Using 想 (xiǎng) to Say 'Want To' or 'Miss'
想 (xiǎng) is a versatile modal verb for expressing gentle desires and the feeling of missing someone.
Grammar Rule in 30 Seconds
Use {想|xiǎng} to express desire ('want to') or emotion ('miss'), followed by a verb or a person.
- Use {想|xiǎng} + Verb to express a desire: {我想|wǒ xiǎng} {喝水|hē shuǐ} (I want to drink water).
- Use {想|xiǎng} + Person to express missing someone: {我想你|wǒ xiǎng nǐ} (I miss you).
- Use {不想|bù xiǎng} for the negative: {我不想|wǒ bù xiǎng} {去|qù} (I don't want to go).
Overview
Ever felt a gentle wish to do something, or missed someone far away? In Chinese, one super useful word covers both feelings: 想 (xiǎng). It's your go-to for expressing what you'd like to do, without being too demanding.
Think of it as the polite, dreamy cousin of other 'want' words. You might use it when you're thinking about grabbing a coffee, planning a future trip, or even just missing your dog while you're in class. It's less of a strong demand and more of a gentle thought or desire.
This makes it incredibly common in daily chats, texts with friends, and even when you're just thinking out loud. Mastering 想 (xiǎng) is a huge step in sounding more natural and nuanced in Mandarin. It's the difference between saying "I demand coffee!" and "You know, I could really go for a coffee right now." See?
Much smoother.
How This Grammar Works
想 (xiǎng) is a modal verb, also known as an auxiliary verb. This just means it's a 'helper' verb that adds extra meaning to the main verb that follows it. Its main job is to signal a desire, a thought, or a feeling of missing someone or something.想 (xiǎng) is pretty straightforward. It doesn't change its form based on who is speaking. Whether it's 我 (wǒ, I), 你 (nǐ, you), or 她 (tā, she), 想 (xiǎng) stays exactly the same.想 (xiǎng), it means 'want to do [verb]'. If a noun or pronoun follows it, the meaning magically shifts to 'to miss [noun/pronoun]'. It's all about context.Formation Pattern
想 (xiǎng). It's as easy as making a sandwich. Just follow these simple patterns.
我 (wǒ - I), 他 (tā - he), 老师 (lǎoshī - teacher).
想 (xiǎng).
吃 (chī - to eat), 看 (kàn - to watch), 学 (xué - to learn).
苹果 (píngguǒ - apple), 电影 (diànyǐng - movie), 中文 (Zhōngwén - Chinese).
想 (xiǎng) + Verb + (Object)
我 (Wǒ) 想 (xiǎng) 吃 (chī) 冰淇淋 (bīngqílín). (I want to eat ice cream.)
我 (wǒ), 你 (nǐ), etc.
想 (xiǎng).
妈妈 (māma - mom), 我的家 (wǒ de jiā - my home), 你 (nǐ - you).
想 (xiǎng) + Noun/Pronoun
他 (Tā) 想 (xiǎng) 他的女朋友 (tā de nǚpéngyou). (He misses his girlfriend.)
不 (bù) right before 想 (xiǎng):
我不想去 (Wǒ bù xiǎng qù). (I don't want to go.)
吗 (ma) particle at the end:
你想看电影吗? (Nǐ xiǎng kàn diànyǐng ma?). (Do you want to watch a movie?)
When To Use It
想 (xiǎng) all the time. It's perfect for casual, everyday situations.- Expressing Gentle Desires: When you're deciding what to eat for dinner with friends.
我们想吃火锅(Wǒmen xiǎng chī huǒguō - We'd like to eat hotpot). It’s much softer than shouting, "We demand hotpot!" - Making Polite Suggestions: When you're asking someone out.
你周末想不想看电影?(Nǐ zhōumò xiǎng bu xiǎng kàn diànyǐng? - Do you want to watch a movie this weekend?). It’s gentle and gives them an easy out. - Talking About Your Hopes and Plans: When you're chatting about the future.
我以后想去中国(Wǒ yǐhòu xiǎng qù Zhōngguó - I want to go to China in the future). It sounds like a dream or a plan, not a scheduled flight. - Expressing You Miss Someone: This is a big one. When you’re texting or calling family back home.
爸爸妈妈,我好想你们(Bàba māma, wǒ hǎo xiǎng nǐmen - Mom and Dad, I miss you so much). You can't use the other 'want' word,要(yào), for this at all. So don't even try, or you'll sound like you're trying to order your parents on a food delivery app. - Thinking About Something: When you need a moment. A teacher might ask a question, and you can say
让我想一想(Ràng wǒ xiǎng yī xiǎng - Let me think about it).
Common Mistakes
想 (xiǎng), a few common slip-ups can happen. Let's get ahead of them.- 1Mixing up
想(xiǎng) and要(yào): This is the #1 mistake. Remember,想(xiǎng) is a wish,要(yào) is a stronger want or need. If you're ordering a coffee,我要一杯咖啡(Wǒ yào yībēi kāfēi) is direct and clear.我想喝咖啡(Wǒ xiǎng hē kāfēi) is more like you're thinking about it, and it's a bit too soft for ordering. - 2Using
想(xiǎng) to say you want a physical object: If you want to say "I want an apple," you can't just say我想一个苹果(Wǒ xiǎng yīgè píngguǒ). That means "I miss an apple." Maybe you do, if it was a particularly good apple, but it's probably not what you mean. You need to add a verb:我想吃一个苹果(Wǒ xiǎng chī yīgè píngguǒ - I want to eat an apple). Or, more directly, use要(yào):我要一个苹果(Wǒ yào yīgè píngguǒ). - 3Forgetting
想(xiǎng) means 'to miss': Learners often forget this second meaning. If your friend says我想我的猫(Wǒ xiǎng wǒ de māo), they're not saying they want to be their cat. They're just saying they miss their furry friend. Don't worry, we've all been there.
Contrast With Similar Patterns
想 (xiǎng) in a lineup with its main rival, 要 (yào), to see the difference clearly.想(xiǎng) vs.要(yào) for 'wanting':想(xiǎng): Softer desire, a thought, a wish. It's polite and a little distant.我想学中文(Wǒ xiǎng xué Zhōngwén) - "I'm thinking about learning Chinese / I'd like to learn Chinese."要(yào): Stronger intention, a need, a plan. It's more definite and can be a bit forceful.我要学中文(Wǒ yào xué Zhōngwén) - "I am going to learn Chinese / I need to learn Chinese."
想(xiǎng) vs.喜欢(xǐhuān):想(xiǎng) expresses a desire to do something. It's about an action.我想打篮球(Wǒ xiǎng dǎ lánqiú - I want to play basketball).喜欢(xǐhuān) expresses a general liking or hobby. It's about a state of enjoyment.我喜欢打篮球(Wǒ xǐhuān dǎ lánqiú - I like playing basketball). You can like something without wanting to do it right now.
喜欢 (xǐhuān) watching horror movies (you enjoy them in general), but right now you 想 (xiǎng) watch a comedy because you've had a long day.Quick FAQ
Can I use 想 (xiǎng) to say "I think so"?
Yes! You can say 我想是吧 (Wǒ xiǎng shì ba) or just 我想是 (Wǒ xiǎng shì). It shows you're giving your opinion or making a guess.
How do I make the 'miss' feeling stronger?
You can add an adverb like 很 (hěn) or 好 (hǎo) before 想 (xiǎng). 我好想你 (Wǒ hǎo xiǎng nǐ) means "I miss you so much." It really amps up the emotion.
Is 想 (xiǎng) formal or informal?
It's pretty neutral and works in almost any situation, from texting your best friend to talking with your teacher. Because it's a bit softer than 要 (yào), it's often a safer and more polite choice if you're unsure.
What if I want to do something AND I miss someone?
You'd just use two separate phrases. There's no secret grammar combo for that, sadly. 我想家,也想吃妈妈做的菜 (Wǒ xiǎng jiā, yě xiǎng chī māma zuò de cài - I miss home, and I also want to eat my mom's cooking).
Formation of {想|xiǎng}
| Form | Structure | Example |
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Affirmative
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Subject + 想 + Verb
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{我想|wǒ xiǎng} {去|qù} {公园|gōngyuán}
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Negative
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Subject + 不想 + Verb
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{我不想|wǒ bù xiǎng} {去|qù} {公园|gōngyuán}
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Question (吗)
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Subject + 想 + Verb + 吗?
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{你想|nǐ xiǎng} {去|qù} {公园|gōngyuán}吗?
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Question (A-not-A)
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Subject + 想不想 + Verb?
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{你想不想|nǐ xiǎng bù xiǎng} {去|qù} {公园|gōngyuán}?
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Missing (Person)
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Subject + 想 + Person
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{我想|wǒ xiǎng} {你|nǐ}
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Negative (Missing)
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Subject + 不想 + Person
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{我不想|wǒ bù xiǎng} {你|nǐ} (rare)
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Meanings
The verb {想|xiǎng} functions as a modal verb meaning 'would like to' or 'want to' when followed by a verb, and as a transitive verb meaning 'to miss' when followed by a person.
Volitional
Expressing a desire or intention to perform an action.
“{我想|wǒ xiǎng} {睡觉|shuìjiào}.”
“{你想|nǐ xiǎng} {看电影|kàn diànyǐng}吗?”
Emotional
Expressing the feeling of missing someone or something.
“{我想|wǒ xiǎng} {妈妈|māma}.”
“{你不想|nǐ bù xiǎng} {家|jiā}吗?”
Reference Table
| Form | Structure | Example |
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Affirmative
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S + 想 + V
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{我想|wǒ xiǎng} {喝|hē} {咖啡|kāfēi}
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Negative
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S + 不想 + V
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{我不想|wǒ bù xiǎng} {喝|hē} {咖啡|kāfēi}
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Question
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S + 想 + V + 吗
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{你想|nǐ xiǎng} {喝|hē} {咖啡|kāfēi}吗}
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A-not-A
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S + 想不想 + V
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{你想不想|nǐ xiǎng bù xiǎng} {喝|hē} {咖啡|kāfēi}
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Missing
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S + 想 + O
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{我想|wǒ xiǎng} {妈妈|māma}
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Thinking
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S + 想 + O
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{我|wǒ} {想|xiǎng} {问题|wèntí}
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Formality Spectrum
{我想|wǒ xiǎng} {用餐|yòngcān}. (Dining)
{我想|wǒ xiǎng} {吃饭|chī fàn}. (Dining)
{我想|wǒ xiǎng} {吃|chī}. (Dining)
{想|xiǎng} {吃|chī}! (Dining)
The Two Faces of {想|xiǎng}
Desire
- {想|xiǎng} {做|zuò} want to do
Emotion
- {想|xiǎng} {人|rén} miss someone
Cognition
- {想|xiǎng} {问题|wèntí} think about a problem
Examples by Level
{我想|wǒ xiǎng} {喝水|hē shuǐ}.
I want to drink water.
{我想|wǒ xiǎng} {你|nǐ}.
I miss you.
{你|nǐ} {想|xiǎng} {去|qù}吗?
Do you want to go?
{我不想|wǒ bù xiǎng} {吃|chī}.
I don't want to eat.
{我想|wǒ xiǎng} {明天|míngtiān} {去|qù} {学校|xuéxiào}.
I want to go to school tomorrow.
{你想不想|nǐ xiǎng bù xiǎng} {看|kàn} {电影|diànyǐng}?
Do you want to watch a movie?
{他很想|tā hěn xiǎng} {家|jiā}.
He misses home very much.
{我们|wǒmen} {都|dōu} {想|xiǎng} {学|xué} {中文|zhōngwén}.
We all want to learn Chinese.
{我|wǒ} {一直|yīzhí} {想|xiǎng} {去|qù} {长城|chángchéng}.
I have always wanted to go to the Great Wall.
{你|nǐ} {想|xiǎng} {什么|shénme} {呢|ne}?
What are you thinking about?
{我|wǒ} {想|xiǎng} {他|tā} {可能|kěnéng} {不|bù} {来|lái}了.
I think he might not come.
{别|bié} {想|xiǎng} {太多|tài duō}了.
Don't think too much.
{我|wǒ} {本想|běn xiǎng} {帮忙|bāngmáng}, {但|dàn} {没|méi} {时间|shíjiān}.
I originally wanted to help, but I didn't have time.
{这|zhè} {让|ràng} {我|wǒ} {想|xiǎng} {起|qǐ} {了|le} {童年|tóngnián}.
This reminds me of my childhood.
{你|nǐ} {想|xiǎng} {清楚|qīngchǔ} {了|le}吗?
Have you thought it through?
{他|tā} {想|xiǎng} {要|yào} {一个|yīgè} {新|xīn} {工作|gōngzuò}.
He wants a new job.
{我|wǒ} {想|xiǎng} {这|zhè} {是|shì} {最好|zuìhǎo} {的|de} {办法|bànfǎ}.
I think this is the best method.
{他|tā} {想|xiǎng} {方|fāng} {设|shè} {法|fǎ} {解决|jiějué} {问题|wèntí}.
He is trying every possible way to solve the problem.
{我|wǒ} {想|xiǎng} {你|nǐ} {一定|yīdìng} {会|huì} {成功|chénggōng} {的|de}.
I believe you will definitely succeed.
{别|bié} {想|xiǎng} {当然|dāngrán} {了|le}.
Don't take it for granted.
{这|zhè} {种|zhǒng} {想法|xiǎngfǎ} {很|hěn} {有|yǒu} {见地|jiàndì}.
This way of thinking is very insightful.
{他|tā} {陷入|xiànrù} {了|le} {沉思|chénsī}, {想|xiǎng} {着|zhe} {未来|wèilái}.
He fell into deep thought, thinking about the future.
{我|wǒ} {想|xiǎng} {来|lái} {想|xiǎng} {去|qù}, {还是|háishì} {放弃|fàngqì} {了|le}.
I thought about it over and over, and finally gave up.
{这|zhè} {不|bù} {是|shì} {我|wǒ} {想|xiǎng} {要|yào} {的|de} {结果|jiéguǒ}.
This is not the result I wanted.
Easily Confused
Both mean 'want'.
Both mean 'miss'.
Both can mean 'think'.
Common Mistakes
{我没想|wǒ méi xiǎng} {去|qù}
{我不想|wǒ bù xiǎng} {去|qù}
{我想|wǒ xiǎng}
{我想|wǒ xiǎng} {做|zuò} {某事|mǒushì}
{我想|wǒ xiǎng} {买|mǎi} {苹果|píngguǒ} {吗|ma}
{我想|wǒ xiǎng} {买|mǎi} {苹果|píngguǒ}
{我|wǒ} {想|xiǎng} {去|qù} {吗|ma}
{你想|nǐ xiǎng} {去|qù} {吗|ma}
{我想|wǒ xiǎng} {了|le} {你|nǐ}
{我想|wǒ xiǎng} {你|nǐ}
{我想|wǒ xiǎng} {要|yào} {去|qù}
{我想|wǒ xiǎng} {去|qù}
{他|tā} {想|xiǎng} {很|hěn} {多|duō}
{他|tā} {想|xiǎng} {得|de} {很|hěn} {多|duō}
{我|wǒ} {想|xiǎng} {去|qù} {的|de} {地方|dìfāng}
{我|wǒ} {想|xiǎng} {去|qù} {的|de} {地方|dìfāng}
{他|tā} {想|xiǎng} {是|shì} {对|duì} {的|de}
{我|wǒ} {想|xiǎng} {他|tā} {是|shì} {对|duì} {的|de}
{想|xiǎng} {起来|qǐlái} {了|le}
{想|xiǎng} {起来|qǐlái} {了|le}
{想|xiǎng} {当然|dāngrán}
{想|xiǎng} {当然|dāngrán} {了|le}
{他|tā} {想|xiǎng} {方|fāng} {设|shè} {法|fǎ} {去|qù}
{他|tā} {想方设法|xiǎngfāngshèfǎ} {去|qù}
{我|wǒ} {想|xiǎng} {你|nǐ} {会|huì} {知道|zhīdào}
{我|wǒ} {想|xiǎng} {你|nǐ} {会|huì} {知道|zhīdào}
Sentence Patterns
{我想|wǒ xiǎng} ___.
{我不想|wǒ bù xiǎng} ___.
{我想|wǒ xiǎng} ___ {你|nǐ}.
{你想不想|nǐ xiǎng bù xiǎng} ___?
Real World Usage
{我想|wǒ xiǎng} {点|diǎn} {这个|zhège}.
{我想|wǒ xiǎng} {你|nǐ} {了|le}!
{我想|wǒ xiǎng} {申请|shēnqǐng} {这个|zhège} {工作|gōngzuò}.
{我想|wǒ xiǎng} {去|qù} {北京|běijīng}.
{我|wǒ} {想|xiǎng} {分享|fēnxiǎng} {这个|zhège}.
{我想|wǒ xiǎng} {问|wèn} {一个|yīgè} {问题|wèntí}.
Keep it simple
Negation
Politeness
Missing someone
Smart Tips
Use {想|xiǎng} instead of {要|yào}.
Always use {不|bù}.
Use A-not-A for variety.
Add {很|hěn} before {想|xiǎng}.
Pronunciation
Tone
{想|xiǎng} is a third tone. When followed by another third tone, it changes to a second tone.
Question
{你想|nǐ xiǎng} {去|qù}吗? ↑
Rising intonation at the end for questions.
Memorize It
Mnemonic
Think of the character {想|xiǎng} as a 'heart' (心) under a 'tree' (木/相). Your heart is thinking about someone or wanting something.
Visual Association
Imagine a person sitting under a tree, looking at the moon, feeling 'heart-wants' (missing) their family.
Rhyme
Want to do it? Use {想|xiǎng}. Miss your friend? Use {想|xiǎng}.
Story
Xiao Ming is sitting under a tree. He feels a desire in his heart. He wants to eat an apple, so he says '我想吃苹果'. Then he thinks of his mom, so he says '我想妈妈'.
Word Web
Challenge
For the next 5 minutes, write down 3 things you want to do today and 1 person you miss using {想|xiǎng}.
Cultural Notes
Using {想|xiǎng} is considered polite and indirect, which is highly valued in Chinese culture.
Similar usage, but often with more particles like {啊|a} or {喔|o} at the end.
Often mixed with Cantonese, but the grammar for {想|xiǎng} remains the same in Mandarin.
The character {想|xiǎng} combines {心|xīn} (heart) and {相|xiāng} (mutual/appearance). It originally meant to think about or reflect on something in one's heart.
Conversation Starters
{你|nǐ} {想|xiǎng} {去|qù} {哪里|nǎlǐ} {旅游|lǚyóu}?
{你|nǐ} {想|xiǎng} {学|xué} {什么|shénme}?
{你|nǐ} {想|xiǎng} {吃|chī} {什么|shénme} {中国|zhōngguó} {菜|cài}?
{你|nǐ} {想|xiǎng} {在|zài} {中国|zhōngguó} {工作|gōngzuò}吗?
Journal Prompts
Common Mistakes
Test Yourself
{我|wǒ} ___ {去|qù} {看|kàn} {电影|diànyǐng}.
Which is correct?
Find and fix the mistake:
{我|wǒ} {没|méi} {想|xiǎng} {喝|hē} {水|shuǐ}.
Arrange the words in the correct order:
All words placed
Click words above to build the sentence
I miss you.
Answer starts with: 我想你...
{我想|wǒ xiǎng} {妈妈|māma}.
{你|nǐ} ___ {去|qù} {吗|ma}?
{我想|wǒ xiǎng} {睡觉|shuìjiào}.
Score: /8
Practice Exercises
8 exercises{我|wǒ} ___ {去|qù} {看|kàn} {电影|diànyǐng}.
Which is correct?
Find and fix the mistake:
{我|wǒ} {没|méi} {想|xiǎng} {喝|hē} {水|shuǐ}.
{去|qù} / {想|xiǎng} / {我|wǒ} / {公园|gōngyuán}
I miss you.
{我想|wǒ xiǎng} {妈妈|māma}.
{你|nǐ} ___ {去|qù} {吗|ma}?
{我想|wǒ xiǎng} {睡觉|shuìjiào}.
Score: /8
Practice Bank
11 exercises他 ___ 回家,因为他很累。
我们很要我们的朋友。
电影 / 去 / 我 / 不想 / 看
Do you want to learn Chinese?
A: 你想家吗? (Nǐ xiǎng jiā ma? - Do you miss home?) B: ____
A: 你在做什么? B: 我在___晚上吃什么。
我不想你。
好 / 我 / 妈妈 / 想 / 我的
Choose the correct A-not-A question.
He doesn't want to see a doctor.
Score: /11
FAQ (8)
It's very versatile, but use {要|yào} for firm demands and {觉得|juéde} for opinions.
It depends on what follows. {想|xiǎng} + Verb = want; {想|xiǎng} + Person = miss.
It's neutral and very common in daily life.
No, always use {不想|bù xiǎng}.
Yes, it can mean 'to think' or 'to consider'.
Use {吗|ma} at the end or the A-not-A form {想不想|xiǎng bù xiǎng}.
No, it stays the same for all subjects.
You can say {我不想|wǒ bù xiǎng} {你|nǐ}, but it's a bit blunt.
Scaffolded Practice
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Mastery Progress
Needs Practice
Improving
Strong
Mastered
In Other Languages
Querer
No conjugation in Chinese.
Vouloir
One word in Chinese covers both 'want' and 'miss'.
Möchten
Chinese {想|xiǎng} also means 'to miss'.
~たい
Chinese uses a separate word, not a suffix.
أريد
Arabic has gendered forms.
想
None.
Learning Path
Prerequisites
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