Negative Reported Commands: Not to... (Reported Speech)
not to for clear, natural reported negative commands; precision in reporting verbs matters!
Grammar Rule in 30 Seconds
To report a 'don't' command, use 'not to' + the verb after the person being told.
- Replace 'don't' with 'not to' (e.g., 'Don't go' becomes 'not to go').
- Always include the person being told (e.g., 'He told ME not to...').
- Use reporting verbs like 'told', 'asked', or 'warned' to set the tone.
Overview
Use this to say what people told you NOT to do.
This helps you talk clearly about the past.
Change 'Don't touch' to 'He told me not to touch.'
How This Grammar Works
Formation Pattern
I, he, she, they, the teacher, the manager, etc.
She advised...
told | Neutral, general command | He told them not to cross the street. |
asked | Polite request | I asked him not to make noise. |
advised | Suggestion, counsel | My doctor advised me not to eat late at night. |
ordered | Strong, authoritative command | The general ordered his troops not to retreat. |
instructed | Formal direction, teaching | The manual instructed users not to tamper with the device. |
reminded | Gentle prompt about something forgotten | She reminded her son not to forget his homework. |
begged | Desperate request, pleading | He begged her not to tell anyone his secret. |
He warned me not to touch the wet paint. (Here, me is the object.)
...not to run in the hallways.
...not to touch the exhibit. ...not to be late.
“Don’t smoke here!” (from a security guard)
The security guard told us not to smoke there.
“Please don’t worry.” (from a friend)
My friend asked me not to worry about it.
When To Use It
- Relaying Prohibitions and Rules: When someone has explicitly forbidden an action or laid down a rule. This is common in public announcements, official guidelines, or parental instructions.
The librarian reminded students not to talk loudly in the quiet study area.The city council ordered residents not to dispose of trash on the street.My parents always told me not to play with fire.
- Sharing Warnings and Cautions: When you need to communicate a caution given by someone else, often concerning potential danger, mistakes, or negative consequences. The reporting verb
warnedis particularly apt here. The mountain guide warned the hikers not to stray from the path.She cautioned him not to invest all his savings in one stock.My coach advised us not to underestimate our opponents.
- Conveying Advice or Suggestions: If someone offered counsel that involved avoiding a particular action. This softens the advice, presenting it as someone else's suggestion rather than your own direct command.
My mentor advised me not to take criticism personally.The financial expert suggested not to make impulsive purchases.He urged her not to give up on her dreams.
- Reporting Formal Instructions: In professional or academic settings, this structure is used to relay directions or guidelines from superiors, teachers, or official bodies.
The project manager instructed the team not to miss the deadline.Professor Davis told us not to use Wikipedia as a primary source for our essays.The HR department advised employees not to share company passwords.
- Softening a Command or Avoiding Direct Conflict: Attributing a negative instruction to someone else can sometimes be more diplomatic or less confrontational than stating it as your own. It allows you to deliver a negative message indirectly.
- Instead of
“You shouldn’t interrupt me,”you might say,My boss told me not to interrupt him during meetings.This frames the instruction as an external rule rather than a personal reprimand from you. - This is a subtle but powerful aspect of communication, reflecting the English preference for indirectness in certain social contexts.
Common Mistakes
- Using
don’tordidn’tinstead ofnot to: This is perhaps the most prevalent error. Learners often mistakenly try to retain the original negative auxiliary (don’t) or backshift it todidn’t. Remember,not tois the specific structure for negative infinitives in reported commands. - Incorrect:
She told him don’t go. - Incorrect:
He warned them didn’t touch. - Correct:
She told him not to go. - Correct:
He warned them not to touch. - Why it's wrong:
Don’tis an auxiliary verb used for direct negative imperatives.Didn’tis the past simple negative auxiliary for statements. Neither is grammatically compatible with the infinitive structure required by reporting verbs liketell,ask,warn, etc.
- Omitting the Object after the Reporting Verb: In almost all cases, a negative reported command requires an explicit object after the reporting verb to specify who received the command. Without it, the sentence is incomplete.
- Incorrect:
He advised not to worry.(Advised whom?) - Correct:
He advised me not to worry. - Why it's wrong: Verbs like
tell,ask,warn,advise,order,instruct,remind, andbegare transitive when used in this construction. They require a direct object to function correctly before thenot to-infinitive complement.
- Incorrect Verb Form after
not to: Another common error is failing to use the base form of the verb afternot to. Learners might use the gerund (-ingform), a past participle, or a conjugated form. - Incorrect:
They told her not to going out. - Incorrect:
She advised him not to ate the cake. - Correct:
They told her not to go out. - Correct:
She advised him not to eat the cake. - Why it's wrong: The structure demands an infinitive, and in English, infinitives are always formed with
to+ base form (or bare infinitive). Thenot toprefix simply negates this infinitive.
- Misusing
forbid: Whileforbidcan be a reporting verb, it carries its own negative meaning. Therefore, you do not combine it withnot to. - Incorrect:
The teacher forbade us not to use phones.(Double negative, grammatically incorrect) - Correct:
The teacher forbade us to use phones.(Meaning: The teacher commanded us not to use phones.) - Why it's wrong:
Forbidalready meansto order not to do something. Usingnot towithforbidcreates a logical and grammatical redundancy. The pattern forforbidisforbid + object + to + base verb.
- Tense Confusion (Backshifting): While the reporting verb (e.g.,
tell,ask) typically backshifts to the past tense, thenot to + base verbstructure itself does not change tense. Its form remains constant. - Incorrect:
He told me not to went there. - Correct:
He told me not to go there. - Why it's wrong: The infinitive is non-finite; it does not inflect for tense. Only the finite reporting verb carries the tense information.
Real Conversations
Negative reported commands are pervasive in everyday English, reflecting how we recount instructions, warnings, and advice given by others. Observing their use in various contexts illuminates their practical application.
- Workplace Email:
Subject: Project Update
Hi Team, Just a reminder from yesterday's meeting: Maria instructed us not to submit the draft without final approval from legal. Please ensure all documents are reviewed.
(Here, instructed us not to submit conveys a clear, formal guideline.)*
- Casual Text Message (among friends):
Friend 1: Are we still meeting at 7?
Friend 2: Yeah, but Mum told me not to be home too late tonight, so we should probably leave by 10.
(This illustrates a common parental instruction relayed informally, where told me not to be is natural.)*
- Social Media Post (sharing advice):
“My therapist advised me not to bottle up my feelings. It’s hard, but I’m trying to express myself more openly now.”
(A personal reflection incorporating advice from a professional, using advised me not to bottle up.)*
- Podcast Dialogue (recounting an experience):
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2. Structure of Negative Reported Commands
| Reporting Verb | Object (Person) | Negative Particle | Infinitive | Example |
|---|---|---|---|---|
|
told
|
me
|
not
|
to go
|
He told me not to go.
|
|
asked
|
him
|
not
|
to stay
|
She asked him not to stay.
|
|
warned
|
us
|
not
|
to touch
|
They warned us not to touch.
|
|
ordered
|
them
|
not
|
to move
|
The captain ordered them not to move.
|
|
begged
|
her
|
not
|
to cry
|
I begged her not to cry.
|
|
reminded
|
you
|
not
|
to forget
|
I reminded you not to forget.
|
Meanings
The structure used to relay a negative command, order, or request that someone else previously gave, without using their exact words.
Reporting a Direct Order
Used when someone in authority gives a firm instruction to stop or avoid an action.
“The police officer ordered the driver not to move.”
“My boss told me not to miss the deadline.”
Reporting a Polite Request
Used when someone asks nicely for an action to be avoided.
“She asked her roommate not to play loud music.”
“The librarian asked us not to talk so loudly.”
Reporting a Warning
Used when the instruction is for the person's safety or to avoid a negative consequence.
“The lifeguard warned the kids not to swim too far out.”
“My mom warned me not to walk home alone at night.”
Reference Table
| Form | Structure | Example |
|---|---|---|
|
Direct Command
|
Don't + Verb
|
"Don't shout!"
|
|
Reported Command
|
Told + Object + not to + Verb
|
He told me not to shout.
|
|
Direct Request
|
Please don't + Verb
|
"Please don't wait."
|
|
Reported Request
|
Asked + Object + not to + Verb
|
She asked me not to wait.
|
|
Direct Warning
|
Don't + Verb (Danger)
|
"Don't touch the wire!"
|
|
Reported Warning
|
Warned + Object + not to + Verb
|
He warned me not to touch the wire.
|
|
Formal Order
|
Order + Object + not to + Verb
|
The judge ordered him not to speak.
|
Formality Spectrum
The supervisor instructed the employees not to disclose the password. (Workplace security)
The boss told us not to share the password. (Workplace security)
My boss said not to give out the password. (Workplace security)
Boss-man said: don't leak the pass. (Workplace security)
Direct to Reported Command Flow
Reporting Verb
- Told Neutral
- Asked Polite
- Warned Safety
The Bridge
- Object The Listener
The Change
- Not to Replaces 'Don't'
Statement vs Command
Is it a negative command?
Does it start with 'Don't'?
Is it a request?
Common Reporting Verbs
Neutral
- • tell
- • remind
- • instruct
Strong
- • order
- • command
- • warn
Polite
- • ask
- • beg
- • implore
Examples by Level
He told me not to go.
She told him not to cry.
The teacher told us not to talk.
Mom told me not to eat the cake.
The doctor told her not to smoke.
I asked my friend not to be late.
The sign told us not to walk on the grass.
He warned me not to touch the oven.
The manager told the staff not to use the main elevator.
She begged him not to leave her alone.
The instructor warned us not to dive in the shallow end.
I told the kids not to make a mess in the living room.
The police ordered the protesters not to block the entrance.
The manual explicitly warns users not to open the battery compartment.
He advised me not to invest all my money in one stock.
The coach urged the players not to lose focus in the final minutes.
The judge admonished the witness not to speculate on the defendant's motives.
The treaty binds both nations not to develop nuclear weapons.
She cautioned her colleagues not to underestimate the competition.
The professor instructed the students not to cite Wikipedia in their final papers.
The board of directors petitioned the CEO not to proceed with the merger.
The document exhorts readers not to succumb to societal pressures.
He was strictly enjoined not to divulge the secret to anyone.
The guidelines implore visitors not to disturb the delicate ecosystem of the cave.
Easily Confused
Learners often try to use 'that' clauses for commands.
Using 'say' with an object or 'tell' without one.
Using 'not' with 'forbid'.
Common Mistakes
He told me don't go.
He told me not to go.
She said me not to eat.
She told me not to eat.
I told not to run.
I told them not to run.
He told me to not touch.
He told me not to touch.
The doctor asked me don't smoke.
The doctor asked me not to smoke.
He warned me to not go.
He warned me not to go.
She told to him not to wait.
She told him not to wait.
He suggested me not to go.
He suggested that I not go. / He told me not to go.
The sign said not to enter.
The sign told us not to enter.
He told me not to forgot.
He told me not to forget.
He forbade me not to go.
He forbade me to go.
Sentence Patterns
My ___ told me not to ___.
The ___ warned the ___ not to ___.
I would strongly advise you not to ___.
They were explicitly instructed not to ___.
Real World Usage
The safety officer told us not to enter the zone without a helmet.
I told you not to draw on the walls!
She told me not to post that video of her.
The doctor warned him not to exercise for two weeks.
The guide asked the group not to take photos inside the temple.
The officer ordered the suspect not to move his hands.
The 'Tell' Rule
No 'Don't'
Polite Reporting
Split Infinitives
Smart Tips
Cross out the 'Don't' in your mind and write 'Not To' immediately.
Check if the original sentence had 'Please'. If yes, use 'asked'. If no, use 'told'.
Imagine the person is a bridge. You can't get to the 'not to' without crossing the person first.
Avoid 'to not' (split infinitive). Keep 'not' and 'to' together as 'not to'.
Pronunciation
Stress on 'Not'
In negative reported commands, the word 'not' is usually stressed to emphasize the prohibition.
Reduction of 'to'
The word 'to' is often reduced to a schwa sound /tə/.
Falling Intonation
He told me not to ↘go.
Conveys a final, firm command.
Memorize It
Mnemonic
Remember 'NOT TO' — the 'NOT' always comes first, just like you say 'NO' before you do anything else.
Visual Association
Imagine a big red 'X' (Not) standing in front of a 'To' sign. The 'X' blocks the path to the action.
Rhyme
When 'Don't' is what they said, put 'Not To' in your head.
Story
A boss tells an employee, 'Don't be late!' The employee goes home and tells his wife, 'My boss told me not to be late.' The wife then tells the kids, 'Your dad was told not to be late.' The chain of 'not to' keeps everyone on time.
Word Web
Challenge
Look at the next 3 'Don't' signs you see (e.g., 'Don't walk', 'Don't smoke') and say them out loud as reported commands: 'The sign told me not to...'
Cultural Notes
In the UK, 'told' is very common, but 'asked' is used frequently even for firm commands to maintain a level of politeness.
Americans often use 'said not to' in informal speech, even though 'told me not to' is grammatically 'better'.
In global business English, using 'warned' or 'instructed' is preferred over 'told' to sound more precise and professional.
The use of the infinitive to report commands dates back to Old English, though the 'not to' word order became standardized in Middle English as the auxiliary 'do' (don't) developed.
Conversation Starters
What is something your parents always told you not to do when you were a kid?
Has a doctor ever warned you not to eat or drink something?
What did the flight attendant tell the passengers not to do during the flight?
If you were a boss, what would you tell your employees not to do?
Journal Prompts
Common Mistakes
Test Yourself
The teacher told the students ___ (not/talk) during the exam.
Find and fix the mistake:
He told me don't touch his phone.
The lifeguard ___ the children not to swim near the rocks.
She ___ me ___ late.
Match each item on the left with its pair on the right:
A: What did the boss say about the meeting? B: He told us ___.
A: He told me not to go. B: He told me to not go.
warned / not / the / us / to / fire / touch / man
Score: /8
Practice Exercises
8 exercisesThe teacher told the students ___ (not/talk) during the exam.
Find and fix the mistake:
He told me don't touch his phone.
The lifeguard ___ the children not to swim near the rocks.
She ___ me ___ late.
1. 'Don't smoke!' 2. 'Please don't wait.'
A: What did the boss say about the meeting? B: He told us ___.
A: He told me not to go. B: He told me to not go.
warned / not / the / us / to / fire / touch / man
Score: /8
Practice Bank
11 exercisesThe sign instructed drivers _____ their engines in the parking lot.
My manager asked me don't forget the report.
Choose the correct sentence:
Translate into English: 'Ella le aconsejó que no se rindiera.'
Arrange these words into a sentence:
Match the direct negative command with its correct reported form:
The police officer _____ anyone _____ the crime scene.
She reminded him not forgetting his keys.
Direct: "Please don't disturb me." Reported:
Translate into English: 'Nos prohibieron usar los móviles en la biblioteca.'
Arrange these words into a sentence:
Score: /11
FAQ (8)
Yes, but you must say 'said to me not to...' or just 'said not to...'. 'Told' is much more common and natural for commands.
No, it's a 'split infinitive'. It's very common in spoken English, but in formal writing or exams, 'not to' is the safer, more traditional choice.
If you don't want to mention the person, you can use 'said not to' or 'suggested not...ing'. For example: 'He said not to enter.'
Yes! Just like other reported speech, 'tomorrow' becomes 'the next day' and 'here' becomes 'there'.
Usually, 'mustn't' in direct speech is reported as 'not to'. For example: 'You mustn't touch it' becomes 'He told me not to touch it.'
Use the verb 'asked'. For example: 'Please don't go' becomes 'He asked me not to go.'
No, it is always the base form (infinitive). You don't add -ed, -s, or -ing.
You can use 'instructed', 'admonished', 'enjoined', or 'cautioned'.
Scaffolded Practice
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Mastery Progress
Needs Practice
Improving
Strong
Mastered
In Other Languages
Me dijo que no lo hiciera
English uses 'not to + verb', Spanish uses 'that + subjunctive'.
Il m'a dit de ne pas le faire
The word order 'ne pas' is almost identical to 'not to'.
Er sagte mir, es nicht zu tun
The verb moves to the end in German.
Suru-na to iwareta
Japanese keeps the negative command form inside a quote-like structure.
Amara-ni alla af'al
Arabic requires a specific particle and verb mood change.
Ta jiao wo bu yao zuo
Chinese does not have an infinitive 'to' marker.
Learning Path
Prerequisites
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