises made to a person.
“The team let the fans down by losing the final.”
“Don't let me down this time!”
Physical Lowering
To move something to a lower position.
“Can you let the window down a bit?”
“They let down the rescue ladder from the helicopter.”
Lengthen Clothing
To make a garment longer by unfolding the hem.
“My daughter has grown so much I need to let down her skirts.”
“The tailor let down the trousers by two inches.”
Reference Table
| Form | Structure | Example |
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Affirmative (Noun Object)
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Subject + let + [Name] + down
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I let Sarah down.
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Affirmative (Pronoun Object)
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Subject + let + [Pronoun] + down
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I let her down.
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Negative
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Subject + do not + let + [Object] + down
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Please don't let me down.
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Question
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Do + Subject + let + [Object] + down?
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Did I let you down?
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Passive Voice
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[Object] + be + let down + (by Subject)
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I was let down by the results.
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Noun Form
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A/The + let-down
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The party was a big let-down.
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Imperative
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Let + [Object] + down!
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Don't let us down!
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Formality Spectrum
The corporation failed to fulfill its obligations to the stakeholders. (Business failure)
The company let the investors down. (Business failure)
They really let us down with that deal. (Business failure)
They totally flaked on us. (Business failure)
The Many Faces of 'Let Down'
Emotional
- Disappoint To fail a friend
- Betray To break trust
Physical
- Lower To move something down
- Lengthen To fix short pants
Idiomatic
- Relax Let your hair down
Let Down vs. Disappoint
Where does the object go?
Is the object a pronoun (me, him, etc.)?
Is it a noun (Sarah, the team)?
Common Objects of 'Let Down'
People
- • Friends
- • Parents
- • The Team
- • Yourself
Things
- • The Rope
- • The Window
- • The Hem
- • The Anchor
Examples by Level
Please don't let me down.
I let my mom down.
Did I let you down?
He lets his friends down.
She promised to call, but she let me down.
We didn't want to let the teacher down.
They let the rope down to the boat.
I'm sorry for letting you down yesterday.
I feel like I've let the whole team down by missing that goal.
The movie was a bit of a let-down after all the hype.
You can rely on Jane; she never lets anyone down.
I had to let down the hem of my trousers because they were too short.
The government has been accused of letting down the elderly during the crisis.
It’s a huge responsibility, and I’m terrified of letting everyone down.
After a long week of work, she finally let her hair down at the party.
The engine let us down just as we reached the mountains.
The systemic failure of the healthcare system has let down the most vulnerable.
To let down one's guard in such a competitive environment is risky.
He felt a profound sense of having let down his ancestors' legacy.
The witness's testimony really let the prosecution down.
The intricate plot was masterfully built, only to be let down by a lackluster ending.
In letting down the drawbridge, they signaled their intent to negotiate.
The sheer weight of expectation can often cause even the most stoic individuals to let themselves down.
The fabric was so delicate that letting down the seams required surgical precision.
Easily Confused
Both use 'let' and a preposition, but 'let off' means to excuse someone from punishment.
Learners sometimes confuse the direction of the particle.
Both involve things not happening as planned.
Common Mistakes
I let down him.
I let him down.
Don't let down me.
Don't let me down.
He leted me down.
He let me down.
I let down to my friend.
I let my friend down.
I am let down.
I feel let down / I was let down.
The movie let down.
The movie was a let-down.
She lets down her hair for the party.
She let her hair down at the party.
It was a big let down.
It was a big let-down.
I will let down the window.
I will let the window down.
He has let down us.
He has let us down.
The results let down the expectations.
The results fell short of expectations / The results were a let-down.
Sentence Patterns
I'm sorry I let ___ down.
Don't let ___ down, okay?
The ___ was a total let-down.
I felt ___ after being let down by ___.
Real World Usage
So sorry I can't make it tonight! Hope I didn't let u down too much.
I am very dedicated to my work; I never let my team down.
The new iPhone battery life really let me down.
The defense really let the goalkeeper down on that play.
Can you let down these trousers? They're a bit short.
I don't want to let my kids down by missing their school play.
The Pronoun Sandwich
Don't use 'to'
The Noun Form
Hair Idiom
Smart Tips
Stop! Remember the 'Pronoun Sandwich'. Put the person in the middle.
Use the noun 'let-down' with 'was a'.
Use the passive voice 'to be let down'. It focuses on the feeling of the person.
Use 'let down' to mean lengthening them.
Pronunciation
Linking
In 'let down', the 't' in 'let' is often a 'stop t' or blends into the 'd' of 'down'. It sounds like /le'down/.
Pronoun Stress
When a pronoun is in the middle, the stress is usually on 'down'.
Apologetic
I'm so sorry I let you ↘down.
Conveys sincere regret.
Memorize It
Mnemonic
When you let someone down, their mood goes down like an elevator.
Visual Association
Imagine a person standing on a platform. You pull a lever labeled 'LET', and the platform drops 'DOWN'. The person looks sad as they sink.
Rhyme
If you want to be a friend until the end, don't let them down or make them frown.
Story
Leo promised to bring the cake to the party. He forgot it at home. When he arrived empty-handed, he saw his friends' hungry faces. He realized he had let them down, so he ran back to get it.
Word Web
Challenge
Write three sentences about a time a movie, a friend, or a piece of technology let you down. Use a pronoun in at least one sentence.
Cultural Notes
In the UK, 'letting the side down' is a common idiom meaning to behave in a way that embarrasses your group or family.
Reliability is highly valued. Saying 'I won't let you down' is a powerful way to build trust with a manager.
Fans often use 'let down' to describe their feelings about sequels or series finales.
The phrase originates from the literal act of lowering something, such as a sail on a ship or a drawbridge.
Conversation Starters
Has a movie ever really let you down after you saw a great trailer?
Who is one person in your life who never lets you down?
How do you feel when you let yourself down?
If a friend lets you down, do you give them a second chance?
Journal Prompts
Common Mistakes
Test Yourself
I promised to help her, so I can't let ___ down.
Which sentence is correct?
Find and fix the mistake:
Correct this: 'The party was a big let down.'
Rewrite using 'let down': 'He disappointed his parents.'
Match each item on the left with its pair on the right:
A: Are you coming to the meeting? B: Yes, I'll be there. I won't ___.
Is 'let down' separable or inseparable?
You can say 'I let down them.'
Score: /8
Practice Exercises
8 exercisesI promised to help her, so I can't let ___ down.
Which sentence is correct?
Find and fix the mistake:
Correct this: 'The party was a big let down.'
Rewrite using 'let down': 'He disappointed his parents.'
Match the meaning to the sentence.
A: Are you coming to the meeting? B: Yes, I'll be there. I won't ___.
Is 'let down' separable or inseparable?
You can say 'I let down them.'
Score: /8
Practice Bank
12 exercisesI don't want to ___ my friends by canceling plans at the last minute.
The software always lets down us when we need it most.
Choose the correct sentence:
Translate into English: 'Nunca te decepcionaré.'
Arrange these words into a sentence:
Match the beginnings with the correct endings:
The company couldn't deliver the product on time and thus ___ its customers.
My favourite team let down their fans by losing the final.
Which sentence is correct?
Translate into English: 'Ella no quiere decepcionar a sus padres.'
Arrange these words into a sentence:
Match the situations with the correct phrase:
Score: /12
FAQ (8)
No, you must say `let me down`. Pronouns always go in the middle of separable phrasal verbs like this one.
It is neutral to informal. In a very formal business report, you might use `fail to meet expectations`, but in an email to a colleague, `let down` is perfect.
The past tense is also `let down`. For example: 'Yesterday, he let me down.'
It is an idiom meaning to relax and enjoy yourself, usually after working hard.
Yes, `a let-down` (noun) refers to a disappointing situation or person. Example: 'The movie was a total let-down.'
Yes, but usually in a literal sense, like `let down the blinds` or `let down a rope`.
`Let off` means to not punish someone. `Let down` means to disappoint someone.
Yes! 'I was let down by my friends' is a very common and natural way to speak.
Scaffolded Practice
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Mastery Progress
Needs Practice
Improving
Strong
Mastered
In Other Languages
Decepcionar / Dejar plantado
English uses a phrasal verb with a mandatory object placement for pronouns.
Décevoir / Laisser tomber
French does not have separable phrasal verbs.
Enttäuschen / Im Stich lassen
German word order in subordinate clauses is different from English.
Gakkari saseru (がっかりさせる)
Japanese lacks the 'verb + preposition' structure entirely.
Khayaba amala (خيب أمل)
Arabic is more formal and doesn't use the 'down' metaphor.
Ràng... shīwàng (让...失望)
The word 'disappointed' in Chinese is an adjective/verb, not a particle like 'down'.
Learning Path
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